Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

nuttybabe

My youngest son plays with his big sisters pink dolls house!!! More than she does!!! :P

Fruball

charlies-aunt wrote: »

If you feel down - have a little cry or a damn good wail! let your feelings out! You're allowed - its your life and sometimes you just have to do what you need to do! Don't feel guilty! Its perfectly normal and natural - you're not being weak or inadequate - anyone else in similar situation would feel the same.

I'm doing that tonight... am fighting tears. Dad is not good still, long waiting list for stroke rehab but docs want to discharge him tomorrow.... once they discharge him he is no longer eligible for the waiting list for rehab :mad:

My dear stepmum is doing all she can but i am worried about her managing... I can only do so much as I have little ones, and she hates to ask for help, but I will do what i can.

Its gonna be tough for us all for a while I think

I am so grateful that I have some very good friends that are supporting me, altho there is not much anyone can do really.

Love and hugs to those needing them - I know its not just me in this situation xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fruball

v8monkeyboy wrote: »

:THELLO!!!

I just have to share this, I'm so excited!!

Not only do I finish my nursing course tomorrow, so will qualify, but..... I had two job offers today !! :j:j:j

And, the OH has been offered a short term security contract which means that we'll get quite a chunk of money in over the next few weeks, so Christmas should be comfy

I'm soo happy today, and also relieved. Am going to my job of choice on Monday to sign my contract, ready to start in January!!! :T

T xx

Massive congrats Its news like that that gets things in perspective for those who are struggling - I am so pleased for you esp coz its your job of choice

:j

bluebag

Frugal wrote: »

I'm doing that tonight... am fighting tears. Dad is not good still, long waiting list for stroke rehab but docs want to discharge him tomorrow.... once they discharge him he is no longer eligible for the waiting list for rehab :mad:

My dear stepmum is doing all she can but i am worried about her managing... I can only do so much as I have little ones, and she hates to ask for help, but I will do what i can.

Its gonna be tough for us all for a while I think

I am so grateful that I have some very good friends that are supporting me, altho there is not much anyone can do really.

Love and hugs to those needing them - I know its not just me in this situation xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sorry to hear about your dad, I know how it feels. Try and speak to your dad's GP and ask for some help for your mum.

Daily carers, mobility aids even a cleaner can be arranged via his GP, just depends what's available in your area and how they assess him.
Take care.

Fruball

bluebag wrote: »

Sorry to hear about your dad, I know how it feels. Try and speak to your dad's GP and ask for some help for your mum.

Daily carers, mobility aids even a cleaner can be arranged via his GP, just depends what's available in your area and how they assess him.
Take care.

thank you bb... I think SM knows she can get some help, but they are both very very independent and will only use it as a very last resort... but I think they should use it now.

SM has come around to the idea... she knows that breaking her own back is going to help nobody so I think she is talking to Dad about the idea, altho he (understandably) isn't keen as he has always been so strong and independent.

Its breaking my heart but I am trying to follow my Dads example and what he taught me in life, which is that you must just get on with it and be pragmatic.

I am drawing strength from that... but my Dad has always been my rock and .................... can't type more

bluebag

Frugal wrote: »

thank you bb... I think SM knows she can get some help, but they are both very very independent and will only use it as a very last resort... but I think they should use it now.

SM has come around to the idea... she knows that breaking her own back is going to help nobody so I think she is talking to Dad about the idea, altho he (understandably) isn't keen as he has always been so strong and independent.

Its breaking my heart but I am trying to follow my Dads example and what he taught me in life, which is that you must just get on with it and be pragmatic.

I am drawing strength from that... but my Dad has always been my rock and .................... can't type more

Bless you hun, I wish I could hold your hand and share a cuppa with you. It will get a bit easier, I know that's not how you feel right now.
You still have him and all the love he has for you.
Be strong for him, now is the time for you to be his rock, just sometimes our knees bend with the weight of it.
Praying for you, take good care.

Kitcaboodle

I say if your son wants the playhouse and it's affordable then why not? If it cost a small fortune I'd be wary in case he changed his mind if someone said something negative to him about it. However, if his heart is set on it then I'd probably go for it anyway.

When it comes to anxting about what people will think if you step away slightly from gender stereotypes, one of my friends linked this blog post on Facebook (we don't know the woman concerned but wish we did!), we all think this mother rocks! http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/

jamanda

Hold hands from me too Frugal. I feel for you, especially as I know I've similar to come before too long. Only thing to do is try to keep strong or you can't help at all.

J

charlies-aunt

Frugal wrote: »

I'm doing that tonight... am fighting tears. Dad is not good still, long waiting list for stroke rehab but docs want to discharge him tomorrow.... once they discharge him he is no longer eligible for the waiting list for rehab :mad:

Frugal - get your fighting boots and tell them that you disagree!

Don't meekly agree and go along cos they will let you - suggest that you ask to speak to the doctor today and tell them that in your opinion your Dad is too poorly to be discharged, your DSM can't cope with him at home yet and that you need time to get help in place prior to his discharge. ... think about asking for a second opinion from another doctor.

Sometimes the medical staff are under economic pressure to discharge patients - they may be doctors - but with a lifetime experience of knowing your Dad, you have the specialist knowledge of him and are the best person to decide whether or not he is well enough.

Suggest that you consider mentioning that if he insists on sending your Dad home that you will hold him responsible for the decision and should anything happen that you will make a formal complaint. Ask for copies of your father medical records, make a note of every professional involved in his care and make it clear that you think that their decision is wrong and that you will make a big fuss if time proves them wrong.

They all watch their backs and rely on patient/relative co-operation so I think with this storm warning in place - they may reconsider - especially if you have made it abundantly clear that you will hold them accountable.

Hope this helps - take care of yourself, its difficult to be strong when you want to breakdown and crumble but we are all here to support you. x x

ceridwen

lilac_lady wrote: »

I had to go into my nearest town today and I couldn't wait to get back home again. I had medical and hairdressers appointments so it was a case of having to go. I had a quick zip round a couple of shops but I find that shopping has lost any appeal for me (although it was never one of my favourite occupations).

JackieO said on another forum that she had only 3 days shopping out of the 18 days in November. I think I'll try for one shopping day per week instead of as and when like I do now. This time of year is awful if you hate crowds and queues. Perhaps that's why so many of us are feeling a bit down?

I'll avoid shopping if I can possibly help it too:)

I was thinking over the last couple of days about so many people feeling down at the moment - and I do think a lot of it is to do with the economic climate we are living through at present. I think, in particular, that a few helpful vibes towards those of us who are in Southern Ireland now and wondering what is going to happen to their country's economy as a whole. So - thinking of you to those living there.