The Memorygirl Matrix

cazmcf

Thank you MG, it's nice to know there is support on here.

She is 8 and part of her negativity is inheirted (not me) and probably not helped by us (giving up quickly when she starts th ecrying and just doing things for her). This negativity is in all parts of her life, learning to tie shoelaces, ride a bike and in school. When she does achieve somehting no matter how small we rain the praise on her and she thrives on it, but it doesn't seem to motivate her on through when the next 'hard' thing comes along.

I also had a talk to her last night about how she won't be able to do everthing the first time, that we all have to learn and pointed out how much she has learned. The negative commment form the teacher really did not help as she thought she had to catch up on everything in one night and it took a lot of talking to make her realise that we can only do little bits each night.

And yes I would love some help, I feel a bit lost going in here on Friday, as we only see her homework each night but not how they learn.
I also have a friend thats a primary school teacher that I'm going to ring tonight for some more advice.

scottishlass

clairewop wrote: »

Ok I made the white sauce and put mixed herbs salt and pepper in it, bunged everything from the frying pan and sweetcorn into it and mixed it in, put some on the bottom of the dish then lasagne sheet then some more then lasagne sheets and made white sauce for the top, I didn't havr any cheese so sprinkled mixed herbs on the top and shoved in the oven, do you think it will be ok??

I still have quite a bit of chicken to use up too, any ideas??

Do you have any couscous - their is a recipie in your new book where you add it to couscous with some tomatoes and some stock.

spud30

lucielle wrote: »

You could be writing about my 2. I think they should have extra English lessons instead.
L

I couldnt agree more L

thriftyscotslass

clairewop wrote: »

I still have quite a bit of chicken to use up too, any ideas??

Sweet and Sour Chicken

http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/1472/easy-sweet-and-sour-chicken

Yummy

alisara

MG

Would just like to say that i have a 12 yr old, and this language thing would be great for her as she is currently taking 2 languages its a great idea

clairewop

scottishlass wrote: »

Do you have any couscous - their is a recipie in your new book where you add it to couscous with some tomatoes and some stock.

yes I do have couscous 1 box.

what add the chicken? I will investigate the book later

tellmeitsfriday

Excuse me everyone.. what's going on? It's 4pm and it's dark. I don't like it!!!

cazmcf

se999 wrote: »

What is your DD good at? It's just there tends to be pressure on parents to put lots of effort and emphasis on the things they're bad at and need improving, that it can increase the negativity. So putting as much effort into what they're good at can help create some balance, and once they achieve in one thing, it can spin off into believing they can achieve in other things too.

It doesn't need to be a school thing, in fact ideally not until she gets over the initial negativity. If there's nothing specific try a few things and see what she likes and enjoys.

The other thing is to praise the little improvements, because they all add up, so look for the little things. They do add up to the big things.

She loves to make cards and pictures and I'm trying to introduce her to cross stitching. Surprisingly she's really good at teaching:D She loves teaching DD2 (who is 6) simple sums and the alphabet, it's their favourite game and it's actually paying off as DD2 is excelling in maths!

clairewop

thriftyscotslass wrote: »

Sweet and Sour Chicken

http://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/1472/easy-sweet-and-sour-chicken

Yummy

oohh looks lovely but only nathy and myself like sweet and sour . Might see if I can eek the chicken out a bit more and do some for us

clairewop

cazmcf wrote: »

She loves to make cards and pictures and I'm trying to introduce her to cross stitching. Surprisingly she's really good at teaching:D She loves teaching DD2 (who is 6) simple sums and the alphabet, it's their favourite game and it's actually paying off as DD2 is excelling in maths!

my ds2 likes making cards.