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greenbee

Memory_Girl wrote: »

greenbee wrote: »

Can someone just teach me how to talk people out of their bank details?

I memorised Mr French Mentors credit card numbers last night - Wahayyyy!!! kids, there will be a Christmas :rotfl::rotfl:

Now that's a trick I'd like to learn

lav1979 wrote: »

GREENBEE - Did you love Hong Kong ? Have my sympathy with OH troubles, we went through it last week so much so DSD is now living with us. This is why I was MIA, but you know finding a way with a few deep breaths and a large vodka.

Hong Kong was great... but very, very hectic and tiring. It would have been nice to have time to get to know it. I hope you manage to get settled down with DSD - OH is going through a difficult time in his separation, making progress on the administrative side of things, but his kids want him to go back home, because now he and his ex are getting on better (mainly because they aren't living with each other) they think they should get back together. He needs somehow to get the kids to understand that he and his ex can be better parents, and be friends, if they are apart, but can't be happy if they're together. I think the kids are forgetting how much they hated it before he moved out... sadly I really can't help him much with this. (BTW, this isn't a reflection on how they feel about me, they don't know about me, and I'm happy with the fact that they don't know that there dad has a girlfriend until they've got their head round the fact that he hadn't abandoned them, just moved out of the house. There's no need for them to be under any additional stress, although it does seem to be taking a long time - he'd moved out before we got together).

Triker

Good luck to you and your OH Greenbee, I know from experience that you can never predict how people can react....relationships are a sticky area at the best of times, especially separations.

Please be very careful that you do not become the 'easy target' for resentment and blame...children are'nt daft, they work under their egocentric needs, naturally, and change of any kind is usually very unwelcome.

Tread carefully and cautiously and I hope your OH finds a solution soon.

Obviously much of the above is essentially dependent on how your OH's ex reacts....that's always the deal breaker.

fantasia322

Hats off and hands up and give it up:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T:T for everyboy who's succeeding. yay x

thriftyscotslass

fantasia322 wrote: »

Go for it Bitsy.............Go Bitsy......Go Bitsy.........Go Bitsy...........
its not about how much time you can give...... its about belonging..... and sharing..........and evolving, hopefully into what we all want to be.........:)

Wot she said

Seriously Bitsy - I've joined, I haven't got two brass farthings to rub together; my location is not ideal for K4K to say the least but I love the belonging and the sharing....

...and yes you do evolve - you can't help it, you just get swept along.

eta: Way to go Bitsy :-)

eta2: Waaayyyyyy to go Cheery :-)

greenbee

Triker wrote: »

Good luck to you and your OH Greenbee, I know from experience that you can never predict how people can react....relationships are a sticky area at the best of times, especially separations.

Please be very careful that you do not become the 'easy target' for resentment and blame...children are'nt daft, they work under their egocentric needs, naturally, and change of any kind is usually very unwelcome.

Tread carefully and cautiously and I hope your OH finds a solution soon.

Obviously much of the above is essentially dependent on how your OH's ex reacts....that's always the deal breaker.

Thanks Triker... I'm trying to get across to OH that kids tend to be pretty self centred most of the time (drawing on my own experience as a child clearly ) and that as far as the teenager is concerned anything he does will be wrong... for at least the next 5 years... if he hadn't left then they'd be holding that against him for making them feel he'd stayed for their sake.

He's at mediation with his ex tonight, and then picking up whichever kids decide to go back to his with him (hopefully at least the youngest). They're also fed up because he hasn't got round to replacing the car yet (well, he hasn't had the cheque, and we're out of the country for work for a couple of weeks now), so he can't ferry them around the way they'd like - he's using the train or their mother has to drop them off and collect them. And he'll have to return them on Saturday night as there is no way they'll be up on Sunday in time to be delivered home before he has to leave for the airport!

Still... it does mean I get every other weekend to myself

I've managed to catch up a bit today... did my expenses, chased some travel documents (oops... haven't done my ESTA or booked next week's airport drop off) and I'm planning an early tonight before tomorrow's clear-up-and-pack marathon...

lisawaters

Memory_Girl wrote: »

I went down to meet the tutors to ask whether they would consider creating a strategic alliance - where they video my inserts and I train their students in return.

You just did a sales job on them..!

maryb

Anyone heard from Crickett? She hasn't posted on this forum for a week. I don't know if she's posting on the matrix forum cos I don't have my log in details yet. She did say she was going to be busy but I thought that was last week.

Hope everythings OK Crickett - do let us know

Craftyscholar

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

I was at a rather cheery event for work the other day, and the afternoon was given to a couple of discussion sessions, run on an 'open space' basis. If you wanted to discuss a question, you wrote it and stuck it on the board, and then everyone chose which group to join in. The idea was that you could move groups if you wanted to, but that each group created a list of recommendations, which were put on the wall at the end, and we all showed which we thought were the most important.

The thing that struck me most was that the facilitator (who was brilliant) said 'if you've written down a topic for discussion, you might find yourself sitting by yourself, with nobody else choosing to join your group. You have a choice about how to think about this. You could feel sorry for yourself, like when you were at school and nobody wanted to be on your hockey team, then quietly put your paper in the bin and join another group. Or you could realise that you're ahead of your time, and be thankful for having an hour to think about something you think is important and make a list of recommendations. You never know, somebody else might even come and join you later'

and I must also say, that thanks to the Matrix and all your cheery encouragement and positivity and confidence building, I *did* write a question, even though I was rather scared, and pretty much everyone in the room was senior to me, and I felt like a small child imposter (I often feel like that! :rotfl:). And then - guess what? Nobody joined my group And I sat there thinking 'I'm ahead of my time, I'm ahead of my time' :rotfl: until eventually two very senior women came and joined me, we had an interesting discussion, and made some great recommendations that people even voted for! :j :j :j

And then yesterday I got offered full time work for the next two years :eek: :j :eek: :j Not as a direct result of my recommendations, of course But certainly my increased confidence, conviction in my ability to do the job, and all round cheeriness helped I think! :j :j :j

(just got to get this darn PhD finished now! :rotfl: Mind mapping my way through the 50 day challenge as we speak...)

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Go CD Go CD Go CD

teapot2

Souk08 wrote: »

What's a TADA by the way. Not a flylady myself as I LOVE cleaning anyway but I guess it's something to do with that?!

Not sure about TADA Souk - used to stand for the offence of 'taking and driving away' :eek: but it can't be that