romantic gestures - on a budget

dogcat_2

Tell her you LOVE HER......she smells nice...cup of tea/brekkie in bed. Flower petals on the bed..(rose petals are best)..favourite cake..the list goes on...and on........Good Luck.

diable

Just be caring, simple.

Newly_retired

Have you come across the Five Languages of Love? Most people prefer one of these so if you can work out which your OH would prefer and if this isn't how you normally operate, there's your cue to really please her. They are ( briefly ) Touch, Words of endearment, gifts, acts of service, quality time.

melancholly

is it just me that thinks she's a bit demanding? romance is in the little, personal things, but always in the grand expensive gestures!

a cup of tea in bed in the morning is thoughtful and shows making a real effort (but seriously, that works both ways - i hope she makes some effort back!).

letting me watch tv i know he hates is always appreciated! watching a dvd with some candles lit..... hmm.... getting me a hot water bottle when i'm sick..... little things that shows he cares (and i'd like to think i do similar things back)

actually, holding my hand when we walk somewhere..... that's what matters - the little things!

VK-2008

i love it when dh is romantic, tbh at start of relationship we were both so loved up everything was so romantic. nowadays being settled in married life those wee gestures just dont come like they used to.
we both have to work at it and we have decided that next week we are having a date night together. planning a nice night out the two of us, getting dressed up nice, going out for dinner and then drinks and pics. we aint done that in a very long time, we do go out for meals and pics etc but just casually so going to get dressed up. make it more date like
also the most romantic thing he ever done for me was he wrote me a diary of our first year together, kind of like the scrapbook idea, he had filled in all the days with what we had done, places we had been, how he felt about me - sounds sad and soppy but lovely. it included movie and concert stubs/pictures.
you could always try and buy you oh a lovely outfit - or be mse and buy her some nice undies from local supermarket or pjs! you could speak to her family and find out what her fave childhood games/videos were and arrange a blast from the past night.

Moomin21

if my boyfriend did some housework for me withour being asked, that would be the most amazing thing and that would make me so happy!!

clairehi

Putting the bins out without being asked would do it for me :rotfl:

Lirin

My husband is romantic- I'm lucky.
When we first met he was on night shift, and I was day, so we saw little of eachother, and had taken to leaving dictaphone messages to eachother, or post-it notes.
Now we're on the same working hours, my OH still leaves me a sweet message if he's working later than I.
He makes dinner unexpectedly, tidies up, and leaves me nice little surprises- he'll leave my favourite packet of crisps wrapped up if I feel down for me, or a flower.
He's definitely way soppier than I am- on our homeymoon, we kept a diary together which we wrote in every night to look back.
He'll buy me a DVD, get me an extra big bar of Galaxy (always goes down well!), and is great doing the less romantic stuff too- ironing occasionally if it's built up, washing the dogs, tidying the garden....

Make-it-3

I don't think you are romantically-challenged - I'll already be giving brownie points to OH if he did all those things. Maybe she's looking for some more "traditional" romantic gestures - although I like the more personal ones as suggested here like the unexpected notes or texts.

Why not ask her what she is thinking of, you're not a mind-reader after all!

FatVonD

melancholly wrote: »

is it just me that thinks she's a bit demanding? romance is in the little, personal things, but always in the grand expensive gestures!

a cup of tea in bed in the morning is thoughtful and shows making a real effort (but seriously, that works both ways - i hope she makes some effort back!).

letting me watch tv i know he hates is always appreciated! watching a dvd with some candles lit..... hmm.... getting me a hot water bottle when i'm sick..... little things that shows he cares (and i'd like to think i do similar things back)

actually, holding my hand when we walk somewhere..... that's what matters - the little things!

Me too, a box of Lemsip and some cheese and onion crisps when I'm ill would do it for me

OP, the woman half of a very happy and long married couple I know says the words that most make her well up with love for her hubby are 'shall I run down the chippie?' when she doesn't feel like cooking

Is your g/f perhaps comparing you unfavourably to friends b/fs? Many years ago I worked somewhere where one department all set great store on getting bouquets of flowers sent to work from b/fs, then they wondered why they were all single while our department were all happily settled.

I don't think you're doing anything wrong