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Father going for full custody?
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I am surprised at how many people have been negative about him leaving the child with his mum for a night. Grannies can be great for kids to have in their lives, and the more people who love them the better in my opinion. I don't leave mine overnight but I know lots of people who do.52% tight0
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I am surprised at how many people have been negative about him leaving the child with his mum for a night. Grannies can be great for kids to have in their lives, and the more people who love them the better in my opinion. I don't leave mine overnight but I know lots of people who do.
I have no issue with the child staying over with Granny at all - but what the OP's ex appears to be trying on is that he's looking after his child 50% of the time to avoid looking for work - and thats just not true - even if he did have the little one 3 nights a week, but even less true if on one of those nights he's not caring for the child because Granny is.0 -
I'm fine with nanna having him 1 night a week. as she used to see him daily and was heartbroken when me and the ex split. and shes an fab nanna. it was the claim of 50/50. where as im guessing even if he had him 50/50 if one of those days is spent at nannas for the night without his dad its then not technically 50/50.0
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Yes, I see your point now. Does Nanna live near you? You could tell him he can have access for the 2 nights and Nanna can have access for 1 night52% tight0
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tbh I used to have a brilliant relationship with the kids nanna. but since we have split its gone sour. as the ex has a strong relationship and obv the ex has been speaking to her about me on many occassion. so its awkward to have either in the same room. which is a shame really
as we used to get on so so well.
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There is no way he is going to get full custody of an 8 week old baby who is still being breast fed and a 2yr old (and the courts are not going to split the children up either)
unless it can be shown that there are SERIOUS issues with your parenting - and I mean really serious issues like drug abuse and serious neglect, for example - and even then he would have to be able to show that he is able to care for two such very young children.
Judging by your other threads, this is yet another tactic to bully and control you.
You need to start putting yourself and your children's welfare first, and get a solicitor to deal with his threats and intimidation.I'm a retired employment solicitor. Hopefully some of my comments might be useful, but they are only my opinion and not intended as legal advice.0 -
He has the child half the time you refusing to admit he does is plain selfish. TBH I would not want my child living with a mentally unstable bankrupt. Before you say that is harsh that will be the case argued but I see you are already going down the he is abusive route as an excuse to block his rights.
This is going to get very messy and I feel for all of you.Barclaycard 3800
Nothing to do but hibernate till spring
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Broken_hearted wrote: »He has the child half the time you refusing to admit he does is plain selfish. TBH I would not want my child living with a mentally unstable bankrupt. Before you say that is harsh that will be the case argued but I see you are already going down the he is abusive route as an excuse to block his rights.
This is going to get very messy and I feel for all of you.
Bankruptcy has no more a detrimental effect on children than solvency does - it is completely irrelevant in considering a child's welfare. Would you rather the child was with a workshy manipulator (if you're going to make assumptions, I may as well too).
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balletshoes wrote: »Bankruptcy has no more a detrimental effect on children than solvency does - it is completely irrelevant in considering a child's welfare. Would you rather the child was with a workshy manipulator (if you're going to make assumptions, I may as well too
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Barclaycard 3800
Nothing to do but hibernate till spring
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Would you rather two children be brought up by a workshy bully who is using the children as a lever to getting his JSA reinstated?
Bear in mind the fact that whilst he was the "stay at home parent" - which suited him admirably - he had an affair whilst he wife was studying at Uni.0
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