Life after bankruptcy?

ani_26

caledonian_princess wrote: »

There was a t*tco near me when I was growing up but it was a completely different store then, a lot more down market. I think they might have moved their target market in the 1980s or something.

Petrol... it seems to be dropping at the moment, is about 3p cheaper this week than last.

Hope the dentist goes ok, can't stand them myself.

You're right, tatco was more downmarket, ( it still is, is'nt it) :rotfl:, along with fine fare. To me, its never changed. Was'nt it more like kw*k save was. Things in boxes? and not on shelves. Initial impressions and all that. Like mud. Wheres miggy? Was'nt she making some mud? :rotfl:


Well. Tatco is right at the bottom of my list, particularly since i went wombling today, and could'nt find any receipts. Pah. Try again tomorrow. I don't favour their fuel anyway, but it was 133.9p, which would have made ot 128.9p. Sadly, i never spend £50 in ANY supermarket, so i'll never get my own receipt :rotfl:

miggy

Mud successfully made, thanks Ani.

How was the dentist?

ani_26

I still have'nt worked out how to do all this multiquote malarkey :rotfl:


What did i enjoy the most? The Galapagos and Ecuador, closely followed by learning to sail a yacht, all in the uk. Unfortunately i'll never afford to become a yachtmaster, which does'nt matter, because i'd never have afforded my own yacht, even before bankruptcy :rotfl:But i love the challenge. You, against the elements, Theres nothing like it. Complete freedom

Hmmm the spirit of adventure, i once had.


Oh i forgot to say. You could'nt really call it the worst, but i was'nt too keen on Bulgaria, but then things have probably changed nowadays. I guess it was 20+ years ago, whenever Eddie the * was training for the winter olymps,

ani_26

So on your thread miggy, you were talking about rekindling friendships, which leads me think about the stark reality, i don't have any friendships to rekindle. I'm pretty self sufficient. Quite a hardy variety. Some might picture me to be a nerd, something like mr bean, but i'm not. Every one has friends don't they? Most people can't survive without their own little gangs of support ? Safety in numbers. This is turning out to be cynical and i did'nt intend it to be. Thats maybe why its been so difficult to get through this, and why i started offloading myself in my diary, in the first place.

Because i simply did'nt have anyone i could ring, on an evening and say, how are you? and they would ask the same in return. Years of bottling everything up and having no one to talk to, maybe took its toll on me. There was the S*'S, of course. I rang them a couple of times, but its not the same as having some one who actually cares enough about you as a person. But then are'nt most friendships are one sided, anyway? As long as you are the one thats doing all the giving, and not the taking, then generally, its fine. It seems to me, i've always been a giver.



Forgot about the dentist. Thank god for the good old nhs.I din't know why people complain about it. I've never had cause to complain, but then, some people complain about everything and everybody. If you need them, they always come up trumps. I'm sure i'd get shot down for saying that, but at least we still have an nhs.

Had everything checked out, xrays etc, and it seems likely my toothache is due to sinus problems. That seems very likely. But at least it only cost me £17. I'm trying to play down the fact i've moved counties, because nhs practices are like gold dust, and i'm prepared to travel. I fell out with my old dentist, when he went into private practice, and was going to charge me an extorionate amount of money to stay on his books. Maybe i'm too set in my ways, because i grew up with the good old nhs.

ani_26

miggy wrote: »

Mud successfully made, thanks Ani.

How was the dentist?

The dentist was fine, thanks x

I'm not one of these people who gets myself in stew about going, in fact i have all my treatment without pain relief, as i loathe having a numb mouth for a whole day. I much prefer slight discomfort for a few minutes, than having an injection and the aftermath from it. :rotfl:

I don't know what all the hooha is about :rotfl:

Aesop

ani_26 wrote: »

The dentist was fine, thanks x

I'm not one of these people who gets myself in stew about going, in fact i have all my treatment without pain relief, as i loathe having a numb mouth for a whole day. I much prefer slight discomfort for a few minutes, than having an injection and the aftermath from it. :rotfl:

I don't know what all the hooha is about :rotfl:

well I think I have a pretty high pain threshold, but last night, I was awake for 5 hours, as the pain in my tooth was so bad, so high above my pain threshold, I couldn't sleep. I took paracetomol, antibiotics, put gel on to numb it, nothing worked, 5 hours later found some iburopfen, 1 hour later, asleep, finally!

miggy

WARNING: long post!

ani_26 wrote: »

I still have'nt worked out how to do all this multiquote malarkey :rotfl:

Click the orange speech bubble at the end of each post you want to quote, then when you've clicked them all, click 'Post Reply'. Then yell for help.

I think there is a way of dragging sections of text if you want to comment in between sections (as I'm doing now) but I don't know how - only that I seem to have done something like it by accident, LOL. I copy and paste the bits at the beginning and end of the quoted passages (in square brackets) to separate my comments from the quoted sections, which is tedious but it works.

A very good alternative is to change the colour of the text so your replies stand out.

ani_26 wrote: »

What did i enjoy the most? The Galapagos and Ecuador, closely followed by learning to sail a yacht, all in the uk.

You lucky so and so! You really have been to some fantastic places! I've never been in a yacht but I remember a canoeing holiday when I was a teenager which was on a smaller scale but again - just me, the canoe and the big wide water - oh, and some mountains. Lovely. I wonder if it's one of those skills you never forget? I love boats, I'm usually the one on deck making the most of every moment.

And did you get to see the giant tortoises in the Galapagos?

ani_26 wrote: »

Oh i forgot to say. You could'nt really call it the worst, but i was'nt too keen on Bulgaria, but then things have probably changed nowadays. I guess it was 20+ years ago, whenever Eddie the * was training for the winter olymps,

Fly, Eddie, fly! I remember those days! Ha ha. I suppose Bulgaria (he was a Womble too, wasn't he?) will have changed. The first thing you see is probably Tesco, with a magpie outside... (sigh).

ani_26 wrote: »

So on your thread miggy, you were talking about rekindling friendships, which leads me think about the stark reality, i don't have any friendships to rekindle. I'm pretty self sufficient. Quite a hardy variety. Some might picture me to be a nerd, something like mr bean, but i'm not. Every one has friends don't they? Most people can't survive without their own little gangs of support ? Safety in numbers. This is turning out to be cynical and i did'nt intend it to be. Thats maybe why its been so difficult to get through this, and why i started offloading myself in my diary, in the first place.

Because i simply did'nt have anyone i could ring, on an evening and say, how are you? and they would ask the same in return. Years of bottling everything up and having no one to talk to, maybe took its toll on me. There was the S*'S, of course. I rang them a couple of times, but its not the same as having some one who actually cares enough about you as a person. But then are'nt most friendships are one sided, anyway? As long as you are the one thats doing all the giving, and not the taking, then generally, its fine. It seems to me, i've always been a giver.

Friendships undoubtedly have their place. Time and tide can get in the way, of course, and our needs and abilities in friendships can vary over time. And I think it's harder to be a receiver than a giver: our society's all set up so we find our value in independence and not being perceived as needy, but somehow the logic falls down there. We can all be givers, but that requires receivers, so logically and in order to strengthen relationships, we could all do with a course on receiving too. I know it's something I find hard. I never want to put other people out, but when I thought about it, that is because in my case I see myself as marginal to any group I'm in. But how am I going to integrate if I a) don't find ways to get to know others better (why should they do all the running?) and b) don't allow them to become givers? Oh dear, I think this should have gone on my thread! It's something I'm trying to think through myself right now. Sorry . Anyway thanks for the space to think it through!

So... if you're an independent type, I'm guessing from what you've said elsewhere that you have a convivial personality which makes other people assume all is well, you are an easy person to get on with, you have all the social skills, etc? Those are all good things. I have no doubt that if we met, I would find you easy to get on with. The difficulty is that these skills can become a mask which isolates us from others. (Got that tee shirt myself - it was scary). I think that makes sense... so being the 'real you' in your diary can seem very negative/cynical but actually it's valuable because althogh you're a strong and able person, you also need to be recognised as a whole person, and have the opportunity to talk things through and the right to be heard.

Regarding the 'how are you?'... how many of us really ask that of anyone? We had a remarkable friend once who believed that if you asked how someone was, you should be willing to give what it took to improve their life. And he did - where he found a need, he went out of his way to support that person. Mostly it's just a phrase, isn't it? And sometimes you find people who wouldloveto help but they just don't have the resources themselves dont just financially but in terms of emotional resources, knowledge or whatever. I've been in that position more than once: I wanted to be the support someone needed but I just could do no more. Eventually I came to see that even if I couldn't solve someone's problems, there's a value in just being there, and if I can't even do that, I can still offer my friendship, inadequate though it's proved, at some other time.

I think, from what you've just said, your friendships so far just haven't had the depth you needed when things got tough, yet you have been developing the skills of talking about what's going on 'inside', through writing a diary. 'One man in a thousand, Solomon says, will stick more close than a brother. and it's worthwhile seeking him half of your days if you find him before the other'. (Can't be sure who said that? Kipling?) Your task, should you choose to accept it, is to be that bit more open in the 'real world' - you can continue to be the giver, because that's what you are and it's a good thing and people need it, but allow others to give too. There will be people you can make reciprocal friendships with - and yes, friendships aren't always equal - give and take isn't like that.

ani_26 wrote: »

Forgot about the dentist. Thank god for the good old nhs.I din't know why people complain about it.

Good ol' NHS! And £17!! Yes, the NHS may have its failings but IMO that's partly because it's a victim of its own success. If we go down with something, there's a sort of general expectation that 'someone will do something' and that we deserve it to be that way. I have been grousing that it's so hard to get an appointment with podiatry, but I guess at least it's there, a competent person examines my feet, tells me the NHS doesn't provide the video equipment that would enable them to do a technical analysis, and then procedes to do the analysis themselves even though it takes longer. And then I get treatment. Good stuff. Sorry,... I was going to say - glad you don't need any fillings!

This has taken ages for me to put into words, I hope a bit of it's some use but if it isn't, you're welcome to kick it out. Pop psychology can be annoying. :D

miggy

Aesop wrote: »

well I think I have a pretty high pain threshold, but last night, I was awake for 5 hours, as the pain in my tooth was so bad, so high above my pain threshold, I couldn't sleep. I took paracetomol, antibiotics, put gel on to numb it, nothing worked, 5 hours later found some iburopfen, 1 hour later, asleep, finally!

Owww! That's horrendous. What's happening about the dentist? Is it a case of waiting till the antibiotics kick in?

Aesop

miggy wrote: »

Owww! That's horrendous. What's happening about the dentist? Is it a case of waiting till the antibiotics kick in?

yep, have to finish the antibiotics, then he wants me to go and have my teeth cleaned then talk about the root canal.

Haven't got time or patience for that! so will ring dental hospital and see if they will do root canal in a couple of weeks time. It has been going on for over 7 months, I can't keep waiting for something to be done. Last night I was ready to kill someone with the pain I was in.

ani_26

Aesop wrote: »

yep, have to finish the antibiotics, then he wants me to go and have my teeth cleaned then talk about the root canal.

Haven't got time or patience for that! so will ring dental hospital and see if they will do root canal in a couple of weeks time. It has been going on for over 7 months, I can't keep waiting for something to be done. Last night I was ready to kill someone with the pain I was in.

:grouphug::grouphug: Aesop. You must be in agony xx


Last night I was ready to kill someone with the pain I was in - quote

Hmm, i should say can i be the volunteer? :rotfl::rotfl: