Trying for a Baby Part Six

smash7

Quick Question re: fertility friend - Has anyone paid for the VIP membership? It is worth it? I quite like the extra features but, not sure whether I think it's worth it or not. They have special offer for 90 day membership it's only roughly £10 (cheaper than CBFM and I saved money on hpt's by buying ICs.....). Or am I ridiculous as I've been taken in by some money making ploy?!?!?

RebekahR

I was sooo up for rumpy pumpy last night! And HE had a headache ... LOL

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Sorry - this is slightly OT but you will all understand where I am in my mind about this (I hope)

Hmm I need some advice. My brother and his wife had their child took off them from social services (long story – both sides have played foul) and now social services are putting child forward for adoption. I’m in two minds what to do. Neither me nor OH have seen the child – was taken away at birth. Childs approx 4 month old now – Brother and SIL been in and out of court trying to get child back. Although there is no bond there as such – I have this maternal instinct that it is still my blood relative and I feel compelled to be considered to be the child’s carer. OH see’s my point but has pointed out that SIL would constantly be around and would be telling me how to raise the child etc and I don’t think I could cope with that. I really don’t know what to do L Obviously if we put in for this child we wouldn’t/couldn’t have one of our own (at least now yet!) I feel like I HAVE to have my SIL’s child for her because at the end of the day, they’re family but a part of me is being selfish and thinking “but I want my own” What would you do?

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

RebekahR wrote: »

I was sooo up for rumpy pumpy last night! And HE had a headache ... LOL

:rotfl: that made me chuckle!

RebekahR

smash7 wrote: »

Quick Question re: fertility friend - Has anyone paid for the VIP membership? It is worth it? I quite like the extra features but, not sure whether I think it's worth it or not. They have special offer for 90 day membership it's only roughly £10 (cheaper than CBFM and I saved money on hpt's by buying ICs.....). Or am I ridiculous as I've been taken in by some money making ploy?!?!?

Mine ran out 2 weeks ago. I'm still getting the "cheap" offer for a limited time. LOL.
I haven't purchased it and miss the colours on the big chart. I do like the main chart though so you get to keep that. But it no longer shows you predicted OV dates or the coloured squares for being fertile. So if you like that lots you can pay. But prob an idea to let it run out and see what you think.

RebekahR

I would feel strongly the same. I would have to take the child on. My sister has a baby and is in a rocky to say the least relationship. My mind works over time and I keep thinking if anything happened I would want to tak him on. He is part of our flesh and blood.I would still have my own children and raise him as my own. I just couldn't let him go and never see him again. For you you have never seen him so may be different. Family instict I guess.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

Sorry - this is slightly OT but you will all understand where I am in my mind about this (I hope)

Hmm I need some advice. My brother and his wife had their child took off them from social services (long story – both sides have played foul) and now social services are putting child forward for adoption. I’m in two minds what to do. Neither me nor OH have seen the child – was taken away at birth. Childs approx 4 month old now – Brother and SIL been in and out of court trying to get child back. Although there is no bond there as such – I have this maternal instinct that it is still my blood relative and I feel compelled to be considered to be the child’s carer. OH see’s my point but has pointed out that SIL would constantly be around and would be telling me how to raise the child etc and I don’t think I could cope with that. I really don’t know what to do L Obviously if we put in for this child we wouldn’t/couldn’t have one of our own (at least now yet!) I feel like I HAVE to have my SIL’s child for her because at the end of the day, they’re family but a part of me is being selfish and thinking “but I want my own” What would you do?

RebekahR

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

:rotfl: that made me chuckle!

So did we. Was really funny. Had wait til he fell asleep and self service :o:o

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

RebekahR wrote: »

For you you have never seen him so may be different. Family instict I guess.

This is the thing thats doing me. I dont know the child, have seen 1 picture so although they are related, it just feels like its just any random child. BUT because i KNOW the childs family im there wanting the child but i think i'd murder SIL if she tried to control what i did with the child or how i raised them.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

RebekahR wrote: »

So did we. Was really funny. Had wait til he fell asleep and self service :o:o

That wont help make a baby and if thats how your trying - your doing it wrong hunny lol x

RebekahR

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

That wont help make a baby and if thats how your trying - your doing it wrong hunny lol x

HAHAAHAHAHA!! They taught me wrong at school ... Wanna tell me how its done ;-) lol.

Long old wait til July