I am at my wits end :(

Mojisola

pleasehelpmyson wrote: »

Just a quick update, we have been to the doctors and it looks as though he has ADHD, we have to go to see someone for an assessment but the doctor thought that that was what it looked to be. I am really worried

This must be a very difficult time for you but at least you have a reason for his behaviour now.

Get as much support as you can from parents who have been down this path already. There should be a support group somewhere near you.

Fuzzy_Duck

Glad he's getting assessed OP. Things should be easier for you both when you know what's wrong and how to manage it.

The comments about things being big sounds a bit like Alice in Wonderland syndrome:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_in_Wonderland_syndrome

This might explain why he is scared of going up the stairs on his own and why he sees things sized differently. As you can see by the link though it is fairly common in children and most people grow out of it.

pimento

julie03 wrote: »

my son is dyspraxic and has aspergers and all this behaviour happens when he has to do something he doesnt want to do, i dont have any answers yet as i am waiting to see cahms and will talk to them, this behaviour has got worse over the last couple of years. my son is an angel at school, tho some of his friends say he is mad.

This sounds a bit like my son. He was eventually diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, but is now 18 and about to go to university. He's the same as all the other hairy teenagers these days.

He seemed to grow out of a lot of the bad behaviour at around 13-14. he didn't learn to read until he had one to one help though. He was about eight years old when he started reading, as I remember.

LittleMissAspie

pleasehelpmyson wrote: »

He will not wash himself in the bath at all.

Maybe he doesn't like touching the bath surface or the tiles. I hate that. I stand on the side of my feet and make sure my arms etc don't touch the sides or the shower curtain. So maybe he would prefer a shower with some shoes or socks on.

sassyblue

pleasehelpmyson wrote: »

Hi all,

Just a quick update, we have been to the doctors and it looks as though he has ADHD, we have to go to see someone for an assessment but the doctor thought that that was what it looked to be. I am really worried

ah (((HUGS))) honey you must be scared but believe me there is help for you and now you're on the road to getting this sorted out. Your son will now be getting some help and his future will be all the more brighter.

Good luck.

Suffolk_Jock

pleasehelpmyson wrote: »

Hi all,

Just a quick update, we have been to the doctors and it looks as though he has ADHD, we have to go to see someone for an assessment but the doctor thought that that was what it looked to be. I am really worried

Glad that the Dr, took your concerns seriously and acted on them. Your child will be reffered to CAMHS (Child & Adolescent Mental Health Services) to be assessed. Nothing to worry about, but as i said they will wont as much past history as possible. So keep writing down a full history of all events and time scales (If possible) as this will help the with a diagnosis.

clumsymoo

My heart goes out to you.
You need to make an appointment with your GP and get him reffered.
Make an appointment with your schools SENCO (special educational needs co ordinator)
My Son is ADHD with behavioural problems and Dyspraxia. I also work in education and deal with many children with special needs.

It took me over 2 years to get My son a diagnosis as his school were not helpful and the system is crap and although it is not good to label a child it is impossible to get help without it.
From what you have described it his behaviour sounds like he is very anxious, (I spent many a night watching TV in my room next to his because he hated being upstairs alone) and slightly OCD.
It is impossible to say what is going on without getting him reffered as many of the syptoms of ADHD, AS (Autistic spectrum) and many other possible diagnosis have overlapping symptoms and issues.

He must be quite bewildered by his own behaviour and you must be drained. I know how exhausting living with a child with difficulties is. I hope you have some support for you.
Please don't be embarassed by his behaviour, he has no control over it. You love him no matter what. My son is now 14 and has learnt to deal with things a bit better. Do you watch Big Bro. He is my personal Sam Pepper. He drives me mad but I love him dearly and was lost without him in the house when he went camping this week! My son often says he just wants people to accept him as he is and why not? Isn't that what we all want, to be accepted? The Violent behaviour is a symptom of his total frustration.
Feel free to inbox me if you have any questions I can help with.
Good luck

Mupette

Don't be worried that the gp thinks it could be ADHD. Be relieved that your gp can see there is a problem and that your DS is not just a naughty child.

The first step is the hardest, talking to someone about your fears, you've done that bit, easy wasn't it.

I can honestly say 8 year old boys are interesting creatures, (i have a DS who is 15 now).

Your DS should now start to get the help he needs and you will have the support outside the home that you need.

Unlike my OH's neighbours who tell everyone that one of their kids has adhd, to cover up the temper tantrums and screaming every morning and all through the day, when i questioned what drugs and support he had, they admitted he hasn't been seen by anyone not even a gp, they just havent a clue how to bring up children so they pop out another and feed the kids trash and wonder why the kids are so badly behaved. - and by what you have written your son is no way a brat having temper tantrums and eating rubbish.

There are a lot of parents on here with children with aspergers and dyslexia and adhd, and much more, who have been through it all, and can offer some great support.

Well done of getting the gp involved.

clumsymoo

Can I recomend a book for you?

Understanding ADHD A parents guide to Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder in children. By Dr Christopher Green (Author of Toddler Taming) Published by Vermilion. £9.99 got mine from Waterstones but sure your local library will stock it.

This book has been my Bible and my rock.
Very easy to read and covers everything. It will answer every question you ever wanted to ask and some you never thought of.

Loopy_Girl

OP, I have no experience of ADHD but I just wanted to say well done you on finding the courage to go to your GP.

Whilst it's upsetting to hear that anything is wrong with your kids, at least you have an answer and your son has a recognised medical condition for which there is tons of help out there. Am wondering as well if there is maybe a support group for parents in your area?

And of course there is the ADHD thread on here...it always seems to be on the front page so must be a lively wee chat!!

Well done you and I hope you and your family get through this.

Take care LG x