Life after bankruptcy?

Aesop

I hope you don't leave ani. There are a few diaries I check daily, although don't always post, especially if just reading from my phone. And I miss reading yours, even if someone else has posted, especially miggy .

Interesting you talking about selfish people. I feel one of my work colleagues is very selfish, only cares about herself and this week has annoyed me beyond hell, so much we are not talking to each other.

And then yesterday I was telling DS off for being selfish and how he only thinks of himself, because he wanted a biscuit before leaving nursery. I told him I had food for him, and he didn't need the biscuit and could we go because we were going to miss the bus. They are only every half hour and it is half an hour standing in the rain, etc.

But he insisted on having his biscuit, which I said no to as then the other kids ask for one and it wasn't time for them to have one.... causes tears... and we missed the bus.

Then as we are walking along and I am telling him off for being selfish like his father, I am wondering how do you teach a 3 year old how not to be selfish? How do you teach the concept of selfishness?

He is a very sweet child and does share at certain times, but can be very stubborn when he wants something not that I always give in and he knows that!

The colleague at work, she decided she wants breakfast. Ok, no problem she helps herself to my other colleague's cereal..... she doesn't ask, she just takes..... now, this colleague lives on his own. His family are in another country. He is self supporting, pays rent, council tax, buys his own food, does his own laundry, has 3 jobs, just to exist.

So he brings his own food to work, so he doesn't have to spend money.

She helps herself without asking :mad:,she finished his cereal! And she said to me, I will buy him some more. I thought " have you asked him if you can eat it?" I went in and asked him, and he said no. She just assumed she could eat it! So they went out at lunchtime and he asked her if she knew exactly what cereal it was as he doesn't bring in the box and she said yes. Then she just offered to give him some money and he could go and buy it himself! :doh: :wall:

She would come and sit in our office and have her breakfast, half an hour of work time wasted. So I made a comment, and she said don't you want me in here and I said no. She has since stopped sitting in our office having breakfast. This colleague comes in at 8.15am, start time 8am goes to the toilet, puts on make up for 20 minutes, has breakfast for half an hour, lunch for 2 hours, and then goes home at 4pm.

She even had the cheek to say to me, the Assessor is meeting his learners on this day, and wants me to contact them and let them all know about this arrangement. I said I know nothing about this and I don't understand it. She said to me, I will text all the learners and tell them - 10 of them, you can send all 10 and email to tell them......


:mad::mad::mad::mad:

excuse me.... I don't have their email addresses. yes you do, they are in the email we all get. Well, so I have to now look for this email? I don't have their emails to hand, as I don't contact them. I haven't been told to.

Oh - so I have to do it myself? - yes I say to my colleague and she stomps off in a huff.

It is not my job description and it is her job, I knew nothing about this arrangement, and she just wanted me do her work as she couldn't be bothered!

I was looking at some process maps that I have to produce in visio and she has a particular job that she has to do, it is clearly written in the process. Guess what? She gives the job to my colleague to do as she doesn't have time.....

me and my colleague - the good one, so want out of this company! The people are all me, me, me, selfish. And very quick to push their work onto someone else!


sorry ani, I have taken over your diary again. Maybe I should have a diary not about being DFW but about my moans!

burnt DS's muffins because of my rant! poor DS he made them this morning as we are going to meet his friend.

moral of the story, I understand what you mean about selfish people!

how awful that your colleague wants the 2p you found :mad::mad: that is what this colleague at work would do!

I hope you can make your shopping list soon and that you get to go food shopping soon.

got to run. And promise no more long posts.

miggy

A very quick post to say I've not forgotten you but if I attempt at this point to answer all the things I am tempted to answer, I will be late for work in an hour.

Take care. x

Aesop

Hope you are ok, maybe you are working away?

kerri_gt

I'm still here too - been offline a bit more than usual for varius reasons but still thinking of you ani xx

SazM030306

I moved house on the 23rd and am still not back online (thank the lord for libraries!) but I have been thinking of you often Ani xxx

ani_26

Thankyou xx

Hovel_lady

Still around as well - how are you ani?
xx

Hovel_lady

Tried to PM you but mailbox full.
Thank you xx

ani_26

Blooming heck, its amazing, Whenever a thread is closed on a certain board there's always a certain person involved, and personally i agree with the other viewpoint. How is it they have got away with being not so nice, for so long? Just goes to show, you can't live your life on the tinternet and it isn't worth being upset by others small mindedness.

This copied for my own benefit

I don't know how to start this post. You all probably see me as being cynical or whatever, but i like to think i'm not. Its just i'm on the outside looking in, as it were, to a place i don't belong, constantly. I suppose i've been ' lucky ' although i've always made my own luck. Always worked hard. I was like you too, fw. Always jeting off somewhere. Maybe i see alot of myself in you. Past tense. Maybe my irritation with mse, now. Seeing so many people spending so much time writing lists, reading this or that blog, writing this or that blog, following someone else's ideas. Maybe there is a place for it. I don't know, but there isn't a place for it in my world. All these people who say i don't have time to give someone else 10 minutes of their time to someone else. Who is the loser? I can't pop in and say hi to you because i don't have time for you. You're not worthy of my time. I owe you nothing. We all owe everyone at least a smile. At the very least.


None of it matters, except the here and now. Take time to give someone that smile. To say hello to someone. It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people who travel on public transport to work everyday. The same time everyday. For years. Yet they never converse with each other. I find it so sad, unbelievable, even. Maybe its just me, but i'll talk to anyone about anything. I may have no real friends, but it doesn't stop me being able to converse with anyone about anything. I suppose that is giving them my time.


Its easy, of course for me to look back and reflect. If only i'd done that. And this. I wish i'd done that. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, as they say. My life would be oh so different now. But i didn't, unfortunately, and the last place i wanted to be, is the place i am now. I won't end up like you, i hear you say. Maybe not. But you never know what is round the corner.

Take time , yes time, just to appreciate what is around you. How many times do you listen to the birds sing? watch the clouds in the sky. Smell the ( polluted ) air. Its all free and self awareness. Its what life is all about. Take time to appreciate and spend time with your loved ones. Maybe one day you'll understand what i'm talking about.


As ever i reach a point where i run out of words to say

ani_26

EUREKA


Today i found somewhere which sells black peas. I am now going to attempt a world record to see how cheap and viable it is to sustain life on a diet of black peas.