romantic gestures - on a budget

Mayflower10cat

Years ago a friend of ours gave his wife to be a beautiful little box.
Inside was... his last Rollo!!!

Jinx

My other half never used to send me flowers because I kept telling him that when someone at work got flowers, everyone would say 'ooooh whats he done then??!!', so one day he sent me flowers with a card that said 'no reason'

For the little things he brings me chocolate when I have pmt lol And he built me a greenhouse. And he takes me for dinner when Im fed up cooking.

One thing I have done that Ive not finished is two lists, the first is a list of reasons why we're together... eg I love you because..... and the other is 'our' memories for example 'a trip to Florence' or 'picnic by the sea' etc, which I planned to print on gorgeous paper and cut into little scrolls with ribbons and put in a box, maybe for our anniversary. Very soppy lol:o

cattkitt

I'm not too sure about explaining to a spouse/OH about being able to afford or not afford something. After all, an OH is not a child to be told by its parent.

I suppose that what I'm suggesting is that it would be more appropriate to have a long hard think and discussion about life expectations and minimum requirements. Although difficult, it's better to be upfront about actual wants, rather than be left with simmering resentment and unfulfilled expectations 10-20 years down the line.

fantafan

gazebo wrote: »

ok, so here's the deal.

Apparently I really don't have any romance in me, I'm just not the romantic type.

My long suffering partner has asked for me to add a little more romance into our relationship, and to be honest I'm stuck for ideas.

I run her a bath, I make her cups of tea, I read to her, I rub her shoulders and feet etc, but apparently these things are not quite what she's after.

So, what would constitute a romantic gesture to you and is it something I can try with my other half?

Cheers

Long suffering? I think not.

Tell her to steer away from the chick-flicks, to me you're doing enough and some people just don't appreciate what they have. Life is just too short to pick fault with your other half.

Appreciate what you have and enjoy the person for who they are, not what you want them to be.:kisses2:

gazebo

chick flicks aren't the problem here.

As said earlier, I think it stems more from us spending less time together because of my second job.

Will need to reassess how much I need the second job and look to spend more quality time

clairec79

Do you do the bath/massage etc and it always end up in sex? If so then she may see it more as you not being romantic but being after sex, whereas the same thing and then a cuddle with no straying hands may seem romantic

Shambler

What I have found to work as far as romatic gestures are concerned.

Tidy the house, clean, hoover, do the washing up etc.

gazebo

massages etc don't lead to sex at all, nor do I always try and make them.

I do know where you are coming from so to speak

ktuludays

Chakani wrote: »

I think Shellgirl has hit the nail on the head, it's things that are unexpected, nice little surprises.

My OH is much the same, loving and thoughtful, but as spontaneous and romantic as a pebble! I have long accepted that that's just the way he is, and I should just buy my own flowers, but would absolutely love it if he did.

i tried something unexpected with my wife but she said i wasn't sticking it in there!

so it doesn't always work

hot.chick

could you do a drive by inbetween jobs and put a rose or her fave flower on her windscreen?

have a foil baloon delivered to her work - just saying - I love you - or coz it's monday - or what ever has meaning for the two of you? (have found these as cheap as £5 delivered)

heart shaped things are romantic... toast cut into hearts, cup of tea with jammy dodgers - they have hearts on them - etc....

Take her to a reasturant for candle lit coffe and dessert after dinner - LOADS cheaper than a whole dinner

could you take a sneaky evening off work to suprise her? Maybe with petles in the bath, candles, glass of wine?

Light tea lights in the shape of a heart, take a pic and text it to her...

- I'm trying to get across that it doesnt have to cost a lot to do hearts and flowers.... but it does take a bit of imagination...

(agree with someone who said also try doing jobs round the house to show you love her - but this isn't romantic - also if your a reader of books - may I recommend the five love languages - http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ ... her needs will make more sense to you)

Good luck... if you need more to go on let me know - I can do this stuff all day