Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

bluebag

greent wrote: »

Bedding? Doesn't everyone? (I know they don't - but I couldn't imagine not doing bedding :rotfl:) That's nothing - I iron tea towels, baby vests and babygros, muslins, bibs....:o the list is endless....

Gosh I really hate ironing, I've tried all ways to improve the experience from music to watching the telly, thinking calm thoughts and you name it, but no, I really can't ever like it. Kudos to you though coz it looks and smells great.

My best friend is a ironoholic, she finds it mindless and soothing. I just shudder!

Gigervamp

greent wrote: »

Bedding? Doesn't everyone? (I know they don't - but I couldn't imagine not doing bedding :rotfl:) That's nothing - I iron tea towels, baby vests and babygros, muslins, bibs....:o the list is endless....

I only iron the pillow cases. Quilt covers take ages to iron and drag on the floor whilst ironing, picking up bits and animal hairs despite me sweeping up beforehand.

bluebag

Gigervamp wrote: »

I only iron the pillow cases. Quilt covers take ages to iron and drag on the floor whilst ironing, picking up bits and animal hairs despite me sweeping up beforehand.

What's this 'sweeping' of which you speak?

ChocClare

bluebag wrote: »

What's this 'sweeping' of which you speak?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Bluebag, you are a woman after my own heart...

Fruball

bluebag wrote: »

What's this 'sweeping' of which you speak?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Couldn't have put it better myself!

sammy_kaye18

Morning all.

The air was cleared well and truely yesterday (thats why there was a severe lack of sammy posting) ....oh and 5 pages! I haven't had my morning coffee yet so promise to re read and comment later.

Basically I went about my morning routine, got both kids ready, he got up as we were about to leave and said nothing to me so I packed them up and left.

My school run takes half hour max possibly.

When I got home I put holly in her bouncing chair and Owen tried to grab me (not aggressively I should add) but I refused as I really was at the point I hated him yesterday.

He tried again and grabbed my jeans adn I told him to let me go. so instead he stood up and came over and cuddled me/told me he loved me and then burst into tears. (this is REALLY unlike Owen! and tbh it :eek: me and I had no idea what to do. I have only seen him cry 2 times - for each of the kids births.

So we sat and really had a heart to heart yesterday and he told me he didn't want to be without me and that he'd miss me if I went - he said he missed me even doing the school run and he was worried I wouldn't come back, I told him it was only because I had the kids and he said no he would miss me.
He said he knew he had upset me and it wasn't fair that he takes things out on me when he's having a hard time but he knows he does it because hes close to him and I said no its because you know I'm not confrontational so he wont get an argument back and that's dominating. I told him he needs to talk about things - his family isn't the type to do that. His sister has been in an unhappy marriage for about 6 years now.
He said he was really stressed with work, and about his wages as he thinks its another crap month and I told him we always manage and find a way. He has suffered depression in the past so Im always weary of his mood swings.
He did ask me at one point why I loved him when he was so mean to me ---- told him despite how he treats me that he is a good dad, and after 8 years together I do love him but I really wasn't sure if I was in love with him any more because of how he treated me - said I felt like a live in maid and slave rather than a girlfriend. Told him that Ben was starting to pick up on it now and talk to me in the same way (which Owen reprimands him for) but I said he was being a total hypercrit as that's what he does.
Told him I need help, he cant whine at me about housework/cooking etc when he isn't prepared to help either. Told him even if it was a case of he took the kids out and left me to it - I find cleaning therapeutic at times but its so much easier and nicer to do it without the added stress of a screaming newborn and a 6 year old destroying the place after you and its done much quicker!
Also mentioned we need us time without the kids. As just a couple because we never do anything together any more - last time we went out was possibly September 2009 for our anniversary.
He also said that he was worried about his eye --- incae people dont know he has had 3 lens transplants to correct a scratch in his eye and first time it rejected, second time the lens was deteriorating and he almost lost his eye and had to be rushed in as an emergency and hes currently got third lens in. He was told wednesday last week that its rejected again. I did get annoyed because its his health and that's not something he shouldn't tell me. He said he didn't want to stress me out because he'd need more surgery and time off work. He is on so many drops now its ridiculous.
We did clear the air well and proper yesterday and talked a lot about everything basically.
Asked him what had made this turn around and he said the landlord I had spoken to had called whilst I was on the school run offering me the house and a repayment scheme for the bond money and she would claim first month on housing benefit as I was a family friend. He realised that he was going to lose me so he had sat and thought about it and saw how in the wrong he was. Told him I was well prepared to leave and knew I was capable if not better off financially without him. Said he could keep the flat but anything I paid for I'd be taking. He said he knew that I was much stronger than him and that he didnt give me enough credit for how smart I was ---- common sense is a bit hit and miss but qualifications wise Im pretty good. :rotfl:

so yeah, things have been said and the air cleared. For now we are taking things slowly but hoping it will improve. I think he has it in his head now that he knows I can walk at any time and be ok so he did make the effort yesterday but told him it had better be a proper change this time as this is very much his last chance.

Thanks for all the hugs/well wishes and support girlies.

Ceridwen -- yes I have someone ITRW who is going through similiar we have been exchanging texts/phone calls all week. nice to see you back btw!

oooppsss right well think Ive waffled enough now. needless to say I am here and am ok. Might not be about much today as Owen decided today once Ben was in school Holly was to be taken to her grandmas house and we were going to go out for a romantic walk, off to the cinema and have some lunch before picking Ben up --- but those plans got scuppered last night by my dad deciding that he misses his grand babies too much so hes driving down from Crewe for a few hours to come and steal some cuddles on his day off!!!

oh well the best laid plans! so instead we are all off out shopping and to have lunch whilst my dad gets to have his cuddles.

Red_Doe

That`s good to hear SK, wishing you all the best for the future.

Gigervamp

bluebag wrote: »

What's this 'sweeping' of which you speak?

Haha! The only time I do it is if I'm ironing something likely to drag on the floor, which isn't very often!

mags50_2

Phew!
Really pleased to see that you have sat and had a long chat and tried to start on sorting your relationship out Sammy .... now stick to your guns and it will either work or not .... but at least you have both tried.
(((Sammy-Kaye)))
Enjoy your free-time with Owen today

[Deleted User]

Thats the ticket SK. I think you have turned the corner