Life after bankruptcy?

beanielou

Now Im totally confuddled.
Have I missed something?

savingwannabe

No hope i am exhausted it has been a long day. What does the wooden spoon thing mean? Noone has put me up to this. I love trust and respect pretty much everyone that has tried to offer help and advice I cannot of think of any other solutions. They are here you need to access them. I am just tired and havent got the strength today to put up ideas that let's face it probably will be shot down. Lots of non believers get help at my church and lots of people of a different religion my pastors are kind and do God's work.

I really dont know how i can help you anymore. I am sorry, i tried so hard, sw.

3Dogs

Nohope wrote: »

Ah, i think i know what is going on.


Sw, i have done my best to reply to every post you have made to me. As i'm sure i've already said several times, i don't believe in god, therefore it would'nt be appropriate to go to church.


I sense someone has a very large wooden spoon, and i can guess who it is. What a shame you all feel like that.


But like i've already stated on here. I don't pm or receive pm's,so i've no idea what is happening here. Its way over the top of my head. So if you prefer wooden spoons, c'est la vie.


With love and hugs to you saving wannabee.


Nohope xx

It's a shame, Nohope. that you feel that several posts of a different nature has to mean that there is 'something going on' and that 'someone' is stirring it for you with their 'wooden spoon'. Does there have to be a conspiracy involved? Couldn't it just simply be that these people have seen their advice ignored or avoided so many times that, seeing that it was not helping, had decided that trying another avenue seemed appropriate - perhaps to help you look afresh at your situation and possible remedies?

It is so sad that you have to think that conspiracies are involved here and not just dedicated people offering different advice

MatyMoo

Blimey, it seems as though I have missed a tough 48 hours

Glad you are still here, even if you are struggling.

So many people on here care for you and want to help - they may be repeating things that have been suggested many times before but there are a lot of pages to check back over!

As the words of the song goes "Every body needs somebody". I just wish that you had that somebody you could open up to and whose help you would be prepared to accept.

I for one would be happy to help you, even a small food parcel to help you through until the money shows up in your bank account. I want nothing in return. PM me if you feel you could accept this small gesture.

As for your comment about PM's..... My experience is there is very little done via PM's here, no talking behind people's backs. PM's are usually used to share the personal bits that you don't want to share with the whole MSE world but are happy to share with one or two that you have become close to and feel you can trust. An example of this is Mike's Mob, we shared our personal email addresses so that we could organise ourselves to help out on the DIY SOS show - someone none of us had actually met in real life but had grown to know through his thread. And the power of the thread got the BBC involved to get him his home rebuilt after a dodgy builder left him in dire straits. Anyway 10 of us shared email addresses and from that mobile numbers. None of that trust has been abused. Sorry if this bit seems like a rant but I did take exception to your view of PM's!

Wordsmith

I've been using this forum for over two years and I have received a grand total of 10 PMs: 3 to do with web site addresses from the self-employed lot, since they couldn't give them in the thread; 4 regarding bereavement; 1 asking advice about looking for work; 1 in response to a message I sent asking someone a question that had nothing to do with the forum; and 1 from the MSE webmaster warning about bogus messages, which presumably got sent to everyone. I've sent just 7 messages - all to do with the other half of the "conversation" for the messages I've received. Don't feel persecuted - I expect everyone has been quite open in the thread and are not whispering to each other without your knowledge.

beanielou

I have only sent you PM's to offer you help support & friendship.
As you know you werent happy to accept that teeny little gesture of help.
I am saddened that that is so but it has to be your decision.
I wish you well & hope you can get through March.

MicheH

I posted to you a fair few hours ago that I could give you a super website that could help you eat nutritiously for very little money. You did not even ask about what that site was. I had an email and a PM request asking to provide the link from people reading your diary, but not yourself.

It was at that point where I thought, "aaah he doesn't want help" he just wants somewhere to offload which is completely fair enough but you turned quick quickly on me today as I wasn't offering the 'there, there' approach. I'm now having nothing more to do with your thread and definitely not now you have set upon savingwannabe. She has been a fantastic support to you over this time whether you like it or not, you must realise that.. what you have just typed is below the belt.

3Dogs

Can I just add something here? A lot of people have offered you friendship, advice and support and it would appear that you have thrown it back in their faces, especially savingwannabe who's only thoughts throughout all of this has been to help you, make you feel less alone, and to offer her friendship

All that is your decision, as I said before, but do not try to turn any 'blame' on those people, or make them out to be something they are not. There are so many people on these threads who spend all their spare time offering advice and support - they do it because they want to and because there is a need, with so many people in dire straits where finances are concerned. They don't do it for themselves, for some sort of goodness feeling about themselves, they do it because it is needed, because they care, because other people matter to them

To try to make out otherwise is wrong and hurtful

p.s. this is the last you will hear from me too Nohope - I do hope that you can sort yourself out, if that is needed, but am so sorry that you have turned down the help so freely offered on here

jen_br

Just some info I found out today

1-- The job centre can help you with transport to and from work -- spoke to an advisor today

2-- If you want to post the car you have I can have someone in the industry *car industry* ask around for buyers.

ani_26

Have i set upon saving wannabee? I sent her love and hugs. Is that setting upon her? You've lost me there, too.


I've taken on board the repeated advice again and again, but the benefits agency won't help me. What am i supposed to do? I visit all sections of this forum, and i'm well aware, of how to make the most of what little you have. I'm old, from the old school, remember? You'd be surprised what i can do with food. I can even make a queen of puddings, which no one has heard of, these days.


I am sorry, but i just can't go to church, so if i've said once, i can't go, then i can't go.

No one really knows what its been like, because they are not wearing my shoes. You all say, just be me. So i am me. But you don't like me? Well, i'm just being me.

Maybe there are some times in your life, when all you need is a simple hug, so perhaps you don't know me at all. Just a hug. No one can take your problems away, and maybe i come from a different planet, in the way i view things, and express myself.


I saw a programme last night, where a young girl was on suicide watch. It hit home to me. Because unlike the young girl, i don't have a history of mental illness. I have'nt repeatedly tried to harm myself, throughout my life. I've never even taken anti depressants, tranquilizers, or whatever they are. But like the intro to mse, i got myself into such a state of debt, i could see only one solution. I had a ' glitch ' yesterday. I go from one extreme to the other, and theres no in between. It came from nowhere. Chemical imbalance, i doubt it. I'm just an ordinary person, albeit, eccentric, or whatever you like to call it, because maybe i don't puport to be like everyone else. Maybe i cut my nose off to spite my face, but i'll never change.



Back to my diary. Maybe the underlying reason i'm so wound up at the moment, apart from the fact i'm currently penniless, is my tests tomorrow. I still blank it out, but i'm not looking forward to it. Then theres the waiting for results again. I've got to go to work afterwards, on a late, and i know it will be unpleasant afterwards. They'll ask me how i am. And i'll smile and say i'm fine. What else can i say? No i'm bloody not.


But do you know what? I will get there. I will beat everything. But its not something you can do overnight. Its not a light switch you can turn on, and say hey, i'm positive, lets be happy. Theres still obstacles i've got to overcome. And anyone who thinks they know me from my misunderstood writing, would'nt believe the real me, if they met me. I'm ' normally ' outgoing, can chat to anyone about anything. Bizarrely, i've been ' told off ' by various people, all my life, for laughing too much, though i've never understood why.

But only my diary knows how tough its been for me.


Theres nowt so funny as folk