Naughty but Nice

Anniek1969

It really is the worst feeling ever when someone you love and trust betrays you. I know that after being with someone for so long it does get stagnant but you have to work at it. I've been with my DH for 22 years and I love him more now than I ever have, he made a couple of silly mistakes at the begining of our relationship which I forgave him for and we've moved on and made it work.

If he cheated now after all this time and knowing how good our relationship is I couldn't forgive him and I don't think he'd forgive me. We've got too much to risk losing for a silly fling. Like someone else said you should try and get the sparkle back into your marriage and enjoy what you have.

Raspberry_Ripples

Kay131070 wrote:

....but he too is enjoying this new feeling that he hasnt felt before.

What, your boobs?

(sorry - but you were asking for that!)

Anyway, the only thing I'd say is that you don't know how your friend feels. Does he think it's something that won't go any further?

Could be anguish all round, I fear....

Angel777

Hi i am very anti cheating and what constitutes 'cheating' differs from one person to the next.

Ten years is a long time so i can understand in a way what you mean when you say the sensation of butterflies etc has gone.

However, why dont you spice up your own relationship, talk about fantasies you have and do them! Take a trip down to Ann Summers?
A relationship built up over all this time has to have something special and maybe you have become stuck in a rut.

I too agree that if you really think it will stop at that then you are kidding yourself unless you make an effort to stop it.

I also think it takes 2 to tango and people could end up getting hurt.

The most special type of love making i think you can do is doing it with the person who you love but its really up to you at the end of the day.

good luck.

Woby_Tide

Kay131070 wrote:

I am a regular user and for obvious reasons as you will see, cannot use my normal id.

Pleas tell me you havn't gone and picked a pseudonym that is your first name and date of birth?

Kay131070

Woby_Tide wrote:

Pleas tell me you havn't gone and picked a pseudonym that is your first name and date of birth?

Hi, No I havent.

seven-day-weekend

Do not see this man in any capacity again. What you are doing is wrong, and both you and he are being unfaithful to your partners. In the eyes of most religions this is adultery, even though you have not slept together.

If you play with fire you eventually get burnt.

How about finding ways to get the fire in your marriage?

BTW, in case you are saying 'it just happened', nothing just happens, we have to allow it to happen.

Don't allow it.

joanne0620

Do you not think that you should be trying to bring some of these feelings and sparkle back into your marriage, and giving your poor husband some attention rather than this other bloke?

Sorry to be harsh but no good ever comes from unfaithfullness (sp?), in my view kissing someone else is as bad as sleeping with them, there are no "levels" of unfaithfullness in my book, it's all wrong.

seven-day-weekend

Kay131070 wrote:

I I cant help but flirt .

Yes you can. You have free will.

grade15

I think a while back..an anomious women had a full on affair with this guy(no relationship just s*x ...with her husband knowing and what she said..was he was fine about it..but I didn't believe her..

well..sometimes flirting does start something..maybe that is the same way how u met ur husband.?
stage 1 flirting, 2 meeting up, 3 kissing, 4 dating, 4,etc,etc,etc..so i think ur at stage 2 or 3..
doesn't matter what happens..cos in life..ppl are all different..ppl don't ALL have to take the norm..
I think if u read those girl mags..there are all kinds of these relationship..so really no biggy..:dance:

Kay131070

suzukibabe wrote:

If they are holding out, and he's feeling guilty cos he likes this new feeling, could it be fair to say that what he can't get from his girlfriend, he could from you? Could he be using you as much as you're using him?

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No, I believe he wouldnt do anything, as he and his girlfriend are both virgins, for him I think its exciting and new, he is a complete virgin and hasnt done anything sexual what so ever, and with us both being very flirty and me being english and from different backgrounds, Oh I dont know, I know it wont go further, and I will make an extra effort with my husband, suppose I am stuck in a rut, when I go to bed its too sleep as I am tired, when me and my husband met for the first five odd years we were always quite sexual, but after having children, house, job, chores, it all goes out the window, then someone catches your eye and those exciting feelings come rushing back. Yes I am a !!!!, especially if you knew my husband he is what the girls wish they had, and yes he would be devastated if he ever found out.

Yes, I would be guilty if the family broke up, over something like this, I would loose everything.

Will look at my husband tonight when he comes home, and try harder to be what I should be, but does anyone understand where I am coming from?