MSE Parents Club Part 14

SugarSpun

Thanks Susan.

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Sugar I'm sorry you still feel that way Are you still having the counselling?

Not any more, SJ, but at the same time I no longer feel bitter about it. I'm just a bit sad and still furious that they were negligent towards me because I wasn't a German speaker and they spent more time with the other mothers.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Bruno - if you are about, here is my update as promised.

They kind of accepted my proposal. I have committed to a 6 month contract with a 3 month break clause (so actually only a 3 month commitment) but they practically broke me in the process. A combination of pressure to make me take the full 12 months and a comment that I should be grateful of the opportunity



SJ - sorry, my comment earlier related to pinkpig. I wasn't with it this morning.

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Not any more, SJ, but at the same time I no longer feel bitter about it. I'm just a bit sad and still furious that they were negligent towards me because I wasn't a German speaker and they spent more time with the other mothers.

To me it would be obvious that you should spend more time with the non native speaker because they are more likely to feel scared and powerless given that communication is more difficult. I hope you've told your husband he is to speak English next time.

aless02

SusanC wrote: »

To me it would be obvious that you should spend more time with the non native speaker because they are more likely to feel scared and powerless given that communication is more difficult. I hope you've told your husband he is to speak English next time.

I hope you've told your husband a lot of other less-nice things as well!! :mad:

*hugs* SS, I wish I could help or say something helpful, but hopefully talking about it and the passage time will help a bit .

cazscoob

Just to add my bit in with Erin i had the perfect birth, everything was to plan and amazing yet i didnt have that rush, it has taken me a while to come to terms with this.

No word from the nursery however i did have a visit from the young carers group who happend to be someone i know from a long time ago she is putting things in place for Megan, Lewis and Abi so they can have some fun on their own and also have someone to talk to.

tiamai_d

I don't know if it's the positive experience of having Amber speaking, or just that time does heal, but I no longer feel jealous of women who have 'text book' births. For a long time I was jealous. I also used to get angry at women over 37 weeks complaining of being in 'advanced pregnancy' since it was something I'd never experienced and felt guilt over (that I hadn't carried my babies full term).

I did speak up for myself far more with Amber which helped make things go smoothly. I told them what I wanted and I told them to avoid the things I had identified as contributing to the trauma. eg, don't force breast feeding, make decisions there and then rather than deliberating over them then put them into action immediately, keep me updated, explain things etc.

Doesn't make things all better, but they take up less space in my head than they used too.

As for a rush of love... it didn't happen with DS1, I didn't really view him as a baby? More like a tiny doll and I was so confused as to what I was supposed to do. DS2, I was not interested in him at all, when asked if I wanted to hold him for the first time (very big deal with premmies) I did actually say 'do I have too?'. It did happen with Amber though. But I love each of them just as much, if in different ways.

Buttonmoons

Does anyone have whiffy pits?

I use mitchum which keeps any scent at bay but for SOME reason, in the colder months, my armpits change smell! Anyhoo, it's 4pm and they smell a bit musty - anyone got reccomendations of a decent deodarant that will work? I was bullied to hell and back for smelly pits so im really paranoid about it.

Not sure/dove any of that because they don't work.

Pink_Princess_1

I didnt have the rush of love with DD1 although I did like her it took me a while to feel it but with DD2 I felt it straight away as soon as she was laid on me - I'm not sure if it was anything to do with the birth but both were completely different with dd1 I was in hospital for 10 days and was induced, with DD2 I spent most of my time at home and ended up only being in hospital for 40 minutes before she was born. And like Tia I love them both just the same now and neither of them would know any different.

Sami_Bee

Finally back! Chris got in the car twice before actually getting in and going home on the third time
1st time he was gutted because he'd picked up a few grapes from the fruit bowl which quickly disappeared whereas Edgar's choice of a plum was still being munched in his car seat so I said Chris could go back for one too (the fruit bowl is just in reception) 2nd time I noticed he had no socks on so we had to get them.
I feel much better about the situation with H, the room manager spoke to me today and said they have kept them apart where possible and are 'working on the situation' while I was there they both needed the toilet and H was messing about but going a little too far,(and was told to stop etc) I think its mostly a case of him not knowing his strength/where to stop, a bit like when Chris first started to play with Edgar, I wonder if H is an only child so is new to this or maybe his parents let him do it at home .Thursdays are a good day too because H goes swimming in the morning so less time for anything to happen .

Anyway on a brighter note I'm very pleased with my Eddie his walking is coming on so fast, he walked through nursery to get Chris, holding my hand which he had been having trouble with, he was preferring to 'hold' on to the wall he's getting much faster and steadier, I reckon he'll be a proper free roaming toddler by the time the month's out

3onitsway

Sami I've been to Tescos - there is a noticable gap on the leapfrog shelf and a OOS sticker over the price label bit.

On a brighter note, I might have bought a couple of cute little girl t-shirts and a birthday present for my friends little boy.