Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

seasalt_2

()s to everyone who's feeling down, including dollydaydream. Worries/feelings don't necessarily go away just because someone else's are worse. You are allowed a hug too.
Hippeechiq, has your daughter found her therapist helpful up until now? Have to confess I don't know what a dialectical behaviour therapist is, but it seems to me that what sort of person the therapist is, and the relationship your daughter has with her, matters more than what kind (school?) of therapy he or she practises - although it probably helps if they have some sort of experience/expertise/empathy with the kind of problems faced by your daughter. Fortunately, she has a mum who is on her side and I hope too that the side effects of her meds decrease. No sleep makes everything seem worse. ()s to you both.
Frugal, I am pleased that your dad looks likely to get a rehab bed and very sorry to hear about your aunt, even if you didn't know her very well, it is a loss.
Jediteacher, please don't feel got at. Good to hear things from the teacher's point of view although, I suspect as with eg nursing/healthvisitors etc, there will always be a mixture of experiences and probably frustration on both sides at times. Tbh I heaved a sigh of relief once DD1 left school (they probably did too) and then found myself having to do it all over again with DS and DD2! Glad your friend responded so warmly to your news.
I'm sorry if I have missed loads of things important to other people - keep being interrupted and then come back and can't remember who said what. Probably gone on for long enough anyway!
ETA Shegar, I missed your post. Life changing for both of you in ways I can't begin to imagine - humbled by your strength and acceptance.

Fruball

shegar wrote: »

Thanks for that, Yea it was a big stroke its done quite a lot of damage, he was on life support for 7 weeks , he has no use in left arm and only very slight in left leg, he has a leg caliper, so its usually wheelchair, when he first had the stroke they had to take large part of the skull away to release the pressure on the brain and also to get to the brain to operate, he was left with a large concave on his head.....

So last year he went back into hospital to have a cranioplasty op which is having a titanium plate fitted......since the stroke he as had severe epilepsy, after 17 months its still trial and error getting the right meds to work and fits are definately not nice.....he also lost 75 per cent of his eye sight due to the haemmorage, so he went back in hospital to have an op on both eyes which thankfully regained some of his sight........:D.

He spent 11 months in 3 different hospitals before coming home, he also has had intensive physio , he also has short term memory problems, he cant use phones because of not knowing numbers, but at least he can read the daily newspaper....he cant count money any longer etc etc......

But like we say at least he is alive , he use to work self employed 12 hours a day as a builder, didnt smoke or drink and very fit without high blood pressure.........he also owned a superbike as did love biking ...........

Its certaintly life changing , for both of us, but we get along okay, theres people worse off than us, so I make sure he has food, clean, warm and comfortable home because without that you havent got much.......They say you make progress after a stroke up to 2 years.....he is now 26 months pre stroke.......but never mind we make the most of each day ......

awwwwShegar - life must be very tough... From your posts you are obviously coping really well - hugs to you and I hope you are getting the support that you need - keep going hun xxxxx

lora

shegar, I am so terribly sorry for the two of you. lora

bluebag

dollydaydream07 wrote: »

haven't been and got my bits that we desperately need feel far too fed up - fed up of the weather, fed up of having no money, just fed up in general and have zero energy
really annoyed with myself for not going and getting the stuff we need as it now means i will have to get them from Asda when we go and pick DH up from work so will no doubt cost me more and i'll probably end up buying more than we need even though we can't afford it
i know what we are having for tea but i just cba to make it

have given in and put the heating on now that DD is home from school but it is on low and we are wearing jumpers

enough moaning from me, it seems that's all i come on here to do at the minute, there are people who are in worse situations than us so i should just shut up lol
(((hugs))) to anyone that needs one x

Yeah I have days like that too. Complete AGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH days.
Get a good scream going on, doesn't do much, but everyone gives you some space for a bit.:)

HariboJunkie

jediteacher wrote: »

I am trying very hard to ignore the negative comments yet again about school and teachers. Not succeeding. If you do not like the amount the school is asking then people should do something about it. Every year we hold a general meeting for parents and this year the grand total of 1 parent turned up! This is an opportunity to speak out and say what you think but most parents don't bother. There is also the school PTA who you can pass your comments to and they should hold meeting monthly which you as parents are entitled to go to and again have your say. If you cannot attend meetings then you can send a letter in or pass your comments on before the meeting to a member of the PTA.

I know what it is like as a parent too when money is tight and I just say no to certain things. This last week as a parent I have been asked to make cakes, donate 50p for a colouring competition, £1 for dress up as a movie character day and £5 for a workshop. Now as parents we did not agree with the £5 workshop (long story) so as parents we approached and made our comments in a polite way and this has now been dropped. The difficulty is that despite what people think schools are not rolling in money and if we want to enrich the children's education then we have to at times pay for it. This year my school is going into the new financial year with a deficit of £30,000 because there is just not enough money to go round. It is a fine balance but infortnately in order to get certain things in school we have to fund raise - computers, library books etc.

.

Well said. :T

As a parent in a county where our council are trying to (and will probably succeed in) closing one third of primary schools we are just grateful that our school is not on the list. I fully expect to pay extra for events which benefit my children and enrich their school experience. As you say Jedi teacher, any issues prents have can be dealt with by the PTA or School Board but most parents never complain. Schools (and the head teachers who control budgets) know more than most the financial constraints we are all in.

Was going to have a slight whine tonight about price hikes and people not paying OH's company their bills but am instead counting my blessings that I am cozy in front of the fire with my family safe and warm in bed and my hubby off working in full health.
Thank you Shegar for reminding me to count my blessings. :A

So on a positive note I have nearly finished my Christmas shopping (saving over £200 using deals and voucher codes), have knitted a couple of hats for prezzies tonight and am well prepared for the predicted minus 10 temperatures.

sammy_kaye18

Morning all

Boy what a rubbish night, Heating decided it was going to not work at 1am this morning so have been up with Holly Bump half the night making her warm bottles etc and re wrapping her to make sure she's warm enough - will be straight on to council today. Shes been asleep in a fleece banket that zips and poppers together to make a sleeping bag with a few blankets on her so she seemed warm enough just grumpy. Luckily we have a small fan heater - although it is noisy but Im sure we'd cope if it meant we were warm. Ben was happily snuggled in bed in his PJ's with his hot water bottle, and fleece blanket over his duvet. Our radiator has been dodgy heating when it wanted to but seemed to be working fine the last week and now theres no heating at all! :eek: Holly now snoring away in her bouncy chair in living room where fan heater is on. Bless her little cotton socks.

By gum I didn't half feel the cold this morning though! yikes!

Am getting new net curtains today and properly fitting curtains - mine just about were long enough to touch the window sill and had a big gap round the side of them where they stuck out too far. So today am picking up new curtains that are long enough! new nets which will look better than the blinds we have, and should help with a bit more heat and a new rug for the living room floor. Just need to figure out how to block the hole in my wall now - its a vent but kids keep knocking the outside vent off so effectively leaving a big hole in my wall. Wondering if I could stick a flap of cardboard over it so it blocks it but air can still go through.

Sorry to all those going through hard times / depression / bad news

hugs!

Annie56

:eek:Good morning from a grey and chilly Staffordshire and a very shocked Annie56.and apologies for not bieng around for a week or so...

Firstly hello to everyone new and hugs and warmest thoughts to all finding it difficult at the moment,,

Secondly as a midwife up till 3 months ago I should know better I know and at my age too but well it just kinda happened, when you have been married to someone that wasnt able to have children you get used to accepting that its never going to happen, then you divorce, meet hunky gardener and well life settles down and your sitting pn the couch chomping on the jaffa cakes and then realise:eek:omg my last period is late you soon stop chomping those jaffa cakes pronto quicko.Fast and furous dash to the all night chemist and buy 2 pregnancy tests, first result positive, so after Ive picked myself up of the bathroom floor I do another one eek my god oh no sheez its POSITIVE again,,,,Im pregnant...how do you feel after all those years of accepting that youd never become a mother that its happened, shocked was the word and then life takes on a whole new meaning when you leave that bathroom and wonder how someone is going to take the news.

So Mr Montys sitting chomping his porridge and toast and I say what do you want for Christmas this bieng our first one together?
He says dont know lifes pretty much perfect at the moment why are you asking so, I said ahem well cough splutter red faced christ how do you drop this bombshell? Im pregnant and yes Ive done the test twice, ever seen a man shocked, I did, the got a big hug and lots of kisses and yoops of wow oh brill fantastic and sat down with a cuppa tea and told to take it easy..men....

So ladies the doc confirmed it, gave me a lecture on the older woman and pregnacy then asked me what my job was I said a midwife for 20 odd yearsand now shop assistant at garage she said ok..and there we go one expecting a baby Annie56 and a Monty with a big grin:D:D:D and my poor dad crying at going to be a grandad and Montys little daughter shouting sister sister , so OS folk my lifes pretty wonderful right now, and the money tightening has to be even more focussed now.

I maybe shouldnt have said anything so early on, Im aware what can go wrong and with my age even more so but just had to share my good news.

Montys thrilled and says hello...think he wil be one of those hands on dads, wont fill my posts with baby talk just wanted share my wonderful news .

So Gailey and Jediteacher can I join the baby club and any tips on that most happily received...

Love to you all xxx

Annie56 and still skint and still working hard

ceridwen

WELL...WELL...WELL....Annie...<splutter/cough>...ummm....now what were those comments I made previously about "You certainly dont waste much time" "Monty certainly doesnt waste much time".....I rest my case....:rotfl::rotfl:

So - your "Which fork in the road to take" decision is now made then?:)

....cue "...and they all lived happily ever after...."

Congratulations. So - I thought that was the life choice you would make - rather than taking the midwifery job and there ya' go - instant family of 4. Good job you like hard work. List-making coming up:
- joint home
- wedding maybe???;):)
- finalise divorce from the Late Unlamented:rotfl:

I think you need a strong cup of coffee and a sit-down right now...there's about to be RATHER a lot on your plate:D

jamanda

Many congratulations. Its amazing how your life has turned around so quickly. It is lovely to see.

jediteacher

Annie56 wrote: »

So Gailey and Jediteacher can I join the baby club and any tips on that most happily received...

Love to you all xxx

Annie56 and still skint and still working hard

Great news Annie :T Very, very happy for you. It couldn't happen to a more deserving person. I really, really hope all goes well for you. You were really supportive when I had to leave the thread for a while and gave me some lovely words of encouragement. This news has really made my day. :beer: