Too much moneysaving?

mellymeep

Think about what you've just said in relation to your original point as well, there isn't any connection between spending more money and having a lovely wedding day. That's you indirectly criticising those couples who do use moneysaving tactics, whether you realise it or not.

smk77

tamarto wrote: »

That doesn't mean those who choose to spend a fortune are doing it wrong either, but there is a problem if they feel they have to do it so people have a good time etc.

It does if they're doing it with money they don't have or could do with not spending...Especially if within a year or so they're still paying off the debt and start a family which usually means a drop in income. Add to that the possible increase in mortgage payments as interest rates go up and it's asking for trouble.

If someone has got the money or have a parent with the money then fair enough - but from experience I'm seeing couples getting married who are simply spending money that they can't possibly have saved up. They must be paying for their day when it's all over - at a time when they're then starting to think about starting a family...

All for the sake of keeping up with the last wedding! How very sad...

Sammy85_2

Look, its all down to person preference.

We have a healthy budget of £10k. We intend to have the wedding (ive) always dreamed of, with all the bells and whistles and my OH is happy as long as i stick to the budget and im happy with the days plans. That doesnt mean the marriage itself means any less to me than to someone who gets married on a smaller budget or indeed a larger budget, it just means i only intend to do this once and it will be the day i want it to be.

My budget may not be particularly MSE, but ive had to get a lot of things on the cheap or DIY and have done alot of haggling to keep within the budget. Its very easy for the budget to race out of control!

It really annoys me when people assume that having a full-on "bells and whistles" wedding means you care more about the day than the marriage to your other half. That just isnt true.


To the OP - having a low key affair or a wedding on a smaller budget doesnt mean you are missing out on anything or "making do". Its a personal choice, your idea of the perfect day will be completely different to that of another person.

pelirocco

A marriage is more about just one day , I think a lot of people get caught up in the fantasy of a perfect day , which i would have thought was very stressful , marriage is going to be one hell of a let down lol , its incredibly hard work and far from perfect most of the time .

Tbh after x amount of years you will be hard pressed to remember the day , let alone the guests !!

pelirocco

Sammy85 wrote: »

Look, its all down to person preference.

We have a healthy budget of £10k. We intend to have the wedding (ive) always dreamed of, with all the bells and whistles and my OH is happy as long as i stick to the budget and im happy with the days plans. That doesnt mean the marriage itself means any less to me than to someone who gets married on a smaller budget or indeed a larger budget, it just means i only intend to do this once and it will be the day i want it to be.

It really annoys me when people assume that having a full-on "bells and whistles" wedding means you care more about the day than the marriage to your other half. That just isnt true.


To the OP - having a low key affair or a wedding on a smaller budget doesnt mean you are missing out on anything or "making do". Its a personal choice, your idea of the perfect day will be completely different to that of another person.

I dont wish to sound harsh , but having had 2 children get married in the last year , £10k wont go far

Sammy85_2

pelirocco wrote: »

I dont wish to sound harsh , but having had 2 children get married in the last year , £10k wont go far

Well we've managed.

£10k has paid for dresses for myself, two bridemaids and two flowergirls, plus alterations, rolls royce wedding cars, stunning 18th century venue exclusive use, 5 course meal, hot evening buffet, live singer/dj, hotels night before and night of wedding, 5 x mens suits, 2 x full naval uniforms, flowers for bouquets, church and reception, all stationary, dove release, full days photography from preps til 2300 including large graphi studio album and copyright free cd, wedding videography from preps til 2200 and lots of other small things like decorations and table centrepieces etc.

From my experience if you are prepared to do alot of DIY, grafting, legwork and be a bit cheeky with the haggling you can make £10k go a long way.

smk77

ampafc wrote: »

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and mine is that I want to have a lovely memorable day for my partner and I and my guests, even if that means spending a bit more.

Money doesn't buy you happiness and it won't give you, your partner or you guests a more memorable day if you spend a bit more. I've been to 3 weddings this year. All will have cost more than £20k...Were they the most memorable weddings for me? Not a chance!

Anyway, enjoy your day. Just do things that you want to do and can afford to do - don't do them because you think that your guests (who'll may have had a few to many drinks to appreciate!) will have a more memorable day. You guests will have or will in the future attend a more lavish wedding than yours so if they're narow minded then it won't matter what you do.

Enchantica

I do get what you mean OP, about wanting to have a perfect day and spending that bit more to make everyone (and yourselves) happy. I think when it comes down to the actual planning you will probably have certain sections you want to spend more on than other sections, depending on what is important to you. If you wanted to spend that bit extra on every bit of it, you may wind up with a hefty bill at the end, just to warn you! But if the rings and food etc are what you want to concentrate on then that's good for you. Personally, I wanted a gothic looking venue, a meal and a fantastic honeymoon. Everything else I have happily scrimped on. (getting married 12 November 2011, I'm just quite organised lol). My outfit cost £140, my ring cost £20 (means a lot to me though, silver, got it on me and OH's first proper holiday which was Disneyworld Florida lol), and I am making a lot of the other parts like invites etc.

I think we just all choose certain bits we want to spend a little more on. Some folk want to spend as much as possible on everything (I have a friend who did this) and others want to haggle and get the best deal. I think it's all personal preference really. If you did want to get everything right up at the top end then you are probably looking at £20k+ BUT there are some lovely folks on here who will be able to help you get better deals and still have fabulous quality. Me, my wedding is coming to £5.5k and then the honeymoon on top which will probably be another £5k (we are splashing out on the honeymoon as much as possible ).

tamarto

Sammy85 wrote: »

Look, its all down to person preference.

We have a healthy budget of £10k. We intend to have the wedding (ive) always dreamed of, with all the bells and whistles and my OH is happy as long as i stick to the budget and im happy with the days plans. That doesnt mean the marriage itself means any less to me than to someone who gets married on a smaller budget or indeed a larger budget, it just means i only intend to do this once and it will be the day i want it to be.

My budget may not be particularly MSE, but ive had to get a lot of things on the cheap or DIY and have done alot of haggling to keep within the budget. Its very easy for the budget to race out of control!

It really annoys me when people assume that having a full-on "bells and whistles" wedding means you care more about the day than the marriage to your other half. That just isnt true.


To the OP - having a low key affair or a wedding on a smaller budget doesnt mean you are missing out on anything or "making do". Its a personal choice, your idea of the perfect day will be completely different to that of another person.

I don't see anyone here saying that though, what they are saying is you don't have to spend a fortune to get wed properly, or have a memorable day or entertain your guests, which the op seems to think.

Everyone should have the day they want, if that means saving for 50 years eating beans, if that's what the couple want fair dos, but don't dare tell someone who doesn't want to that they're not doing it properly, as, as you have said weddings are a personal choice.:)

Enchantica

Also, if you want a memorable day that everyone will definitely remember then hire a bouncy castle and sumo wrestling outfits! Lol :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: