The Memorygirl Matrix

spud30

Ellidee, you're an absolute star hun :kisses3:

se999

cazmcf wrote: »

I have a parent teacher meeting on friday, so I am going to go in armed with a list of questions on what their learning stratigies are. Although with one teacher for 30 kids someone is bound to be left behind.

Unfortunatley DD is also a negative person, if something is hard or she doesn't know how to do something yet, she will cry and say 'I cant do it, its too hard' and give up. So I have to have the patients of a saint.
Whe she's old enough I'll give her a copy of the secret:D

What is your DD good at? It's just there tends to be pressure on parents to put lots of effort and emphasis on the things they're bad at and need improving, that it can increase the negativity. So putting as much effort into what they're good at can help create some balance, and once they achieve in one thing, it can spin off into believing they can achieve in other things too.

It doesn't need to be a school thing, in fact ideally not until she gets over the initial negativity. If there's nothing specific try a few things and see what she likes and enjoys.

The other thing is to praise the little improvements, because they all add up, so look for the little things. They do add up to the big things.

Memory_Girl

cazmcf wrote: »

I have a parent teacher meeting on friday, so I am going to go in armed with a list of questions on what their learning stratigies are. Although with one teacher for 30 kids someone is bound to be left behind.

ABSOLUTELY NOT ACCEPTABLE - can I help you draft some questions - in fact can I just help you?

Unfortunatley DD is also a negative person, if something is hard or she doesn't know how to do something yet, she will cry and say 'I cant do it, its too hard' and give up. So I have to have the patients of a saint.
Whe she's old enough I'll give her a copy of the secret:D

How old is she cazmcf? And without being nasty "people do what works" - has she learned that by doing the weeping girlie thing she can get away with not doing certain things (if she has can she teach me how to do it????:rotfl::rotfl:)

My son used to be a little like this - I eventually had a talk to him about "learned helplessness" and how he wasn' supposed to be able to do everything the first time he attempted it, but how it was our (the school and family) job to make sure that he could eventually do anything he set his energies to.

My whole new project is built around:

"The illiterate beyond the year 2000 will not be the person who cannot read or write, but instead will be the person who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn the skills of the game of work in the new millienium"

You see I think we are standing with one foot in the old model of education (schools as factories that produce educated kids as a finished product, processed them in batches and throw out the rejects).

I know, I know. I usually state this in a much more politically sensitive way.

We are now moving towards a more agrarian model - where our children are sprouted like seeds, nurtured as seedlings and transplanted to where we can give them space and resources to flourish before harvesting the fruits of our labours ( exams) but allowing them to continue to produce other fruits in the future.

But our kids are caught between the two models at the moments - and so many great teachers are feeling stressed and frustrated.

Our kids need a different tool-kit of skills now than we did - because the world of work is so very different now. When we educate them the same old way we get the same old results - and how many employers and Universites do you hear complaining about the quality of the students? Its because they haven't been prepared to be people who can.

"learn, unlearn and relearn the skills of the game of work"

Have I got an answer? No -there isn't a one size fits all solution, lets be honest. But absolutely your children can learn to learn more effectively, read faster, remember more, have more fun whilst studying than the majority of students do at the moment.

Sorry guys - will get off my soapbox now.

But let me know what she is struggling with and lets see if we can come up with the right questions for you to ask the teacher on Friday.

MG

clairewop

ok help !!

I've got chicken, courgettes and mushrooms sizzling away in a frying pan (as the bacon hasn't been opened I thought I would try to use that in another meal) do I just make the sauce now and bung everything in the sauce, want to add some sweetcorn too

tellmeitsfriday

Yeah. wang the equivalent of the red sauce in now

Then layer it up with the mixture, pasta, mixture, pasta, white sauce cheese and whack it in the oven for a while.... (oh I'm so eloquent with these recipes)

What time do you want us over Claire?

clairewop

Ta

*runs off to do next bit*

Might not be edible lol

YellowGlow

Hi everyone,

Memory Girl: If you are doing training and teacher/ children related courses why not approach the Montessori Institute (or whatever the main organisation is) and exchange MemoryGirl skills for help with Montessori type activities? Good way to network and gain useful contacts as well?

lucielle

spud30 wrote: »

I could have written this too unfortunately.

My lad struggles to keep up, he cant write or copy things down quickly enough so often falls behind. This has led to him becoming quite a sad lad in the just over a year since he's been at high school. He comes home quite withdrawn and depressed really, and often has to hang back after school to clarify something with a teacher. i think he panics so much about getting things written down, he doesnt hear what's being said. It really does break my heart to see him struggle.

One thing that seems to be making matters much worse is having to study an additional language. For a dyslexic child who struggles to write and spell his home language, to suddenly have to learn French is just too much. He now confuses the spelling rules between the 2 languages, for example, he now spells geography as geographie.

MG, is the language course writing or speech based? If it's written, would it be possible to do the 100 high frequency English words for children like mine that struggle so much?

You could be writing about my 2. I think they should have extra English lessons instead.
L

clairewop

Ok I made the white sauce and put mixed herbs salt and pepper in it, bunged everything from the frying pan and sweetcorn into it and mixed it in, put some on the bottom of the dish then lasagne sheet then some more then lasagne sheets and made white sauce for the top, I didn't havr any cheese so sprinkled mixed herbs on the top and shoved in the oven, do you think it will be ok??

I still have quite a bit of chicken to use up too, any ideas??

Memory_Girl

fantasia322 wrote: »

Yep I know a marketing guru, he's actually the development director of a marketing company. Have e-mailed him and asked permission to give details. Can't promise he will, but he's one of life's good guys so fingers x'd.

So sorry my darling

I missed this little gem whilst getting on my high-horse about education again - many thanks, any advice he can scater my way willbe gratefully appreciated.

MG