Trying for a Baby Part Six

euronorris

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

This is the thing thats doing me. I dont know the child, have seen 1 picture so although they are related, it just feels like its just any random child. BUT because i KNOW the childs family im there wanting the child but i think i'd murder SIL if she tried to control what i did with the child or how i raised them.

Can you discuss it with the social worker? Tell her about what you are thinking of doing, but also of your concerns and what you would be able to do to stop the SIL from butting in every 2 secs and trying to control everything.

Perhaps you could set up visitation rights with the biological parents so that the child still gets to know them, and SIL may be happy with a small amount of contact, as opposed to none if another, unconnected, family adopted him.

A friend of mine seriously considered it when her youngest brother was being used as a pawn in their parent's divorce, and it was affecting him badly. I know she discussed it at length with the social workers before making a decision. She didn't go ahead, but I think that is because the parents got a bit of a shock when they realised that social services were about to take him away.

euronorris

RebekahR wrote: »

HAHAAHAHAHA!! They taught me wrong at school ... Wanna tell me how its done ;-) lol.

Long old wait til July

It's closer than December! lol

What have you got to look foward to between now and then? Try to keep yourself busy, so if you're quiet until then, find some fun things/projects to keep you occupied until then.

Oh ladies, I am so looking forward to my weekend UK visit! I can't wait to see my parents and the rest of the family. :j:j Christmas seems so long ago now! Is it Friday yet? No....OK, I guess I can wait another day! Free work drinkies tonight, wooo.

Darkphaery

Afternoon! Hope everyone is good I'm now CD23 (28) i've been feeling really off since Sunday and didn't want to read too much into it, stomach pains (but not cramps) feeling sick and have totally gone off some foods. Also been so tired i'm almost asleep at my desk at work and so thirsty it's unreal i'm having to get up at 1am to get a drink and that's after i've drank a pint of water at bed time. Yesterday i was hanging away laundry jsut before bed and my nightshirt was really paining my nipples when it touched them. But this morning i am feeling more back to normal, my tummy is sore and bloated and i am quite windy as i have been since Sunday but i have kind of convinced myself that i'm out this month.
I'm off shopping tomorrow and have seen a beautiful dress that i would love to wear to a wedding in July. However as i don't know what's going to happen between now and then i'm not sure what to do about it? I would be upset if come July i wasn't pregnant and was wearing a dress i didn't love as much but then i almost think well sods law if i buy it i'm bound to me preggers by then God if my pre pregnancy brain is making me so confused i hate to think what i'll be like with actualy pregnancy brain :rotfl:
SDB to all x

clearing_out_my_pockets

Euro - the injection works for three months at a time, so could still be an option. The 'only' drawback is once you have it, the side effects presumably wouldn't go until those three months are up.

When I was on the pill, I got migranes from time to time and (either bizarrely or coincidentally) found that evening primrose oil capsules helped both with PMT and with migranes.

By the way, I think you and I should have a new thread - "Waiting (impatiently) to TTC". Whaddaya think? Lol

RebekahR

Yea I can plan stuff. Go to gp - get general advice - plant me veggies in garden - get house up together - living room needs redecorating! Just always at the back of mine ya know. May sound stupid but i'm so maternal i've wanted a baby since I was 14! I read a magazine of a girl who had a baby and hid it in a basket on the step of the hospital so her mum wouldn't find out. I then prayed that I would find a baby and could keep it as my own! LOL ~ How stupid is that ... Off to do housework.

Can I join in the impatiently waiting thread? lolol. We are looking to use the natural family planning method - buy the fertility book and read it - we currently use condoms but other half also hates them. I told him there is no way i'm going back on the pill though as my sex drive was - a million - would rather clean the loo! And I was dry as anything ... Everything else is hormonal! So its this or nothing.

smash7

Quick post before I read back - The Sun newspaper says:
'Four in five UK couples rely on the missionary position to make a baby, a new survey has found. Just seven percent conceive with the woman "on top" and 12% with the man behind.'

If it's in the Sun, it must be true, right?!? Haha

euronorris

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

Euro - the injection works for three months at a time, so could still be an option. The 'only' drawback is once you have it, the side effects presumably wouldn't go until those three months are up.

When I was on the pill, I got migranes from time to time and (either bizarrely or coincidentally) found that evening primrose oil capsules helped both with PMT and with migranes.

By the way, I think you and I should have a new thread - "Waiting (impatiently) to TTC". Whaddaya think? Lol

Hi COMP!

I now have an appt on Tuesday morning with the doc to discuss options. It could be a different type of injection here, or may not be available, or they may have other options unavailable in the UK. I mean, you can't even buy decongestants here and nasal sprays were only introduced about 2 or 3 years ago! So, will have to wait and see.

I'm not going back on the pill, full stop. I read, on the NHS website, that anyone who gets migraines with aura's, which I do, shouldn't be on the combined pill at all as it increases the risk of stroke. Also, I have had the same issues as Rebekah with decreased sex drive whilst on it, and being dry. I thought that the bill might be affecting both, but now I'm off it, I'm certain! lol

Yes, perhaps we should start our own thread. I feel like I'm hijacking this one a bit.

xx

QQuaver

RebekahR wrote: »

he proposed in the middle of sex.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

smash7 wrote: »

Quick Question re: fertility friend - Has anyone paid for the VIP membership? It is worth it?

I've never paid, but was tempted many times:o
The offer comes back over and over again, so you don't have to decide now.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

SIL would constantly be around and would be telling me how to raise the child etc

So your SIL wants the baby back? She'll pester you for sure:o
But I know what you mean, you don't want the child going to some stranger when there's you:cool:

If it were me, I'd adopt, and live far away from SIL:p

Darkphaery wrote: »

Afternoon! Hope everyone is good I'm now CD23 (28) i've been feeling really off since Sunday and didn't want to read too much into it, stomach pains (but not cramps) feeling sick and have totally gone off some foods. Also been so tired i'm almost asleep at my desk at work and so thirsty it's unreal i'm having to get up at 1am to get a drink and that's after i've drank a pint of water at bed time. Yesterday i was hanging away laundry jsut before bed and my nightshirt was really paining my nipples when it touched them. But this morning i am feeling more back to normal, my tummy is sore and bloated and i am quite windy as i have been since Sunday but i have kind of convinced myself that i'm out this month.

Sounds promising:think:

However as i don't know what's going to happen between now and then i'm not sure what to do about it?

You could try the June sales:p

clearing_out_my_pockets wrote: »

By the way, I think you and I should have a new thread - "Waiting (impatiently) to TTC". Whaddaya think? Lol

There's at least 3 (Rebekah, euronorris and you) waiting to try on this board, so you could just stay here?

smash7 wrote: »

If it's in the Sun, it must be true, right?!? Haha

:rotfl:
They have too much time on their hands

clearing_out_my_pockets

QQuaver wrote: »

There's at least 3 (Rebekah, euronorris and you) waiting to try on this board, so you could just stay here?

I feel like I'm intruding

Also, although we really want to have children, I can't say that I know what you ladies are going though each month emotionally. I don't generally get AF, so I dread to think how I'll adjust to noting down what CD I'm on. It feels like torture coming on here and lurking, but I can't stop myself. We haven't decided when we're going to TTC yet. I don't know what I'm more scared of - labour or having my implant taken out :eek:

Oh and on OBEM - my MIL(to be) has warned me not to watch it, just in case I decide not to give her any grandchildren :rotfl:

RebekahR

Those of you waiting to try ~ How long have you got? 3-4 months for me. I just picked up the phone to ring the drs. Was going to ask if they teach natural family planning. But got too shy and put the phone down when it rang ... in the fertility book it says not to go through with it until you have been taught by a teacher. Last time I spoke to to a nurse they didn't mention NFP.