**Weekend Chat Thread 18/19th Sep Day 7 of the challenge!

clairewop

Well disaster just struck in the kitchen, dh peeled the masking tape off the walls after he had painted the ceiling and it took the paint with it

BB after reading what you have said, I think you already know what to do Don't let it happen, especially if you are eventually going to end the relationship with OH.

scaredy_cat

BB, you love that house, and even though you are sad that your ex is selling, i'mn sure you would want a family who WANTS to live in the house and be happy there to have it.

In my opinion, it sounds like if your OH does buy it, he'll find some excuse to turf your ex out at a whim, if he can. I also get a feeling that perhaps your OH wants the house because you want it but can't afford it, adn it's something he can have over you. IYSWIM.

scaredy_cat

claire, was the masking tape taken off when the paint was dry? That might be why it came off.

tenmah

BB - When I read what you had put and knowing the little I know about OH from what you have said about him - my head was screaming NO. There are lots of houses for sale, WHY would he want that one - just seems a way to get at you in some way.

Ames

BB, I wouldn't touch that offer with a ten foot bargepole. You've already said all the reasons it's a bad idea. I think it's weird that he'd want to be so involved in your ex's life.

clairewop

scaredy_cat wrote: »

claire, was the masking tape taken off when the paint was dry? That might be why it came off.

yes the paint was dry

sammy115

BB - its seems your OH wants to buy a house the easy way.

And why get you involved. If he wants to buy your ex-OH's house then let him approach your ex-OH and let your ex-OH decide whether to accept or not. No need for you to get involved, although I do think if he did buy it, it opens up a whole new world of problems that you don't really want....

Suzy....I am glad I have at least provoked some thought. You will all be glad to know that tomorrow is day seven and the last day of the challenge...:rotfl:

Burlesque_Babe

thankyou for helping me think it all through. It's been doing my head in all week I have shed a few tears of stress over the last few days as it's really hurt my brain

I have decided that if I lie to OH he may threaten to go and knock on the door to try to persuade him. I am unsure whether he would go through with it as he knows that my ex will flatly say 'no' to him when he knows who he is. If I have lied, my ex will wonder who the hell the person at the door is, say he doesn't know what he is talking about and my OH will go mad for lying to him.

So I have decided to tell my ex that I have had this offer put to me and to pass on as a message. I will explain it all. I will then say that I have reservations in that I personally don't know if he would come through with the money. I will say that I could be wrong but as I have heard him talk about doing something similar more than once and not gone through with it, I feel I should tell him this so he can make the decision himself. I don't need to tell him it's my OH and I am not going to say about my thoughts about him being turfed out through a loophole. I don't think I'll need to as I really genuinely don't think he can get the money as easily as he says he can.

As my ex needs to ensure a sale goes through, I very much doubt he will consider it as the current offer is moving along with no (at the moment) sounds of the buyer dropping out.

I won't be telling my OH that I've also passed on my reservations but if I don't I will feel I'm being unfair to my ex and as a friend it isn't something I would do to him.

Buffythedebtslayer

sammy115 wrote: »

4. I have a Masters degree 2013?
- get off my fat bum and do some work

Buffy this is not really broken down what I would call a carefully considered plan...:rotfl:

Really? damn! I thought it was a great plan!;)

And BB you will be getting shot of that awful man VERY soon. You don't want him to have any links to your life once you have kicked him out and you don't want your ex oh to be hurt by him either emotionally or economically. I can't believe exoh doesn't know your "new" bloke, that is akward.

Just say your ex isn't interested (and frankly seriously investigate the mortgage option with ex, you never know!)

xxx


ooops too late!

Buffythedebtslayer

BB why can't you tell ex oh its your Oh?

he knows you are with someone now right?