How do you know when your family is complete?

cfnc

ceridwen wrote: »

If your moods/hormones are still dictating "But I WANT another child...." - then perhaps you could look into fostering or adopting? There are a lot of children needing good loving homes - many of whom will never get one - but you could give one or two of them a chance to have that:)

ceridwen wrote: »

However much that might sound good, adopting has very strict rules and fostering, you need to have a spare bedroom, just for the foster child, even if your own children share.
Personally, I would love to foster, but it is a non starter as we do not have the room that is required, even though we have a lot to offer.

To answer the op question, I would love to be at the stage where I could say no more that is it and I have 5 at the moment.

Kirsty

jcr16

i personally don't see it makes any difference when your married, in a happy relationship if your baby is an accident or planned. but sometimes it does feel like you have to say it was an accident. because heaven forbid you say it was planned . like you say ... Big shocker....

i've said to hubby our next baby i'm not tellng anyone till i show. hopefully be about 20 weeks . i hardly showed last time, but both times before that i was showing about 3 months.

rachelet

Mrs_justjohn wrote: »

For me I always wanted a boy and a girl, and I think I would have kept going until I got a least one of each.....Fortunately I had a boy first and then a girl so I stopped after two!

My brother just kept having kids until he ran out of room in the car....Sister in law is now preggers with her 5th so unless they are gong to upgrade their people carrier to a minibus I think they will stop now!

I have only just read this comment but it made me laugh as we have a 9 seat minibus as our family car as we have four kids. Everyone keeps asking if we are going to carry on having more kids until the bus is filled up, but I am definitely stopping at four. Number four was a bit of a surprise anyway , so to stop us being tempted, I am giving away and selling all our baby stuff as the youngest grows out of it!

jcr16

what mini bus do you have hun ?

we have a 7 seater 02 plate renault espace. i love it. but hubby is quite keen on the vauxhall viviro mini bus thingy

rachelet

I have a Citroen minibus that is based on a Relay van. It is quite old but can fit an awful lot of stuff in. When I get a new one, I will probably go for another Citroen or a Peugeot. The minibus is great and the kids tend to sit in different seats all the time! It also has a rather large boot in, that at the moment has a normal pushchair in and a double pushchair, a cardboard box and also has room for loads more bags when I go out. With four kids, I find that we have loads of bags and we also go on holiday in the minibus and it fits all our holiday suitcases, toys etc in really easily.

jcr16

ohh i will have to google it. i love the space in our car. but having more children means no only more peeps when on go hoilday etc but also means lots more luggage.

pinkshoes

I would ideally like one of each, and OH wants 2 kids!

No.1 is due in 2 months, and is a boy. I'm trying to persuade OH that if we are lucky enough to have a second, and it's another boy, then I'd like a 3rd. If the third was a boy, then that's half an indoor footy team, so will do quite nicely!!!

Ultimately it also comes down to finances, as surely you'd have to have quite a reasonable income to support more than two kids???

DianneB

I am a grandma now but when I had 3 boy's I always had the feeling that someone was missing, would even subconsciously look round for the extra one when out! Had DS no.4 and decided that was it, no more, would be mad to have another pregnancy, solved that one by adopting!!

VK-2008

just remember you may feel you are losing the baby part but you get to experience the child growing up at different stages, when they start school, learning to read and write, all the weird and wonderful questions they will ask you throughout life, the first proper boy/girl friend, high school, proms, going off too college/uni, first jobs, the kids getting married and then the wonderful part grandkids - where you can look after them and hand them back

my dh and i are currently trying for our first, we unfortunately had a miscarriage last sept so hoping for the best. we are saying just now we would prob like 2-3 kids but will wait until first one arrives and see how we get on. i see my friends with kids and i just think what a blessing it is to be given one, and i see other people on baby 5 or 6 and they love their children greatly its their lives.

i cannot wait to spread my love to a child. i am hoping for boy and husband wants girl - so i suppose one of us get to "win" lol
originally dg wanted 11 kids as he is from a family of 11 as opposed to me who only has one. once getting married and looking at things financiallyt we agree 2-3 would seem perfect for us at the moment

it has also been decided that when time comes its only fair that dh gets the snip as us females have too go through the horror of childbirth

hot.chick

well for us it's just me and hubby, and for us that is our family along with our beloved dog and cat, and we are totally complete

:j