Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

icelandic_queen

Hugs to you Sammy, lovelife and kidcat. I've been where you are Sammy and it was the lowest part of my life. Unfortunately I also suffered physical abuse as well but the mental abuse, and that is what it is Sammy, had the most impact on me. In the end I was worn to a frazzle trying to cope with 3 kids under 4, 2 of them under 18 months and an Oh who kept me short of money, plus hold down a job! As others have suggested maybe a good heart-to-heart is in order or a break of a few days to let things settle down and for you to decide what really is best for you, Owen and the kids. Take care.

p.s Nice to see you back ceridwen!!

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mambury wrote: »

Call me a cynic but I can see ALL food prices rising as supermarkets using the VAT rise to hide their own price hikes.....

I now live next door to a big scale arable farmer and he grows wheat. He said that last year from sept 2009 to june 2010 feed wheat (animal feed) was between £100 and £118 a tonne. It then rose steeply and was £160 a tonne in september 2010. He said that bread wheat is up by £50 a tonne. Many foods will be affected, particularly now that Russia is not exporting wheat because of their drought

I have already bought in 28kg of organic flour. It will make definite sense to build up a stock of foodstuffs for this winter. I saw somewhere that we are to expect -20 and blizzards at some stage so I am definitely getting prepared, particularly as it isn`t a good journey to the shops from here

parsonswife8

mardatha wrote: »

I wa sbehind two asian lads in Costco with a huge trolley loaded in bog rolls. I asked the OH to follow them out and hijack their van but he wouldnt. He is no fun.

Well, he is an RV after all.....:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

ginnyknit

Another hobby Mardatha - hijacking, gosh you are never boring :rotfl:

I have noticed prices shooting up too, on things like baked beans??? But there are bargains to be had. Tonight I had a dig in the freezer as I was to busy after all to cook and we are now having suprise tea I think its potato hash and I froze some crust - we cook it separately so its not soggy - so its looking good. I am really tired of supermarkets but we don't have a decent shopping area nearby sadly and the market is really bad now, some of the stuff looks well past its sell by date. I have got 6 lb of mince (got it for 54p a pack from Mr S) so will have to use my imagination. Followed the girl doing the veg reductions round the shop so have a couple of cauli's to freeze.

ceridwen

catznine wrote: »

Having a slow day today, so late on here but wanted to send big ((((hugs))) to Sammy K - stress can make people behave very badly and it does sound as if Owen is very stressed and possibly depressed. You are such a caring lass you don't deserve this but I am sure you will come through this.

btw I worried yesterday that I may have seemed a little over confident about recession etc., what I meant is that although I am now not as fearful about what the next year may bring I am still quite anxious about my family, just that being pro-active in an old styley way seems to lessen the anxiety for me. My Mum used to say that if you had a worry that you could do nothing about, then go find something else to do! I am only now realising just how wise she was!:)

That sounds like good advice from your Mum - ie the one about if you can do nothing about a worry, then go find something else to do.:T. Different people will have different ways - my own personal one is to go for a longish walk somewhere nice and I've been wondering throughout the day at intervals if Sammy could find anyone to take care of the children for a few hours and just take herself up into the hills for a walk and sit there on top of one of them watching the clouds/birds/etc. That often tends to be my own personal solution - but horses for courses as to what will suit different people...

Another thing that I find (but that may be personal to me.....) is that if I am wondering about a situation and its puzzling me as to what to make of it - then it sometimes helps to just get on with something totally mundane and boring and leave my mind in "freefall" and sometimes a mental "picture" or fact just comes "bombing in" from nowhere that gives a clue as to what lies at root of the problem. Its sometimes been a useful way to find out very "basic"/important things about other people/myself...Its been quite astonishing what came up a couple of times (but it turned out to be accurate......!!!!!).

Having said that - another thing I wanted to share is that I am very good friends with a couple who I know went through an extremely!!!!! bad patch before I met them. Shes told me just how bad it was (VERY!) - but they were both pretty young at the time. It came good in the end and they are actually one of the most devoted couples I know these days....awwww!!!! They're a positive joy to watch together. So - there ARE relationships that come good in the end and theres others that were never meant to last for long. The important thing is to work out the difference between them to decide where yours might come into this. My friend (ie the wife - but I'm friends with both of them) is a VERY loving/giving/hardworking sort of person - and I do know that an awful lot of people would not have been able to redeem the situation their marriage was in. Because of just how loving etc she is - they came through it and many years later are a really devoted couple. So - I can see you have a lot of the qualities of my friend - so if anyone can pull this round and set it on the right road then its you. I would be inclined 90% of women to "pull the rug on it" - but you are that 10% that might be able to "save the situation" and turn it round.

The question is as to how he would react - how fast can he grow up - because thats what it seems to boil down to basically. You know better than us....somewhere inside you lies the knowledge as to whether he is capable of growing up fast enough/whether he cares for you and the children enough to try. Go for that walk (or whatever other seems appropriate to you) and it might possibly be the start of being able to see a clear way through this particular situation - whatever that is (ie whether it means staying together or breaking up).

Maybe thats just me personally and how I operate...but I'll just throw it into the mix as a thought for consideration...

HariboJunkie

Lovelife, meant to say earlier that I wish your niece a speedy recovery. Life is very unfair sometimes

We had a bigger than expected car repair bill today so more belt tightening required.
Took OH with shopping with me as he's a seasoned bargain hunter and we found tesco 10 cheese slices (real cheddar, not processed) fr 35p. This makes it £1.46 /kilo while it is £5.86/kilo for a block of the same cheese. Very handy for sandwiches so hopethat helps someone. :money:
All in all the shopping was cheap as I am using up my freezer meat and Aldi's super six veg are great this week and worked well in my mealplan.
No heating on tonight so far. We have 2 open fires and an air to air heat transfer system but it has been warm and sunny today (sorry Mardartha:p) and the house feels cosy. Will light the candles in the living room tonight and make a start on the Christmas knitting.

mardatha

Listen to Ginny talking about me hijacking a van full of bog rolls - when she just admitted that she stalked the veg reduction lady round a supermarket !! :D:D

dreaming

Hippeechiq wrote: »

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Love the sound of the Tumbling Tomatoes that can grown in containers. although forking out for the containers might be a problem.

When I was looking around for suitable (cheap) containers I realised those rectangular storage boxes (about 15 ins x 10 ins and 8 ins deep)were ideal, and picked some up in a supermarket (or Wilkinsons - can't quite remember). They were something like 4 for £2.50, and I managed to grow some good toms. in them - 2 plants to a box. This year I used them for peppers and chillies, although they spread a bit more than the toms. so I split them out into 1 plant per box. Just line them with a plastic bag with a few holes in.
I've also used old buckets where the base had split (ok with a plastic bag liner) and old paint tins with some holse punched in with a nail for drainage.
Although I like to spend as little as possible on stuff like this for the garden (preferring to save my cash for plants), I have invested in some link-a-bord raised beds this year. They aren't mega expensive (at least I thought not) and as they are plastic(recycled) should last for years. They were very easy to put together and much lighter than wooden ones. I only moved in this house in May but had a good crop of tomatoes, chillies. peppers and dwarf beans, as well as salad stuff, and this weekend picked the last of my peas and a couple of baby beets from the raised beds. Can't wait for next year.

bellaquidsin

Sammy Big (((((HUGS))))) from me too.

Bella.

kidcat

Ceridwen that is such a good piece of advice. and so true, I believe that if both parties are equally committed to working together it is possible to build a strong relationship however it'd vital to be sure that both of u are working towards the same goal.