Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

BB1984

parsonswife - I'm sure sammykaye will correct me if I'm wrong but I think Holly was born in about June, which makes her approx. 18 weeks old, rather than 18 months!

GRRRRRRRRR I'm so annoyed! Am planning to make some cookie-mix-in-a-jar pressies for my cousins for xmas, after seeing the idea on one of the MSE forums. Used this recipe: http://www.chocablog.com/recipes/cookies-in-a-jar/
Got the jar, started filling it....got to the end of the recipe list and the jar was only half full - fat lot of good that is! Really annoyed, as once the ingredients are in the jar, all nicely layered, you can't take them out and re-do it. So what else is a girl to do.....cookies are currently in my oven

So if anyone has a tried and tested recipe for a 1-litre jar (cookies or muffins, not fussed), PLEASE let me know. I've found a few recipes online, but don't want to have a repeat of today's disappointment! Failing that, I can get some smaller jars (1 litre seems quite big), and use the big ones for something else, they weren't too expensive in asda.

Had a lovely walk down by the seaside this afternoon, was gorgeous but made my cheeks burn! Freezing in our house as scared to put the boiler on...at least we've got a little electric radiator we can put next to us in the lounge, takes the edge off...!

BB

JoJoB

Hope everyone is ok, haven't visited thread for ages due to mad comping frenzy in the hope I get a few things to use as pressies. Will go back and read what you have all been up to in a minute!

Well I have been very skint for the last couple of weeks but this has meant making biscuits and cake to cheer us all up so not too much of a hardship. Had £3 to last till wednesday so walked a 6 mile round trip to my nearest Tesco today because I had £4 in clubcard vouchers I could use to get OH's packed lunches (and a bit more baking stuff ). So at least poverty is meaning more exercise even if we are cheering ourselves up with cupcakes.

kezlou

Hi all!

congrats jediteacher, fanastic news :T:j:T

bb hope the boiler lasts out.
sammy ignore that hv, she's just a ninwit. Instead i would report her to her superiors and tell your gp about her. Thats what i did with mine and lo and behold i stopped being harassed.
Holly is adorable, wish mine were chubby like her, instead they just bottomless pits.
Fantastic post DM
Mrs VP you've done amazing well, dealing with such a shock. I;m sure you'll both come through it smelling of roses.
ceridwen my friend has just found out they losing their position at the job centre April. Luckily he's got a lot notice.

Depression
Well i'm suffering from the black dog at the moment.
Over the years, from being in primary school onwards its always being around me. Since 2004 its crept back relentlessly and against all adive i refused medication last year. I did have a good reason for doing so, the tablets wreked havoc with my asthma. Up until seven months ago, i had it under control, kind of, then when i broke my knee cap, i lost grip, then two months ago, a very very close friend died suddenly. None of which helped.

So i have decided i need to give myself a kick up the back side and get shot of this black dog.

• in the past week after numerous arguments and feeling like carp. I have now got shot of some toxic friends. So i;m now feeling happier in myself and NOT guilty because i'm in a relationsip
• attended physio and the gym (was afraid of the pain and my weight)
• met up with a very old friend
• went to a cafe two days in a row and ate coffe and cake with a good friend
• laughed so much everyone thought we were drunk!!!
• plucked up the courage to meet a group of other mums in the local park, i've never met them before. Guess what it was fun and the boys loved it. Snips is really funny about meeting new people. But he coped really well, so prud of him.
• Snips has been discharged from speech therapy:j:j
• just about to place an order off amazon, got a suprise email, been awarded £20 worth of vouchers of amazon:D. So xmas pressies a plenty!

Right thats enough of my wittering on's and better let OH on the laptop. He's getting withrawel symptoms;):rotfl:

squiggles

BB1984 wrote: »

GRRRRRRRRR I'm so annoyed! Am planning to make some cookie-mix-in-a-jar pressies for my cousins for xmas, after seeing the idea on one of the MSE forums. Used this recipe: http://www.chocablog.com/recipes/cookies-in-a-jar/
Got the jar, started filling it....got to the end of the recipe list and the jar was only half full - fat lot of good that is! Really annoyed, as once the ingredients are in the jar, all nicely layered, you can't take them out and re-do it. So what else is a girl to do.....cookies are currently in my oven

So if anyone has a tried and tested recipe for a 1-litre jar (cookies or muffins, not fussed), PLEASE let me know. I've found a few recipes online, but don't want to have a repeat of today's disappointment! Failing that, I can get some smaller jars (1 litre seems quite big), and use the big ones for something else, they weren't too expensive in asda.


BB

How about adding a cookie cutter or pack of muffin cases to the top of the jar depending which mix you have chosen.

Mrs_Veg_Plot

Evening everyone

Since when has the postman started delivering on a Sunday? We had a lunchtime delivery today. Unfortunately there was a nasty surprise in DH's post as there was another letter from the BS informing him that there was still £700 owing on another personal loan that was due to finish this month, (and I thought that I had found everything) . I cannot remember who it was that advised me to take charge of his post but thank you again. Will sort this out with the BS tomorrow, this will make things very tight for us but the sooner they are tackled the sooner we pay them off. The credit reports should arrive early this coming week. Here’s hoping there are no more shocks in store.

Have meal planned for this week and looked through the cupboards and freezer. The only things I will really need to buy over the next two weeks are bread, milk, cereals, fruit, stork for baking and yoghurts. DS2 does not like sandwiches at school but like a pastie so have made 18 of them today for the freezer, and have made some mini bakewell tarts with the left over pastry, which they can have as snacks.

DH has draft proofed the doors for me and filed away the paperwork I sorted out for him. I think that getting everything out into the open has helped him a little as he brought down an old bag of paperwork from last year and sorted through that as well.:)

:AThank you again to everyone on here for your support. I would not talk to my family about this type of thing. It has really helped knowing that I can come here for non-judgmental support.:A

Pitlanepiglet

Well done Mrs VP, he's lucky to have you and don't you forget it xxx

Rosanna79

Sammy-Kaye
I am the old bat who's just retired from health visiting!!

Yoiur H/V DOES NOT have a legal right of entry to your house. Either this woman doesn't have enough to do- as most H/Vs these days are working what they call corporate caseloads so only do birth visits or child protection- nursery nurses do so much now so h/vs hardly see the clients because the h/vs are run off their feet..

OR she's got some sort of problem with you as an individual.

Even with the most suspicious substance misusing client if she presented weekly at the baby clinic with a baby looking as well as Holly both I and the social worker were perfectly happy. Obviously the intervals increase as the baby gets older.

It's the children who disappear where there is a REAL child protection concern that we had to insist on seeing the child and any reasonable parent would understand that, in view of children like Baby P as you mention.

I think the other advice given is excellent and if you feel you're being hounded by this woman, there is no reason not to request another h/v. We all get on better with some people than others.

I personally cannot abide people just dropping in without the courtesy of at least a 'phone call, even family and friends. So it always seemed to me just plain good manners to do my best to prebook a visit either by letter or phone. Unless it was absolutely unavoidable I simply never did drop ins and when I did always felt apologetic.

I just cannot understand any professional ( health or otherwise) treating a client like that. Even in the roughest part of town I've rarely found that good manners and pleasantness didn't go a long way to overcoming barriers.

When I left London to return home and took an H/V job in a neighbouring town I fouind a very different culture as you can imagine. I went to see one lady who'd just had her fifth child and told me that the midwife had been telling her off for having so many children. The other four were sitting beautifully behaved on the sofa. I asked the lady concerned if she could provide for these children as they looked fine to me!

On telling me she could I told her to tell her midwife that she had a new H/V who'd just come up from the East End of London. I said to tell this woman that She ( the mum) was keeping the miwvives , H/Vs and school nurses in a job!! I advised her to remind the said midwife that it was 'none of her bleedin'g business"! My East End turn of phrase did not bother this lady one bit!

Later on at the Baby Clinic she said she'd told the midwife that her new H/V came from East End of London and "She'll sort you B**"ers out!!!"

Good Luck Sammy Kaye and don't let her intimidate you. They're there for your benefit as are all health professionals not the other way round!

jediteacher

Sammy, I had problems with my HV when I had my first little girl. At 5 weeks she hadn't slept a wink during the day and rarely slept for more than a few hours at night. Also when I fed her she projectile vomitted everywhere and I mean everywhere! :eek: When I went to see my HV she told me infront of all the other new mums that I was a neurotic parent and it was me that was causing her not to sleep. She then told me that all babies got sick and I was just making a fuss. Very sleep deprived I just burst into tears and left. It was only when I got home that the anger set in. I marched straight back to the surgery and demanded to see my doctor. Explained everything to him that had happened and he was brilliant (sadly he has since retired). To cut a very long story short the doctor changed my HV and clinic for me and my little girl was diagnosed with silent reflux and put on medication. Within days of this she was sleeping through the night and for a decent amount during the day. She's nearly four now and still suffers from the reflux but not only sleeps through the night for 12 hours but also sleeps for 2-3 hours in the day. I thank the day that I listened to my instincts telling me there was something more seriously wrong with her and that I actually went back and demanded to see my doctor. I have since learnt that the HV in question was put on disiplinary action and has left. I was not the only one who complained about her.

Rowan9

Mrs Veg Plot - you are doing so well with all this. Thinking of you. My goodness, we're right proud of you in here!
W

okthen1

Well done VP!