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The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

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  • honeybear_2
    honeybear_2 Posts: 3,914 Forumite
    Have eaten some HM casserole & feel a little brighter.

    Budgie, nice to hear from you & good luck to Mr B for tomorrow :A

    Charles, some excellent posts, thank you :)

    Caz, how about getting outside for a walk? Even if it's a short one, the fresh air can do wonders for clearing your mind & lifting your mood. I hope this passes for you soon.

    RN, you've been a little star on here recently :A
    @ LBM = £15,872.65, now £10,819.82
    AF Jan = 7/? Feb = 5/14 Mar = 14/20 Apr = 6/14 May = 2/14 June 2/14 July 0/TF Aug 1/TFv Sept 6/TF Oct 4/7
    "NEVER DOUBT YOUR OWN QUALITY"
  • Glad you are feeling a bit better, HB.

    Very, very best of luck to Mr Budgie for tomorrow.

    What's the tool, Jo?

    xx
    Jan: 24/23 Feb: 21/22 March: 24/25
  • *Mari*
    *Mari* Posts: 473 Forumite
    Debt-free and Proud!
    I've been lurking again for a long time, but not feeling able to post...
    but all these posts today have made me want to say hi :wave:

    I am really begining to get a grip and know that I need to take baby steps I didn't drink yesterday, I am not drinking today and won't be drinking tomorrow...and that's as far as I'm looking.

    Jo I can totally relate to what you have said today, I am for the first time in a long time looking forward to a possitive future :D

    Caz I can so relate to your post, I felt that way for so long, that there was no way out and being scared of what may be there if I stopped drinking. But then something scarier happened, my husband and children would tell me of things I'd said or how I'd behaved the night before, often not nice things, things that a sober me would never say or do and I'd have NO memory at all NONE of anything past a certain point, NOT finishing my drink, locking up the house, going to bed, getting up to the kids if they called. That is scary, really scary and I CANNOT go back to being that person who I don't know but they do. I cannot believe I got so out of control.

    Now I'm taking each day at a time being honest with myself and others. I'm not ashamed anymore, I can make a change, I can say NO today.

    Take care

    Mari x
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
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    Sue, my tool is knowing what started my drinking off and what continued to make me want to drink. I always knew what it was deep down but writing it down today has let me see it in a different light, I am no longer scared of it and it no longer feels like a weight trapped in a secret corner of my mind. I've set it free and I feel free :D

    I am ready to deal with it, long time coming, but I got there eventually!

    Can't tell you all how amazing this makes me feel. Plus I can't tell you all what I've written down. But I can see it in black and white now and it no longer controls me... I can deal with it and I can only deal with it sober, drinking on it will lock it away again and I can't let that happen.

    This is my future and I welcome it.

    Very deep stuff, I'm sorry, but I feel alive for the first time in 20 years :)

    XxxX
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    off to jo's diner now for tea and cake :D
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • penelopedee_2
    penelopedee_2 Posts: 2,698 Forumite
    edited 17 October 2010 at 7:47PM
    :j:j Monday to Thursday Challenge :j:j

    Jo
    Pen
    Randomname
    StressedoutSue
    :) Anyone want to join me, it's only 4 nights :)
    This time I haven't smoked since 6th Jan 2014 and still going ok.
    Fingers crossed x
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
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    Me please Pen and thanks for organising it :)

    No bells here, no inclinations to drink, all very very good here :)
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • honeybear_2
    honeybear_2 Posts: 3,914 Forumite
    Other than meeting my target this month I don't want to set myself any other challenges so I'll pass for now, Pen. If I get most way through AF any night next week then I'll let you know ;)

    Think I shall have a bath :)
    @ LBM = £15,872.65, now £10,819.82
    AF Jan = 7/? Feb = 5/14 Mar = 14/20 Apr = 6/14 May = 2/14 June 2/14 July 0/TF Aug 1/TFv Sept 6/TF Oct 4/7
    "NEVER DOUBT YOUR OWN QUALITY"
  • jo1972
    jo1972 Posts: 8,901 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker
    I am about to go into the off licence to buy electric, there is nothing in me wanting alcohol, nothing. Is this really true?

    I just don't need it, strangely I want a cup
    of tea and I haven't drunk tea since I was pregnant 8 years ago.

    And before you ask, no I'm not!
    DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!
  • 365days
    365days Posts: 1,347 Forumite
    Way to go Jo!
    Hi, we’ve had to remove your signature. If you’re not sure why please read the forum rules or email the forum team if you’re still unsure - MSE ForumTeam
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