I am at my wits end :(

sock-knitter

hi OP, and well done on taking the first step in going to see your gp, i have twin sons, both have ADHD, aspergers, oppositional defiant disorder, and one also has a diagnosis of conduct disorder. both my lads go to special schools, as they could not cope with mainstream
good luck, and (((big hugs)))

pimento

Oh ad just remembered, my son wouldn't sit in a bath either. He'll only have showers. When we went on holiday ad the cottage only had a bath, I had to wash him down while he stood in the bath. He's still a shower person and never has a bath.

clumsymoo

pimento wrote: »

Oh ad just remembered, my son wouldn't sit in a bath either. He'll only have showers. When we went on holiday ad the cottage only had a bath, I had to wash him down while he stood in the bath. He's still a shower person and never has a bath.

My son was the opposite. terrified of the shower. he's 14 and until a year ago, I was still washing his hair in the bath for him as he couldn't hold the had shower without soaking the bathroom. It's only now he's a hairy teenager that he has kickes me out finaly and discovered the shower. He thinks my bathroon is a wet room mind and leaves a trail of destruction in his wake but it is worth it!

sock-knitter

both of my sons were terrified of a shower too, in fact when ever we visited friends, who had a shower in their bathroom, we had to request that they closed the shower curtain, to hide it from my sons, so that they could use the toilet without getting scared of the shower. both lads are 15 now, and one is still scared of using shower, but can cope with seeing one in a bathroom so long as he dosent have to use it. other son is fine with actually using the shower now

Mrs_JP

I have three children with special needs.. 2 have Down's Syndrome and one has Asperger's. I am no expert, but from the description of your son I would say he is most certainly not in the catagory of "usual" behaviour......he does sound as though asperger's could be the diagnosis...However, do not despair....BUT do be firm when asking for help from your GP.

All three of our children were adopted and when our first child arrived we went very meekly to various meetings and appointments with experts (both my husband and myself are in the medical proffesion)....We soon learned that this got us nowhere.....when second child arrrived we knew what we were doing and we knew what to do and where to go for help....the third child was a breeze...SO...have courage, as others have said write things down.

Our son with Asperger's is almost 16, and despite .having some learning disabilities as well, he is a lovely boy who, whilst living in a slightly parralell universe at times, has a good life. I wish you and your son well

leongal12

Oh my!
Go into school. At 8 he should be reading- let alone the behaviour. You need too see the class teacher and the Special Educational Needs Co-ordinator. Ask for your son to see the Educational Psycholgist- sounds scarier than it is honest! Your son needs and Individual Education Plan and to be on the school Special Educational Needs Register- that doesn't mean he gets a 'label' or that it is forever but it does specify what he needs to work on and work on the best education to meet his needs. If school are not being as helpful as they might speak to the Local Authority's Parent Partnership- school will have their contact details or you can search for them on the Local Authority website. Every authority has to have a Parent Partnership.
The GP will help but actually you can be better going through school. Of course going through both wouldn't hurt! You could also ask to speak to the school nurse- she can come to the home so he isn't around so you can speak openly or meet you in school. They are a bit like Health Visitors for school age children,
What ever you do this is really hard for you and you have a lot of emotion wrapped up in this. Write stuff down before you meet anyone- that way you can keep focused and not forget anything.
There are 101 things that could be at the root of this but working towards finding out is better than worrying yourself to death. A 'diagnosis' of this or that isn't what is key- and actually not helpful unless it is the right diagnosis made by the right people. Making things better for you and your son is.