MSE Parents Club Part 14

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

one of them has said before that he got up at 5 and hardly saw his kids and that that's just the sacrifices you make for the job. So it seems to me they have a 'what would you want to do that for?' attitude.

That is so sad. I realise sometimes people have to make that kind of sacrifice out of necessity or in the short term but it sounds like they just have very different priorities and can't understand people having different ones.

SusanC_2

:mad: Emma's diary are still sending me e-mails even though I unsubscribed.

weezl74

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I worry that you are leading me down a route of questioning where I give you the wrong impression....what don't you understand?


Edit - sorry, we have been cross posting. I am adding a bit now...

I'm sorry MFD I didn't mean to do that or for it to seem like that, I think perhaps the written word is hard for me to explain properly, without tones of voice etc.

My_Fathers_Daughter

weezl74 wrote: »

I'm sorry MFD I didn't mean to do that or for it to seem like that, I think perhaps the written word is hard for me to explain properly, without tones of voice etc.

I am just being defensive because I think the reality is quite harsh and I don't want you to hear it from me

weezl74

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I am just being defensive because I think the reality is quite harsh and I don't want you to hear it from me

:rotfl:

oh that's a relief I thought you thought I was being leading questions-y and I didn't want you to think that cos I like you, see?!

Fair enough about the reality being harsh if you'd rather not say. But I think I'd rather hear it from friends I trust, so if you'd like to, please feel free to carry on

SusanC_2

Weezl, having thought about it and bit more, unless there are other issues, I'd say it's probably best to consider it to be well-meaning and genuine (albeit misplaced and possibly prejudiced) concern. Presumably what they're trying to say is "you do realise it will inevitably slow down your progression" rather than "we'll give you the boot because we think you're not bothered about the job". Does that make sense?

salesshopper

Hi everyone just been lurking not much to report

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weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

Weezl, having thought about it and bit more, unless there are other issues, I'd say it's probably best to consider it to be well-meaning and genuine (albeit misplaced and possibly prejudiced) concern. Presumably what they're trying to say is "you do realise it will inevitably slow down your progression" rather than "we'll give you the boot because we think you're not bothered about the job". Does that make sense?

yup.

I think you're right.

That is a much better way to try to think about it. DH is well-liked in work (and generally of course!) so it would be strange to be suspicious. Perhaps a symptom of my sensitive state of mind and how much I really want him to get offered it, so I sort of turn them into these powerful dinosaur horrid types in my head.

SusanC_2

weezl74 wrote: »

That is a much better way to try to think about it. DH is well-liked in work (and generally of course!) so it would be strange to be suspicious. Perhaps a symptom of my sensitive state of mind and how much I really want him to get offered it, so I sort of turn them into these powerful dinosaur horrid types in my head.

It's very easy when you are worried about something and when you aren't feeling great anyway to see the worst possible interpretation of it.

And now I have visions of your husband working with Tyrannosaurus Rexs. (I'm sure I've spelled and pluralised that incorrectly but you know what I mean.)

ladybirdintheuk

Afternoon all, I'm back I did multi-quote your post Weezl, but then discovered everyone else has said what I was going to.

We've had lots of fun at messy play this morning. It was foot (and hand, and bottom!) prints day, and so we are both just a little bit covered in paint. My friend came along with her new baby, so I got to meet him for the first time, which was fab They didn't stick around long though, so I didn't get a cuddle, but maybe next time! He is 7 weeks, and I don't know how she is coping - her oldest is a month older than Izzy, and I can't imagine having a newborn now. Eep!

I have a very tired toddler here - I've confused her by giving her a beaker rather than a sippy cup. she will drink from them quite happily if we are out somewhere, but she doesn't normally want them at home, so she keeps giving it to me, thinking she is drinking my drink.