Too much moneysaving?

double_mummy

Personally i would rather spend a bit less on my wedding DAY and then have more for a marriage. I would love to have the extra money i have saved to spend as a family maybe a holiday later in the year after the wedding more money at christmas.

If one huge day is important to you then do the huge day if not then dont

most what this site is about is value for money rather than spending less, if your OH finds a dress that she loves in a little boutique for £3500 but someone on here is getting the exact same dress from a different place for £2000 which one would you rather buy??

its about deciding what you want and then using your money in the best way to get it

Just make the day whatever you want to make it but dont dpend your money stupidly when you can get the same thing £100s cheaper just by looking around

congrats xx

LEJC

Everybody has a different idea of what a "proper"wedding is...I guess that there are only 2 things that make it "proper" in reality
1 ....Its legal
2..... You love your partner

how much you spend in order to achieve these...well thats personal preference

smk77

mellymeep wrote: »

The more money spent does not correlate with having an enjoyable and memorable day in my opinion. I'm going to remember our day for the rest of my life and spent a fraction of what is reported as the "average" cost of a wedding. I saved money in many areas where others would splash out and I don't think I compromised at all.

It is of course all down to personal opinions, a wedding is obviously a day entirely dedicated to the couple and what they want.

spot on.

Over the past 6 years friends of mine and my wife (including us) have got married. Each time it seems that the couple are trying to out-do the previous (we were 2nd so didn't have a lot to "improve" on!).

I'm looking forward to the wedding of the one remaining couple. Not because they're going to go so over the top with a free bar all night, a live band, chocolate fountain, expensive favours etc..No, because the man is happy to get married in the local registry office and go to his local for the reception (although his other half will demand a little bit more!)...100% down to earth and genuine guy! It makes a change from those spending far more than they can afford just so that they can beat the previous..Unfortunately, from my more recent experience, this is what couples seem to want from their wedding!

Impet_Limpet

Our wedding will probably cost around £5.5 -6K, however whenever I saw articles on weddings saying they cost averge of 20k I was horrified especially as that is a 1/5 of the value of our house!! and more than I'd earn in a year!
I could have never afforded that or justify it!

The extra money we have saved we are putting towards making our honeymoon even more special and any left over after that we can work on the house!

ampafc

tamarto wrote: »

Why do you think other people haven't sacrificed a wee bit or a lot more than normal to be able to afford their 'budget' wedding?

I will look back and remember my day with great fondness as it's the day i marry the love of my life! We have three children and have been putting it off for 10 years so we could have 'our day' There are always better things to spend our money on though, then we realised if we waited till we had an endless supply of money it was never happening.

I'd have gone off and got married just us but we decided to have a bit of a do, and so i've enjoyed seeing how much we could stretch our budget.

I'm not entirely sure that getting married to give your guests a great day is the best reason to be getting wed tbh;)

As for a 'proper day' who decides that? Oh yes the couple getting married, if they are happy that is ALL that matters.

I must remember to tell my OH we're not having a proper day because we aren't buying our guests drink!

Wow - I was just giving my opinion/starting a debate. No need to judge I said i want my partner to have a day she will always remember, and for our guests to have a great time.

I guess if I started this debate on a wedding forum then I would have had different replies - of course most people on here are trying to save a lot of money/work to a tighter budget.

Interesting to hear the replies though.

smk77

Impet_Limpet wrote: »

Our wedding will probably cost around £5.5 -6K, however whenever I saw articles on weddings saying they cost averge of 20k I was horrified especially as that is a 1/5 of the value of our house!! and more than I'd earn in a year!
I could have never afforded that or justify it!

Ah, but the average wedding will include a £2k photographer who takes hundreds of photos, puts them up on their website and gives the address to the couple to pass on to the 120 guests and puts a selected few photos in an album which is pulled out from a cupboard every couple of Christmases to show Grandma just in case it's her last...That reminds me, where has our wedding album gone??

Not to mention the £100+ per table decorations, a couple of grand for flowers, some environmentally unfriendly old car that may look nice, but, none of the guests will actually see it because they're sitting impatiently in the church whilst the bride is purposely late!

Oh yeah, and the £500 cake that's butchered and cut in a million pieces so that the auntie's work colleagues can get a taste!

clearing_out_my_pockets

Actually if you pop over to you and your wedding, plenty of people over there are working to sub-10k budgets.

To be fair your OP stated the following:

- People on low budgets should save for longer
- The day would be 'spoilt' if you don't give guests lots to drink or reduce numbers
- You should spend more to have a 'proper' day to remember

mellymeep

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Actually if you pop over to you and your wedding, plenty of people over there are working to sub-10k budgets.

To be fair your OP stated the following:

- People on low budgets should save for longer
- The day would be 'spoilt' if you don't give guests lots to drink or reduce numbers
- You should spend more to have a 'proper' day to remember

Exactly, and its not hard to see how that can be seen as pretty offensive to a lot of people, me included. As I said, our day was the most perfect day of my entire life and I will cherish the memory of it for the rest of our lives together.

I don't see why anyone should have to wait to make the commitment to love and care for each other forever just because they can't afford an expensive ring or to get all of their guests drunk. I think the intentions of a wedding have totally been overshadowed these days with everyone constantly hearing about the flash "celebrity" weddings where they spend millions of pounds, which more often than not end up in divorce a few years later.

twirlypinky

in addition to my previous post...

I was married before, back in 2003. I didnt spend a fortune then either, about £6k including honeymoon (although a lot more than the £2k we'll be spending this time).

And I STILL maintain, that if i had spent more of my time thinking about my marriage and less about flowers, shoes, cars, cake, guests, wine, songs etc. then i might've realised that i was marrying the wrong man.

Not this time, this time it's all about the marriage, about h2b and i spending the rest of our days together. We want to save the money we would've spent on a wedding on the house, and future planning for a family.

Now I'm not saying that all the normal stuff i listed is wrong, and I'm certainly not trying to "dis" the people that care about that. I just know that inside my own head, in the year running up to my wedding, that i was so bothered about that one day that i didn't really notice much else around me, including what my ex was getting up to. I don't want that to happen to me this time.

So it's not always about money, it's about priorities.

tamarto

ampafc wrote: »

Wow - I was just giving my opinion/starting a debate. No need to judge I said i want my partner to have a day she will always remember, and for our guests to have a great time.

I guess if I started this debate on a wedding forum then I would have had different replies - of course most people on here are trying to save a lot of money/work to a tighter budget.

Interesting to hear the replies though.

No need to judge? No i know, not very nice is it.

I'm not so sure you would have actually, i'd say appearing on any forum and telling people they are doing it wrong, not making enough effort etc etc would meet with harsher replies than you've had here.

Oh and you don't need to spend ££££££ for people to enjoy themselves or to have a memorable day.