The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

shaggydoo

September:-


= 7 days AF

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Penelopedee 16

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PLEASE PUT YOUR AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT

gien

Morning Shaggy. Chaos over, on tram going to my course. I'm going to put the full 31days please. I have a wedding to go to and the only time it would be a fuss would be during the toasts, you automatically get given a glass of something fizzy so I will just pretend. Otherwise, wine on the table will only get topped up when the level drops beneath a certain point so I just won't drink.
Have a good day

Trasijocha

needtofacefacts wrote: »

Umm... Hi..... this is my 3rd draft of trying to say hello.... which is something I have wanted to do for months.
I think it has finally come to the point that I know I need some help.
I don't actually remember the last night I didn't have a drink, by which I mean at least a bottle of red, sometimes quite a lot more. To say I don't know how it happens sounds really lame... but I really don't. By the time I go to bed the evening is usually a blur. I know that there must be a trigger but I can't pinpoint what it is - I drink in company, I drink alone, I drink mainly in secret - and for that I am desperately ashamed. For every glass of wine my OH has, I have at least 3, out of sight, from hidden bottles/boxes - scattered all over the house.
I wake up in the middle of the night - and I can't stop thinking about how I want to stop drinking, no - how I NEED to stop drinking. I think about it all day. I am convinced that I will NOT have a drink that evening - all the way home I am sure that I won't, then BAM! I have a glass in my hand and it never stops at one. Once I have one I can't stop. The evening is a write-off.
With my sensible head I know i have a problem - with my less than sensible head I still try to persuade myself that I am fine - but I know I am not.
I read some of your posts with tears streaming down my face - as so many of them I could have written....
I don't really have any expectations, just posting has kind of 'put it out there' made it a bit more real. I can't carry on like this, I know I am throwing my life away, I am doing really rubbish at work - not that anything has been said, but I know I am not performing at my best.

I don't know how to fix this.... I don't know how to fix this without hurting those around me that I love.

Thank you for listening,
NTFF

By setting myself an initial challenge of being AF for 3 days and by following this thread I have managed 24 AF days this month, something which which was unheard of for me before discovering this thread, nobody judges you on here, good luck you CAN do it. Trasij

Trasijocha

I wasnt AF yesterday as I had a glass of red with my mum at my local but I didnt have any in the house to go back to so I drew a line under it straight away and I know I will be AF today so that will be a full 24 AF DAYS THIS MONTH FOR ME PLEASE SHAGGY, TRASIJ P.S. That glass of wine made me ravenously hungry and I ate and ate, now I know why I get so fat so quickly when I`m drinking xx

Trasijocha

My October Target is gonna be 23 AF DAYS PLEASE SHAGGY - TRASIJ

Marru

Well done Trasi :T

Needtofacefacts or NTFF as I am sure you will be known here. You might tell me to s0d of after saying this but first thing you could/should do is to talk openly to your OH. Odds are that he/she already knows but hasn't been able to help you because you haven't been ready. That might be the most difficult thing to do so might be good to get it out of way IYSWIM

365days

needtofacefacts wrote: »

Umm... Hi..... this is my 3rd draft of trying to say hello.... which is something I have wanted to do for months.
I think it has finally come to the point that I know I need some help.
I don't actually remember the last night I didn't have a drink, by which I mean at least a bottle of red, sometimes quite a lot more. To say I don't know how it happens sounds really lame... but I really don't. By the time I go to bed the evening is usually a blur. I know that there must be a trigger but I can't pinpoint what it is - I drink in company, I drink alone, I drink mainly in secret - and for that I am desperately ashamed. For every glass of wine my OH has, I have at least 3, out of sight, from hidden bottles/boxes - scattered all over the house.
I wake up in the middle of the night - and I can't stop thinking about how I want to stop drinking, no - how I NEED to stop drinking. I think about it all day. I am convinced that I will NOT have a drink that evening - all the way home I am sure that I won't, then BAM! I have a glass in my hand and it never stops at one. Once I have one I can't stop. The evening is a write-off.
With my sensible head I know i have a problem - with my less than sensible head I still try to persuade myself that I am fine - but I know I am not.
I read some of your posts with tears streaming down my face - as so many of them I could have written....
I don't really have any expectations, just posting has kind of 'put it out there' made it a bit more real. I can't carry on like this, I know I am throwing my life away, I am doing really rubbish at work - not that anything has been said, but I know I am not performing at my best.

I don't know how to fix this.... I don't know how to fix this without hurting those around me that I love.

Thank you for listening,
NTFF

:T What a step you have maade in the right direction to post that. It's 'out there' now and I think you will find that alone will be such a weight off your shoulders.

Recovery (i.e stopping any drug) if that is what you choose to do is a journey not an event. You've just taken your first step. My journey started off a few steps forward a few steps back (A few days AF followed by a few days on a bender) All the cheesy cliche's are going to come out now about it being a rocky road and such like but you have started it. So well well done.

You say you don't know how to fix it. Some ideas could be; google til your eyes bleed there is tons of info out there about giving up/cutting down, sticking the A word in gets loads up, you may want to consider talking to your gp, or maybe an anonymous call to your local drug and alcohol team to ascertain if it would be safe for you stop drinking on your own (you would have to be really honest about the amount you were drinking)

If that all sounds like too much then wait a few days and mull it over. You've made a huge step and maybe just for now let that sink in.

All the best.

SimIsOnTheUp

jo1972 wrote: »

Pen, my challenge is complete, thanks xx

Congrats Jo! Keep it up

Good Morning all.

My body clock is finally back to normal after a week.

Was spending far too much time online too, so I'm only allowing myself half an hour in the morning and the same in the evenings now. (Swapped one addiction for another.. :rotfl:)

Last cheque to defer today at Money Shop, and then I'll try and raise as much extra money as possible to chuck at the debt over the next month :T

Just enough money then to do a food shop tonight.

Last (I think) 'work focused interview' today at 2pm which I'm not particularly looking forward to, but it'll only be for an hour at the most.

I don't think I have to go to any more then which is a plus as it's the the other side of town. The sessions don't really help me at all, and I don't think the girl knows what to do with me, as I might be off to rehab soon, so I'm in two minds about going for work.

Seeing GP tomorrow, just to keep things in check. Need to ask him for some more Campral (to stave off the cravings). Trying to 'keep it in the day' though and enjoy today first (have trouble with this!)

From memory......

Maman -

Re jobs, I'm looking for anything really! Be it temp or perm Even though I might be going for rehab (depending on whether or not I'm granted funding - 4 others are also applying) I'm still looking :T

Have just made a list of calls to make re money situation, and am off to jump in shower and actually wake up!

Have a great sober day all.

13 days sober here

Sim xx

Posie_Flump_2

Good morning all.

Mother T – Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. Breaking a habit of 30 years must make you feel very liberated. I am blown away with how well you are doing – you are amazing. Another testament to the great work of this thread! Very sorry to hear of the passing of your husband. There is nothing in the world as hard to face as the death of a loved one.xx

Hello Needtofacefacts very pleased to meet you. I think so many of us can identify with your post. Just a few days ago I found some hidden empties in a holdall at the back of my wardrobe – these were from the days when myself and OH first moved in together. Although he drinks he was nowhere near at the level I’d become used to from living on my own. He used to comment upon the amounts I could ‘knock back’ and I was embarrassed so used to sip at a glass or two in his company and then nip upstairs to my stash of mini bottles and do some quick topping up. That was the very first time I thought I perhaps needed to address my drinking – and here I am over 2 years later finally trying to do something about it.

It stood out for me that you mention your OH drinks too. My recent success at having AF days has been helped hugely by my OH cutting down too. Being extremely persuadable I used to get home with the best of intentions and see my OH crack open a can and that was my resolve out of the window and I would be nipping to the shop for a bottle to ‘keep him company’. I’m ashamed to say that since living with me my OHs drinking has increased massively, this is a bit of a pattern as this also happened with my ex-OH. It was something of a relief when I said I was thinking of having a stint of AF days and he was totally in agreement and we spoke openly to each other about how we both were getting out of hand with our daily ‘routine’. Perhaps it is something that you and OH could do together?

I wish you every success in your journey to a happier life – you can do this (oh, and you fixing your life for the better isn’t going to hurt your loved ones – quite the opposite) xx

Flump xx

p.s. SSG so pleased to hear you are doing well x

penelopedee_2

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