Naughty but Nice

Kay131070

I am a regular user and for obvious reasons as you will see, cannot use my normal id.

I have been married for ten plus years now and have always been faithful, but I am a terrible flirt.

Over recent months dont ask me how it started as I couldnt give you that answer, but myself and this guy have been flirting and it got to the stage of me calling his bluff, he is of seek religion he is a little westernised, so hes not completely naive, he wears his turban and I find him sooo attractive, I am english and he has been with his girlfriend for a number of years.

Anyway to cut a long story short we ended up kissing lastnight, and it has made me feel vibrant again, sexy and attractive.

My marriage is fine, great husband, great dad, and I know what your thinking how could I do this to him and my family??

So how could I? I never go out to look for this (not an excuse), but what I do find is that when I work with someone closely and if there is an attraction there I cant help but flirt and it goes from there. But this is the first time it has happened since I have been married, and to top it all I dont feel guilty in the slightest.

ps We would never meet up or see eachother out of work, so it would never lead to anything else.

I just wondered what other peoples views would be on this.

nats3006

hi maybe you should question weather you really want to be with your husband because from the sounds of things you dont!! flirting is fine but when you get down to more i think its a bit more serious. is this guy worth losing your family and husband for?

Anniek1969

I think you could be playing with fire so you better watchout that you don't get burnt. If it made you feel so good who's to say you won't want to feel good again and again and before you know what's happened it's went too far.

It also depends on what you call cheating, IMO if my husband was flirting with another woman I would be furious and kissing would to me be full on cheating. How would you feel if it was your husband?

hobo28

Personally I think you might have self esteem issues. Flirting is your way of finding out if your still attractive to the opposite sex. Put on top of that the fact that you've been married for a long time and possibly stuck in a rut / in the rat race. Flirting is also your little bit of excitement.

As for feeling guilty, I bet you would feel bad if your husband ever found out and the repercussions really hit home. For now I think flirting is ok but anything more is really playing with fire.

ariba10

How woul you feel if the boot was on the other foot?

What if you found out the your O H was doing that?

JWM

'We would never meet up or see each other out of work, so it would never lead to anything else'

Don't kid yourself - you've snogged - do you really think thats the end?

You're playing with fire - are you really prepared to lose your family? Because I'm damm sure your husband won't be as happy about this if he found out.

Think hard about what (and who) you want, it might be a laugh now, but I'm sure you'd feel diffeently if your partner found out.

Obvioulsy everyone posting here has always been 100% well behaved of couse! :whistle:

Kay131070

I get what your all saying if the shoe was on the other foot, if it was my OH doing it, as far as I am concerned if I found out he'd been kissing someone he might as well sleep with them! How hypercrytical (sp) is that!

I know its wrong, and please I am not justifying it though it does sound like it, but you know when you first meet someone and you get the butterflies, your eyes sparkle, you behave like a kid again, its those feelings that I like, can anyone relate to that? I know its a stupid question as nobody is going to admit what I mean or doing.

The guy also feels slightly guilty as he and his girlfriend are holding out until they are married, but he too is enjoying this new feeling that he hasnt felt before.

suzukibabe

If they are holding out, and he's feeling guilty cos he likes this new feeling, could it be fair to say that what he can't get from his girlfriend, he could from you? Could he be using you as much as you're using him?

Forget it, don't do it!!

concentrate on your marriage, put these feelings back into your relationship.
I know it's exciting and naughty and that's what makes you want more, but it's a dangerous road to go down, and once you go down it, you can't go back.

Be naughty but nice with your husband, get someone to have the kids for a night and rediscover what gave you that feeling wih your husband.

jordan_gibson

Sorry I do not have any time for you! I have just found out that my partner of 6 years slept with someone and it has now split us up and left our little lad caught in the middle!

I could write so much right now because I am soooo angry but at least have the balls to tell him BEFORE you start cheating with someone else behind his back! As someone has already posted..how would you feel if it happened to you - not great I imagine!

Don't have any advice for you I'm afraid. If you need to ask what is right/wrong or just want advice and can't use the grey stuff between your ears then sorry .....but you are pathetic!

xzibit

You'll get burnt in the end..... think you should own up, and take the repercussions. If you don't feel guilty, then you may do when your family is split apart because of your behaviour, and I expect this guy will just pretend it never happened, and go back to his g/f.

Sarahjovi

I think I must be the luckiest woman alive... I have been married for 11 years and I still get butterflies and look forward to seeing my husband when he comes home from work! We still flirt with each other and I sure my eyes sparkle whenever I think of him!

Perhaps you need to think about what would happen if he found out! Would you be devistated if your marriage broke up?

Sarah