my 12yr old has "started"

gabycat

Jinx wrote: »

I bought a few packs in advance and let her 'experiment' with the different brands, towels and tampons. Maybe you could buy a variety (finances allowing)?

I also got my daughter a great book about periods, written by a 15 year old and her aunt and I know she read it a few times. Its 'The Period Book' by Karen and Jennifer Gravelle.

HTH

Thanks i will look for that, anything to make it easier

nikki&asha

I've got a pack ready for my DD from boots - they are called Ultra Teen and are shorter and narrower. I got them instore in Boots about 6 months when she turned 9 (we start very early in my family). So you can get them - good luck.

gabycat

CupOfChai wrote: »

My mum gave me some of those slightly old-fashioned giant thick pads that she used. Don't even bother going there, they were useless and were terrible for me. You could get her a pack of pads (ones with wings stay in place easier which can be handy) and a pack of tampons, then she can practice in the privacy and comfort of home and decide what she prefers. Any of the brands will do to get her but women do generally develop a preference and end up sticking to one or two brands. Try a few different brands or types, not all at once but just when the one pack runs out, buy a different brand for the next pack. I notice you specifically mention what pads should she have, it is perfectly possible for her also to use tampons if she would like to.

Have you asked her what she wants to use or try using? It is likely she may have considered it before.[/QUOTE

She has said (when we had THE TALK ) she would start with towels and then try tampons, so tbh its just getting happy with anything atm, but it just seems to be adult products on the market

CupOfChai

gabycat wrote: »

Thanks, mine is 4'10 weighs 5 stone and is still wearing age 9 clothes. so she is a little thing.

So i think always (which is what i use) is not for her,
thank you thou

funny how different they can be at the same age, my 5 yr old is in age 7 stuff

Size has nothing to do with what your periods are like (so long as you are healthy, as of course being under- or overweight can affect them). I'm not much bigger than your daughter!

As for the person who asked how much it is at first, when the period gets going proper it's as different for each girl as it is for adult women who have had periods for years. Some are very light and short, some very heavy and with many problems. It can take a while for them to settle down too, so a girl may have a light period to start with, then the next one could be heavy, and it's normal that they can have irregular periods for a while or miss them. My first few proper periods were much heavier than they eventually ended up being.

Just saw your reply, I think it might just be adult products because young girls still have adult periods! Don't be surprised if she even sometimes needs to use a higher absorbency than you do. There's still a misconception floating around a lot of people that "Super" or "Super Plus" towels or tampons are meant for older women, they're not. Everyone regardless of age should be using the type their flow dictates they need.

Stephb1986_2

God its years since I had a period through my own choice but I use to buy some that were quite thin and stayed where they should! It probably was bodyform and they were in a orange packet when I use to buy them but that was a good 3 years ago.

Why not get her a little make up bag that she can put in her school bag with a spare pair of undies in, some wet wipes, pain killers, towels and mini spray perfume or something. I got a cracking make up bag from debenhams it was about £5 it was blue with spots on

HTH

Steph xx

sueeve

It might be an idea to look at the range in an independent chemist. They often seem to have different things which the supermarkets don't have, and at competitive prices.

LillythePink

Thanks for the tips on the Boots ones - I will get some - my daughter is almost 11 and I want to have somethings around for her for when she starts

Also, thanks CoC - I really can't remember about mine when I started all i remember is my mum being very matter of fact and just shoving a towel at me saying that now I've started I'd better wear one of these! I don't want that for my daughter - we have already loads of talks about it all

gabycat

LillythePink wrote: »

This is a stupid question here and you may not know but and this may be a bit TMI of a question but......

How much do they actually lose when they first start?

If it is not a lot and doesn't last for long can she not try panty liners? - they do come in slightly smaller sizes and are obviously thinner than normal towels etc

It is not a stupid question, and i totally understand what you mean, but i was very heavy from the start, and i don't want her to have any accidents iyswim

shellsuit

CupOfChai wrote: »

Size has nothing to do with what your periods are like (so long as you are healthy, as of course being under- or overweight can affect them). I'm not much bigger than your daughter!

As for the person who asked how much it is at first, when the period gets going proper it's as different for each girl as it is for adult women who have had periods for years. Some are very light and short, some very heavy and with many problems. It can take a while for them to settle down too, so a girl may have a light period to start with, then the next one could be heavy, and it's normal that they can have irregular periods for a while or miss them. My first few proper periods were much heavier than they eventually ended up being.

Size might not have anything to do with what periods are like, but smaller sized knickers can't hold the same size towels as comfortably.

Someone has mentioned a teen range in Boots. I had them for my daughter, well I'd bought them when she was about 10 and put them in the top of her wardrobe, but when she started, she found they just weren't enough. I guess it would have been like us using a panty liner for a normal flow period.

Can you look on the shelves for something which is slim? I don't think it matter about the length, but if they are to fit her knickers properly, they'd need to be quite slim I'd think??

And for whoever asked, 12 year old girls can have the same heavy flow as their Mother, believe me!

zoesmummy_2006

i was gonna suggest bodyform, they're good and you can get a tin to put in your bag that will hold one or 2 towels. hugs to your daughter, bet the poor lass feels like everythings happening all at once!! xxx