I've just found out I'm pregnant....

slummymummyof3

Try extra strong mints.

hngrymummy

Make sure you get enough fluids, even if you only have a sip at a time. Severe dehydration is not something I'd recommend

graemecarter

Take your time to decide, and discuss it with your OH - it is just as much his baby/problem/bundle of joy/bunch of cells as it is yours, so allow him to have time to think about if he wants you to get rid of it or keep it.
Then you'll both have to come to a decision you're both happy with...a child doesn't deserve two squabbling parents
It's a tough one though - you either are or are not pregnant. My ex wanted another baby, and I didn't, so there cannot be a compromise as such - there is no halfway house. You must respect each others' decisions. If you cannot find the respect, then the relationship could turn sour (though it may not)
Good luck and take care of yourself - it sounds a very stressful time, full of uncertainty.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Remember that whilst it is right to let him express an opinion one way or the other, it is ultimately your choice and your choice alone.

If you want to continue with your pregnancy and have your baby, which is what I suspect you do, I think you will be fine.

However, at the same time, if you think it over and decide that it wouldn't be right for you, then you have time to make that decision as well.

Good luck - and I second the gingernut biccies!

LilacPixie

Congratulations OP.

I recommend anything ginger, keep biscuits by the bed and do not let yourself go hungry you will puke. eat little and often. Fluids are a must and if it gets bad your GP can pescribe anti puke tablets.

Try and focus on the next 10 ish days until your partner is home then have a heart to heart.

Unplanned pregnancy is difficult to deal with in any relationship no matter how long it has been going.

Icey77

Hi Vroombroom,

I can only second the other posts, your OH may surprise you - mine did!

Whichever way your decision goes make sure it's the one for you. Don't let other people (apart than your OH) have any say in the matter - it's yours and your OH's decision alone. You both have to live with the decision, other people don't.

Good luck and I hope which ever way the decision goes you both come out the other side stronger for it.

vroombroom

Hi everyone, thanks so mch for the support and advice -its overwhelming.

Been of an emotional day today.

I told my mum this morning and she didnt speak to me for 2 hours. She came round eventually and has been talking to me, asking how it happened when we had been careful, how I was going to support myself if he didnt want to help and she just said she was disappointed (I;ve had two long term relationships in the past and then this happens after a short fling)

She has been great and said she will support me whatever decision I make.

I don't want a termination:(

I am so scared of what his reaction is going to be, I dont think he will talk to me and I'm worried he will think I've done it to trap him.

I have stocked up ginger biscuits. They seem to be ok, the sickness is kicking in in the afternoons till around 8pm, then I am going to bed at 9ish as I am physically exhausted. I can't keep anything down though so am eating fruit and cereal.

But I have booked an appointment with the midwife on 30th September:eek:

**confuzzled**

(((HUGS))) and (((CONGRATS))) in equal measures:D

Having a baby is scary and daunting, even when its planned! but honestly you'll manage no matter how your OH reacts..honest:)
Let your OH think what he wants if he thinks you've got pg on purpose to 'trap' him then he obviously doesn't know you as well as you'd hope!
From reading other peoples post..don't be surprised if he doesn't start grinning straight away...it'll take him a while to get his head around it too.

For now I'd say try & relax, do anything you can to help the morning sickness and enjoy the rollercoaster of being pg..no matter what it throws at you:D and your mums reaction was probably shock and not too disimilar to yours..she'll soon come around, especially when you give her the go-ahead to start buying baby things;):)

Plans_all_plans

Speaking from experience, as long as you have a supportive network of family/friends around you, you will cope just fine without the father. It will by no means be easy, but you will find parenting easier than if you had no-one around you. My parents were furious with me when they found out I was pregnant at 21 and unmarried, but they soon got over it once my daughter was born and now they dote on her.

If the father says he's not happy and tries to push you towards something you don't want to do, try to stay strong as it is you who will live with the guilt afterwards if you feel railroaded. Good luck and please do let us know how you're getting on from time to time. Best wishes.

MrsTinks

Your OHs reaction aside... remember you are still VERY early in the stages of pregnancy, although morning sickness can be a good sign for a "sticky".
If your morningsickness continues go and see your doctor - they may decide to give you medication to help with the vomiting and nausea - don't underestimate it! I ended up on a drip for 2 days in hospital in a private room with an emergency scan... I was dehydrating and wasn't taking on any nutrients as I cou;dn't keep anything down. They thought it was due to a possible multiple pregnancy but in our family there is a long history of bad morning sickness... that was all it was

If you want to keep the baby then I would be prepared to bring it up by yourself... the poor bloke has not only taken additional steps on top of your pill - unlike you he also has absolutely no choice in if you decide to continue the pregnancy or not. If you want him to stick around then make sure you break it to him gently... otherwise he might think the worst...