Life after bankruptcy?

MicheH

Morning nohope. You're moving on though, I can tell. Still in limbo but moving on, progressing. Once the 'pain' the eating your every waking thought subsides there is a long period of just existing, living the life in limbo, wondering what it is that you're meant to be doing to make your mark on the world, in terms of the 'new start' I mean. There's no hiding that this is going to be a difficult year for you because you sound just like me going through this as you're beating yourself up badly about it.

Just remember we're conditioned human beings. There's a process we must go through... bankruptcy is something we did/had to do that has consequences. We're practically dealing with the consequences but like everything, as human beings we have deal mentally with what has happened. Just a process - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. How far throught the process do you think you are? I'm finally at acceptance but I can look back and tick off the stages one by one by how I was feeling and what I was doing. Like I discovered, we're just text book cases dealing with life.

Chin up x

savingwannabe

crumbling wrote: »

oh, and nohope - yes you WILL get through any melancholy-ish thoughts. they will still happen but they will become rarer xxx

(see, i just invented a word so that proves i is intelligent:D)

Why aren't you intelligent? You certainly have emotional intelligence? :j:j:j

I hope today goes well for everyone.

crumbling

savingwannabe wrote: »

Why aren't you intelligent? You certainly have emotional intelligence? :j:j:j

I hope today goes well for everyone.

Aww thanks x
Maybe its my life of unusual events which has given me plenty of experience...

crumbling

Not been about much this week nohope, sorry. Illness. You've been in my thoughts tho. I thought I had 'a cold' but heck its knocked me about! Ridiculous to be ill, really annoys me.
Hope you're ok? Make sure you do get some rest or you won't be able to do any job. x

ani_26

crumbling wrote: »

Aww thanks x
Maybe its my life of unusual events which has given me plenty of experience...

Ditto, hey xx


I hope you are feeling better now, crumbling, and glad to hear you are getting your car insurance sorted out, too.

Speaking of cars, i've just heard my car is now repaired, and it will be back tomorrow. Thats a whole month since the accident. Which means its a whole month since my home was repossessed, too. My, time flies, but not neccessarily when you're having fun.

I've not been on here too much either, as i've found it really upsetting, and i've really had enough upset now. Its just easier to move on, without continously talking about bankruptcy and repossession, and certain peoples attitude towards you. Besides the fact working almost continously, gives almost little time, for anything else, except sleep. Of course, i'm still unable to completely put it all behind me until the house, is taken possession of, ( because it still has'nt), and sold, and i'm still waiting to hear about my extension of bankruptcy too.

So miche, yes, i probably am at the acceptance stage now. I don't know what stage follows.


Nohope


My thoughts are with you too, crumbling xx

ani_26

And what is happening right now, is testament to why i don't need the upset, and i don't come on here anymore. But you are not allowed to stand up fpr yourself, otherwise you are bullied, and labelled. Its all very sad.

MicheH

I pm'd you Nohope. You're right. It is very sad.

beanielou

Sorry, I think I may be missing something.

savingwannabe

No hope are you ok? if you fancy some entertainment we are discussing fritty he has travelled to work in this and we are worried about him on 3dogs's thread. do pop on. we miss you. Dont you let any rotters get you down. We wont either.

ani_26

I'll say this once and for all and for the only time.

I know there are childish games happening on this website, that i've inadvertently been caught up in, although i'm doing my best to ignore them.I suspect there are certain people using many different aliases, maybe even having conversations with themselves.What a shame you have nothing better to do. I'm not here for social networking purposes. I'm here for advice on bankruptcy, repossession etc. After all, is'nt there a bankruptcy forum? Then i saw the diary section.

I am Nohope.

I have only ever been Nohope, and i only ever will be Nohope. I am me. I am not pretending to be someone else, nor am i someone else, pretending to be me.

I feel very sad for all those people, who are deriving pleasure from cyberbullying, and playing games. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Imagine how you would feel, if you were genuine,and people treated you like this, after you've just been all the way to hell. I won't say and back, yet.

Because my diary was/ has been very real to me, as is everything i've been through. I don't know how i would have made it through these last months without this forum. The only place i could go, and speak openly about what was happening.

Yes there may be some other people here, who are genuine, too. I've truely, really been touched by the replies i've had, from people, here. But the insincerity and lack of respect human beings show each other these days, was another reason i was questioning the whole purpose of life, when i started my diary.

You are so, so wrong about me. But i feel sorry for you. Because yes, i can rise about it. I'm an extrordinary person. Stronger than most, probably.I'm still here, after all i've been through. Who else could have coped on their own? but me. A true diamond. Its about time I stopped beating myself up, too. Words fail me now