romantic gestures - on a budget

Fuzzy_Duck

shell_girl wrote: »

My OH is also 'romantically challenged'!!

It sounds as if you're doing lots of things already that show you care. Sometimes it's about the unexpected rather than the flashy.

If you both have mobiles, send her a text now and again for no reason at all other than to say something nice. Emails are even cheaper, but you could go the whole hog and leave her a little note somewhere she's not expecting it- ie in her packed lunch, folded up in her purse, inside the book she's reading...

Try and keep it real though- don't be pushed into making gestures and doing things that just aren't 'you'.

I like the note idea. My boyfriend makes my sarnies for work each morning and once carved little hearts in the bread. Cheered me up when I noticed come lunchtime! Personally though I can't stand anything too sappy- I'm perfectly happy if he pours me a nice glass of wine when I get home after a bad day.

To be fair to you though it does sound like you're doing quite a few romantic things already, and gestures are automatically less romantic if your partner has demanded them. They need to be given of their own accord to mean anything.

If you get a chance to have a decent amount of time together, perhaps take her on a surprise night out, i.e. to the cinema? It can really help going out on a few date like trips, and the cinema can be pretty cheap.

BillTrac

Sod that, she's too high maintenance.

Show her the door.....:rotfl:

Principia_2

What kind of romantic gestures does she make for you?

If they are flashy and expensive then that's the kind of thing she probably likes. If they are low key and caring, then that's probably what she's looking for - although it seems you are doing fine in that dept anyway

pinkshoes

gazebo wrote: »

I run her a bath, I make her cups of tea, I read to her, I rub her shoulders and feet etc, but apparently these things are not quite what she's after.

Well either I've always managed to choose the unromantic type, or your OH is perhaps somewhat demanding, because to me the above are definitely romantic!

I have a friend who correlates romance with ££££! I was rather amused a few years ago when me and her now husband had to stop at a jewellery shop on the way to meet her at the pub for her birthday, as he hadn't got anything yet. 60 seconds later and a £200 necklace in a box and gift wrapped by the shop, we then had to call into a card shop, where he asked to borrow a pen to write in the card. I reminded him to throw the card bag away before entering the pub... she thought he was VERY romantic.

From my point of view, any muppet can spend money, so I'd much rather have a man spend TIME on me! Here's my ideas:

- Cook her a pizza from scratch (including the dough!), then arranging olives on top in a heart shape.

- leave post-it notes all over the house with a treasure map leading to a her favourite sweets as the treasure.

- take her to one of those pottery places where you can paint each other on a plate. (they then glaze and put them in a kiln, so you can collect them a week later).

gazebo

that pottery thing sounds like a fab idea, but I can't draw and she's got a degree in art - so it'd end up either really entertaining or a big insult!

thank you to everyone for your ideas, they really have helped

loopy_lass

u know the tiny boxes of shell chockies, i think 99p for 4 or 6 of them, why not leave one in the kitchen with a little note saying how u feel, then one in the living room with another note, one in the bathroom saying you cant wait for the evening !!! and one on her pillow to say how much you love her...

all for 99p

xx

Broomstick

DS1 came up with a lovely one for his gf.

He bought lots of tubes of Smarties, sorted out her two most favourite colours and put them into a heart shaped box for her. Everyone has favourite flavours/colours of Smarties/fruit gums/Starbursts or whatever, so to get a packet just of the favourites is really treatsy. (He got to eat the rest on the quiet so he was happy too! )

melancholly

after consideration - the best one is going and opening a bottle of wine to give me a large glass when my mother calls! he knows what i need!