Menopause Matters

Bronnie

Hi ladies!

I have used oil to cleanse for a year or two now. Got DD on to it as well, although she was very resistant to the idea at first, being a bit of a product junky, but she was spending a fortune on cleansers as she wears a fairly enduring foundation for work.

She is a convert now too as she now longer gets the tightness or dry flaky patches she did before plus the savings in ££. We use Sainsbury's almond oil from the cooking section, not as economical as a plain veg oil, but still good value at £1.69 for 250ml, which lasts the two of us for absolutely ages! Cleansing with oil allows your skin to balance itself again, instead of being "stripped" by commercial cleansers.

Loving the meno essential oils suggestions. Thought about this myself when the thread started, but then forgot . Any suggestions as to where to buy oils? DD has been buying Body Shop oils for the oil burner (the type with a tealight in the bottom and a few drops of oil in water above ), but i think they're a real con, there's no indication of the % of essential oil to carrier oil and they hardly fragrance the room at all.

joyfull, sympathise with your dilemma with your mum. My dad's in nursing home too. He's 81 and his dementia is fairly advanced. Fortunately he's calm and comfortable and fairly contented but his memory loss is severe, which in one way makes conversation very difficult. Looking at the funny side (if you can....and you have to!) it took me a while before I realised that it was ok to tell him the same news over and over again, if I ran out of things to say!

If the home is good as you say, it's worth mentioning the losses. There may just be one person on the staff who's letting the team down, you evidence may help the home focus in on that person and deal accordingly. As wmf said, marking the items clearly could be helpful and/or a deterrent.

Who was it who mentioned a magnifying glass? Hate to admit it, but I need one and am going to buy one! The writing especially on medication and beauty product leaflets is absurdly small, even with glasses, by the the window!!

dogcat_2

Hi everyone,

I've had a nagging headache all day...woke up with it this morning..took a couple to tabs...It went away for a while then came back...Im reluctant to take any more tabs for it. I decided to have 'a late one tonight' so that I will def. sleep well and this headache WILL NOT keep me awake!:mad:

Its been lovely and sunny today, so did some gardening...although I think it may be the calm before the storm...its meant to be awful tonight...:eek:

Well off to bed for me...nite...'til tommorow...:)

shykins

i did much the same as u dogcat and my first flush was dlelayed til5 so sort of worked. hope u had a good nights sleep

joyful do hope u sort out the problenms with your mum. just a thougt is she 'losing' things herself? my friend also has a mum in a home and she has to restock her all the time cos she just keeps putting things down and doesnt know where. definitely raise it with the matron tho

bronnie sorry to hear u also have a parent in a home, this demntia is a nasty thing for all concerned. both u and joyfull have my respect

wmf thanks fo much for th list of oils i was going to re check my book but guess what> yeah forgot again

the body shop are quite pricey for oils so u need to find a good supplier of pure oils and make sure u ALWAYS Mix them with a carrier oil as pure ones can damage the skin . in baths are good btw. shall get my box out later IF i remember

x

joyfull

Morning shykins an all,

Batten down the hatches AGAIN :eek:. Awake for hours as usual. Had a couple of days of obsessive jangly thoughts together with flushing and insomnia & it feels like a war zone. :mad: It will pass.

Thanks for comments re. Mum. I talked to Matron who also thinks Mum losing things is a possibility, but since she's chair bound 24/7 there are very few places things can be lost. Matron is v concerned & is taking an inventory & will check supplies daily. Mum will be angry that I told Matron, so I'll now have to deal with that.

Chatbug - your hair problems sound distressing. Anyone would find that hard to deal with. Remember true beauty comes from the heart. I see countless physically 'beautiful' people who look hard and self centered, most unattractive.

Brushing my hair just now & it was particularly knotty. Found a gob of toothpaste smeared in it. Oh the joys of fading eyesight & general muddle headedness. I once went shopping in my local (posh) town only to come out of the bank, look down and realised my trousers were inside out. OMG, I wanted to die.: :o Found a classy ladies dress shop with middle aged and very kind assistants who allowed me to sort myself out.

Got to go out & collect avon catalogues in the rain, again. Do hope all the headaches & general yuggy aches aren't too awful for you all.

Hello to all lurkers. Please feel free to post. XXX

Rowan9

aawww Joyfull - I did laugh when I read that - sorry! How kind of the ladies in the shop to look after you though!!
Well, I felt like 106 yesterday when I tried unsuccessfully to open a supermarket plastic bag. The assistant had to do it. Then i had to pack and find my money. I only had a few things too! How flustered I was. earlier i had been for a bigger grocery shop and it went well. I got loads of fish and had fab cajun salmon last night. A$da has 2 packs for £5 and they were lovely. i also got 3 tins of red salmon at better than half price, some smoked mackerel and an individual pack of a lightly smoked salmon fillet with butter, which you put in the microwave. It was £1. oooh and crab sticks - they are soooo nutritious (NOT). I ate 7 while still standing up putting the shopping away;).
Been up since 5am as took DH to work. Going off to have another coffee and slick self with my new friend, the N Yard jasmine oil.
Have a good day folks
W

joyfull

wmf - I love your posts! Goodness you're on a major fish fest. Good on you. My BF loves jasmine oil, but if I wear it he gets all frisky, and frisky, these days, I am most definitely NOT. I always have trouble with those placcy bags in the supermarket. I hate licking my fingers to open them, but if I don't the assistant then licks hers - Yuck.

Rowan9

thanks Joyfull - that has made me smile :cheesy:

choille

Hello - all out there in gusty Britian.

Joyful - my Mother has late stage dementia, but even a few years back she did think people (including myself) were stealing from her. It is wise that you have told the matron & it will be good that they are aware & are watching out. It is awful illness & yes, some low lifes do take advantage of some confused, vulnerable people.

Didn't have a great sleep last night with the weather.

A note on oils. It is wise to buy pure essential oils. I had some scented candles going in the caravan one day & the elderly cat went a bit funny - like he'd had a fit. It was slight & passed really quick but was very worrying. He is fine but I read that cheap scented burners & candles, air freshners can bring on epilleptic [sp?] fits in cats. So be warned, although it may not have been the candles, I'm not taking that risk, plus if it can do that to a cat, it aint good for humans either.

I have overlapped on the Vit A - so I'm going to stop my multi vit as I have most things covered in the soy supplement thing. I don't have chondrin in my glucosimine - will get some next time & give that a try as I'd try anything to get rid of the aches & pains.

An old friend who is no longer with us was a trained homeopath & nurse - I miss her - also she was such a laugh. But she used to say that with most things, supplements, homeopathic remedies etc - you should have a holiday from them every few months for a month as that way your body feels the benefit, doesn't get used to them.

poet123

I am off today with a running cold and earache, my first day off sick in 2 years.:(. Part of the problem is that I am so annoyed with OH (note not DH today!) I want your honest opinions on this and whether I am over reacting.:)

OH is overweight, (not massively so) and now over 50, and our health conscious kids are nagging him to do some exercise and adjust his diet. And I mean nagging. Heart disease runs in HIS family.

That is the background. Here is the somewhat long winded tale.

So, our eldest DS went for lunch at his Grans....and they discuss the eating habits of her son, and when he got home eldest DS said she agrees he needs to have a good think about what he eats, I said well no one can force someone to make changes, they have to want to do it, DS agreed, but said I should nag him as well....then he said..... I was defending you to Nan when she asked did you cook him unhealthy meals.......cue me going off on one.

To me the implication is clear, I am to blame for his weight, and worse, if he has a heart attack it will be down to me.

I was livid,:mad: when OH came home I told him and he went very quiet, both he and DS( who is now furiously back peddling with the detail) say I am over reacting and that she didnt mean it they way I have taken it.

How else could she have meant it? so, DS is not speaking to me in case I get OH to speak to his mother about it and drop him in it, OH is saying I am going OTT, and I am..........simmering.

I said, if it wasnt meant that way would it be ok for me to say to her, well your OH died of heart disease and you have it too, do you think your method of cooking was a contributory factor? maybe you should look closer to home. There was silence at that point.;)

Bear in mind he doesnt have an illness, and is not hugely overweight, plays Golf and table tennis weekly.

So, ladies sorry to bore you and maybe I am over reacting but what really got to me is that OH (in his words) refuses to rush to judgement until he has the facts....and as DS wont let him mention the issue I am not quite sure how those facts will emerge, in the meantime we are not speaking, or rather, I am not speaking to him.

If he had said how can it be your fault you dont force feed me, or something along those lines fair enough, but no, tis me who is reading the remark wrongly.:(

I get on well with his mother (been married almost 30 years) but she can be very tactless and does like to say what she thinks.

Dammit, whilst typing the phone rang and it was OH doing his solicitous husband bit from work....how are you? etc etc, so I had to speak to him.

Apparently he has had pasta salad adn a muller light for lunch!!! must be because I shouted at him last night that if he dropped dead and I got the blame I would kill him.:T

So, what do you think? if you think I am over reacting please tell me I can take it.

rubytuesday

Poet I think you are overreacting.It probably just sounds wrong. She is just wondering what you cook not blaming you for your OH being overweight I'm sure.