I've just found out I'm pregnant....

rachel6188

Congrats on the pregnancy. I hope your DP takes it well. Let us know how you go xox

moneypuddle

Congratulations to you OP. I really hope he can be supportive of you. Good luck chick x

vroombroom

morning everyone, bit of a hectic week - talk of redundancy at work, which is all I need at the moment....

My aunt knows as well (thanks mum:eek:) and has said the family will support me whatever decision I come to - although I have decided to have the baby. I'm absolutely terrified, but things happen for a reason.

I'm planning on telling OH on Sat and just wondering how to go about it - just out with it as I step through the door or take some cans of beer round for him....very scared about his reaction.:(

Plans_all_plans

I am glad you have come to a decision. You will find that your family and friends will buy you TONS of baby stuff so I wouldn't worry about having to buy things yourself.

Redundancy is a big worry, but there are benefits you will be entitled to and you can claim for Child Support if necessary. Aside from these, you could well be successful in finding a job in a short space of time. And anyway, you're not necessarily going to be made redundant!

I would advise against getting some beers in for your OH when you tell him, just because whatever his reaction is you will wonder if he only said/did things because he'd had a drink. You both need to have clear heads when you tell him. It will be a big shock. My (now husband) cried like a baby with fear when I told him and I threw up, so brace yourself for an uncomfortable time.

I would just have him in, sat down, bit of small talk about his holiday and then say "I've got some news for you, it's not what either of us were expecting, but I'm pregnant." Wait for his reaction and then say that "I have decided to continue on to have the baby and I would like to do so with your full support, can I count on that?"

Can I ask how old you both are?

Good luck with it, you must be so nervous.

vroombroom

I'm 29, he is 27, both got our own places, decent jobs etc. He is a stand up guy, so I am hoping it goes ok (obviously he is going to be shocked) but deep down I think (hope) he will support me.

God I could do with a glass of wine beforehand! (lemonade will do though, as its the only thing I can keep down!)

We've had a recent spate of babies in the family so there will be lots of second hand stuff going by the time mine comes.

digitalphase

Good luck xx

graemecarter

I was terrified when I heard I was to become a dad. I went into shock for a few weeks. Don't expect anything from him for now. This is not Hollywood. Remember you have had a bit of time to get your head around the issue, and he has not. It may take him a good few weeks to 'catch up'.

Be prepared that he may be annoyed you made the decision without him, as after all, the baby is his too. Not that it is likely to happen, but also be prepared if he leaves you. He may not want anything to do with you or the baby. I hope that doesn't happen, but it is not abnormal.

Having said that, it could be just the news he was hoping for, and he may be delighted!!

nic2075

Hi, I really feel for you and was in a similar situation to you 5 years ago. I had only been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months when I fell pregnant. I took the test on xmas eve and told him I had an early xmas pressie for him. He was really shocked but not angry. We calmly discussed it then I left him alone for a while to think. I also told him I didnt want him to feel trapped and understand if he wanted to leave ( we were also on the pill and used condoms apart from one drunken evening).

I fell pregnant again as he was about to start a post grad uni course. So again no ideal situation.

I only found out yesterday that im pregnant with baby number 3. He works and lives away at the moment and he called me in his break at work, I just blurted it out. He was silent then a few 'wows'. Again this baby wasnt planned and still on the pill. But I had a terrible bug a couple of months back and didnt think much of it and hey presto...

He has been a great dad and were very much in love and were going to get married next year (that might have to be put off til the following year now lol)

Basically we always get through, we have each other and love having the kids, they are loving and very entertaining. I never feel alone.

I hope everything goes well for you. It will be a hard conversation on Sat. Im sure his reaction might not be a happy one but give him time to think it through.

clairibel

VroomBroom i've just replied to you in another thread about pregnancy.

I was the same as you with boyfriend in a non serious relationship and 5 months in...pregnant. I was 28 he was 26 both had jobs, i had my own house etc, he lived with parents and was a bit of a lad...liked going out, mates before women etc.

It was awful telling him...at first he did say stuff like, but 5 months? and we don't really know each other? of which we didn't.

But he had a sleep on it and credit to him he came back more positive and we tackled it head on...worst part was telling his mum and dad, very judgemental...but they were surprisingly supportive, we should never try to guess how someone will react as you are often surprised

Anyway we have worked hard and its not been easy, the OH was very immature even at 26...his mum did everything for him at home, so he needed extensive work but we made it and are married now with our 8 year old.

I never wanted children, was very selfish and couldn't stand anybodies kids really...noise and mess...and when peeps found out i was pregnant they nearly fainted with shock.

But now say i'm a good mum and it has changed me for the better, i am a much nicer person now. More stressed but have more understanding feeling towards others...i am so glad i bit the bullet. don't want anymore though!

Good luck but i'm sure you won't need it with all that support x

go_cat

vroombroom wrote: »

I'm planning on telling OH on Sat and just wondering how to go about it - just out with it as I step through the door or take some cans of beer round for him....very scared about his reaction.:(

No-one can guess what his reaction will be all you can be is honest and if he isn't going to be supportive at least you have your family around you.

he may surprise you

Good luck