MSE Parents Club Part 14

3onitsway

((Hugs)) Jillie - It must be very hard to have a very sad day followed by a very very happy day! I'm sure Kian will give you lots of hugs today to help you.

weezl74 wrote: »

I flop into bed now with DH, and he goes, 'they both still alive?' and I go 'yup!' and he goes 'job done!'

:rotfl::rotfl:

tarajayne wrote: »

Today is crap, today my 10yr had to grow up too fast, she started her periods and it's not f!!!ing fair! :(:(

:eek: Oh no, you're poor baby girl. She's far too young.

My friends little girl started last week at 11, on the first day of big school. Like starting big school wasn't enough to cope with on one day.


I'm waiting for the hairdresser to come and fix my shocking dark roots. I've got an incredible urge to have my hair cut short. It will probably pass before she arrives.

gill_81uk

*hugs* for Jillie. It definitely sounds as though you're family would benefit from bereavement councilling, what a horrible time for you all.

*hugs* for Rmac too. I echo what everyone else has said.

I mentioned a few weeks ago that the clasp had broken on T's amber necklace. I emailed the seller asking for a new clasp and heard nothing back. Yesterday I got a whole new necklace so very pleased. would highly recommend him now

Choppy - it tends to be really hectic when we go to northampton for the day as we live 2.5 hours away. I'm hoping to stay over and have a longer trip at some point so would love to meet up then.

We had a lovely day, my sis loved playing with T, and vice versa. We had a walk into the town centre and then went to Fusion buffet for our tea, which was really yummy but I ate far too much!

SusanC_2

tarajayne wrote: »

And Rmac, we all look at other peoples children and wonder why our don't behave the same, but behind closed doors things are usually different. Ben always plays up in public, but at home he's an angel, think he gets it the wrong way round!

Alice is (generally) the opposite way round. When she was a baby I used to feel really bad for other people if they couldn't stop their baby crying because Alice was always fascinated by crying babies so would sit there transfixed and behaving perfectly which meant I was always worried that people would think I was looking down on them because their baby cried and mine didn't. It did make me very self conscious when she did cry though - even a single cry from Alice would result in comments because it was so unusual.

kindofagilr

How much would you ask for if you were selling the TT nappy bin with 9 cartridges?

redstararnie76

jillie1974 wrote: »

never really talk about her at all. or very rarely anyway. i'm sure that she is spoken about but i'm very rarely involved in a conversation where she is talked about. the other night Dh aunt and cousin called to drop off a card for Kian and it was not even mentioned then. i thnk probably we are all a little .. oh what do i say/ should i say and prob deep down are waiting for the other person to say something first. with the result no-one says anything. DH will say some things but i have to drag it out of him at times.

but we never talk about the happy memories and i do think that is something we need to talk about as at the moment i think that the way she died is overshadowing everything else. its like cos of the way she died, we shouldnt talk about her.

prob not making sense to everyone but i hope 1 or 2 people can understand that.

Jillie - I'm sending you a big hug. Hugely sexist and generalist here, but I've found with the men in my family and others I know, that they tend to find it very hard to deal with death and so they seem to ignore it by not talking about it.
I personally find it best to keep talking about those people that we've lost because I feel that it helps me to keep their memory alive - I'm scared that if I don't talk about the little quirks and the things they did and liked, that I'll forget and they'll fade away, if you see what I mean? I found myself talking about my Grandad's rice pudding and chocolate cake the other day because him cooking is a favourite memory for me. I'm sometimes scared that I seem insensitive to other people, so I spoke to my mum about it, especially in regards to her Dad, but she (fortunately) feels the same way. But it's such a personal thing - I couldn't talk to my brother that way, as it would make him very uncomfortable.

jillie1974

feeling better after chatting this morning


thanks everyone

SugarSpun

Can I ask a boobies question please? One of mine has a sore patch, it's quite solid just on the right side of the boob. I'm not feeling ill or feverish and it isn't red. Blocked duct? Anything else it could be?

workinmummy

Hugs for Jillie, i'm glad you have Kian there to help you and may be help you smile just a little bit today x

Joe told me this morning that he can't reach his locker in school and has to jump to get his stuff in and out. He is the smallest in the class and they give him the locker on the top row. The poor boy has been jumping up and down for two weeks to get his stuff, he says he can't even see in it. So I asked the teacher this morning if he could swap with someone. (Was amazed I got to her, she is usually being accosted by the same two mothers everyday, you know the ones who just have to have their kids at the front of the line everyday)

Makes me , but a little bit :rotfl:at the thought of Joe having to :j to get his things and no one has even helped him, or thought to move his locker. Why do you have to point things out to them, when the kids have already mentioned it but been ignored?

beckyandjack wrote: »

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Also does anyone know where i can get battle force 5 toys as its all ds wants from santa and the only ones i found are in argos and sold out, he will be distraught if santa doesn't bring him any!!!!

There are some battle force 5 toys on play.com, not the same as the one you linked to and not on offer, but a backup for you if you can't get the one you were after in Argos.

Millie's_Mum

Taken me ages to catch up today.

Jillie thinking of you today, I have to admit though I still feel :mad: at your SIL for her timing and I think you are marvellous!

Tara, Poor DD, Hope you've got the hot water bottle and some chocolate on standby.

RMac, I could have written what you wrote about Millie when she was A's age. The main things which helped me are

1, Choose your battles wisely, think about whether whatever it is shes doing really matters before you get knee deep in naughty step/time out whatever.

2, Consistency, never make a threat you are not prepared to carry out, if you end up walking out of the swimming baths after 10 mins then so be it, If you are consistent she will get the message much quicker.

3, Tire her out, do you have a park where she can run around like a mad thing close by, get her out walking when its dry, go puddling when its wet but go out and let her go mad for a while every day, toddlers have an awful lot of energy and if you can encourage her to use it when you want her to she won't have so much left for tantrums. (sneaky, much?)

4 Did I mention Consistency?

Honestly Millie was an absolute nightmare but once I found a strategy to deal with it (Naughty step for us) she was so much better and i found that I needed to use it less and less, but at the start its hard and you find yourself spending whole days on it but its worth it, when I see some of the kids in Millies class who are 6 and 7 still having tantrums I thank my lucky stars that I was hard on her when she was little cos her behaviour on the whole is really good.

Sorry for mammoth post.

Mazcabs

Bigs hugs needed in a few places I think :grouphug:

Need to get a helmet for Henry as he's started riding a bike (only in mums garden at mo) and I havent the foggiest where to start - any ideas?

Gutted the Postman pat tent is OOS AGAIN!!!