Father going for full custody?

mumof1and1ontheway

Can he do this? sorry i have started a new thread as advised.
he currently has my eldest whos 2 3 nights a week. he see's my 8 week old 2 hrs a week.

he has said he will be taking me to court and going for full custody of my eldest at least. he is using my past depression against me and the fact i self harmed 10 years ago. and says i cannot cope. my youngest has colic and reflux and my eldest has hit the terrible 2s. yes i struggle alot but in no way can i not cope.

also.. if he cant go for fyull custody and they discuss access.. what would the courts see as acceptable?

i am tempted to reduce him seeing my son from 3 nights to 2.. so he has no excuse to say hes got 50/50 custody.

hope im making sense thank you in advance.

DUTR

mumof1and1ontheway wrote: »

Can he do this? sorry i have started a new thread as advised.
he currently has my eldest whos 2 3 nights a week. he see's my 8 week old 2 hrs a week.

he has said he will be taking me to court and going for full custody of my eldest at least. he is using my past depression against me and the fact i self harmed 10 years ago. and says i cannot cope. my youngest has colic and reflux and my eldest has hit the terrible 2s. yes i struggle alot but in no way can i not cope.

also.. if he cant go for fyull custody and they discuss access.. what would the courts see as acceptable?

i am tempted to reduce him seeing my son from 3 nights to 2.. so he has no excuse to say hes got 50/50 custody.

hope im making sense thank you in advance.

Why should he not have 505/50 custody?
Yes he can apply for full custody, only the courts can detrmine if he will be succesful

mumof1and1ontheway

because he wants me to sign he has him 50/50.. so he can get back paid jsa. they stopped paying him because he refused to be available any day of the week. i worry if i signed he would use it against me to try and get full custody or would apply for cb and tc. if i could work i would. but with an 8 week old its hard. but he seems to want to see his son but not work iygwim? so while hes having him 3 nights its 1 big constant argument.

warehouse

mumof1and1ontheway wrote: »

i am tempted to reduce him seeing my son from 3 nights to 2.. so he has no excuse to say hes got 50/50 custody

You're a disgrace to use the children as pawns.

thorsoak

What work history has the father got? Has he ever worked? Ever provided for his family?

I know from your other thread that you are giving him sure start vouchers and sending over nappies etc when he has your little one .....how would he propose feeding the baby? You are b/feeding at the moment aren't you?

Get yourself a good family solicitor - your previous health history has nothing to do with how you are coping now - and the fact that you are coping with a 2 year old and 8 week old baby plus argumentative ex who is hastling you for money/custody so that he can have money shows what a capable person you've become.

Find yourself a good family solicitor .....

gill_81uk

warehouse wrote: »

You're a disgrace to use the children as pawns.

I don't think she is using the children as pawns - she is just concerned he will use this against her.

*hugs* OP - I'm sorry I have no advice but I hope you get things resolved. Certainly not what you need as the new mum of an 8 week old.

thorsoak

warehouse wrote: »

You're a disgrace to use the children as pawns.

Might I suggest you read her other thread.

mumof1and1ontheway

how am i doing that? its me trying to do the best for my kids thats got me in this situation. i do all i can to allow him to see his kids etc. all he does is give me hassle. he sends ds to his mums 1 night a week that he has him. which is why i refuse to agree he has him 50/50. and i always cancel my plans so he can see the youngest when he changes days and times the night before because he "has stuff to do".

i feel like i am running my life around him. yet he gives no 2nd thought about me and my life.

minimoneysaver

I think it is time for you to sit down and decide what you want for your children. It sounds like you have been giving him many mixed messages and many reasons to not want to work, for example sending your two year old off with the healthy food vouchers, which are government issued for you to feed yourself and your new baby and keep you both healthy, which in turn gives your baby a better start in life. They are not to be given away or used in payment for anything else.

mumof1and1ontheway

yes i bf the youngest. i express enough so he can take baby for 2hrs once a week. so he can feed him etc. when we were together he worked on and off. never stayed in a job more than 6 months. was on jsa alot. when i went to uni he was a stay at home dad on jsa.

mumof1and1ontheway

mini i get 4 a month to feed my eldest (hes 2) which is why i send them.. so he can buy fruit and veg for him when he says hes skint.