Week 2 - There's so much we can do.

NorthernLas

I have suffered migraines for over 30 years and have recently found that I can control them by using Buteyko breathing techniques (just YouTube Buteyko breathing to see clips). Basically, instead of breathing through your mouth, you conciously breathe only through your nose. It increases the carbon dioxide levels in your blood ('cos you hyperventilate when you breathe thro' your mouth) and this helps the update of oxygen and that stops the constriction of the blood vessesl (which causes the extreme pain in migraines).

My GP found out about it when he was a medical student and he has been issuing me drugs for over 20 years!!!!! MAD

RubySewSew

I was trying to remember the name for this the other day to recommend to a pregnant woman but I kept coming back to one very, very rude word that would have been very embarrassing if I had said it by accident. I will give it a try - I find the migraines so disorientating and it is so hard to take time out because they usually start at work. However, that is no excuse. Will def give it a try.

I bought myself a scratch card today and was so hopeful for it to pay out that I actually felt let down when I didn't win anything. It's stupid isn't it but I feel more likely to solve my problems with a random lottery win than by ever managing it myself. Finally got pay sorted and once I had done the budget I realised there was no money left over for anything. Not even the furniture I know that next month will be a better month but there are things that need to be sorted out now and do need money to sort them. Storage for the bedroom, seeds and compost for the garden. Ho hum. Maybe ebay is the answer.

Jobs done so far:

Hoover house. - tick
Vax downstairs.
Get at least 3 loads of washing on line - 2 on line, 1 up inside
Put dry laundry away.
Find hospital letters and book appts.
Call SKY and cancel
Meal plan and shopping list - tick
Call BT for new internet package.
Pay bounced bills.

Will nag DS1 to clean out his guinea pigs whilst I put laundry away. Then I'll make dinner and have a think about finishing the tidying and sorting. Last night's sleeplessness is starting to kick in zzzzzzz

RubySewSew

Just got a completely unexpected cheque from Swinton for £43.40! Whoop! Whoop!

RubySewSew

I'm being spoilt rotten. Met a friend for breakfast yesterday and she treated me. Found a lovely little charm bracelet in a local antique shop for 2 quid. Then got driven to Bexhill for a day trip, curry and gig. All paid for. Band were absolutely amazing! Have them rumbling away on Spotify in the background.

Had a really sympathetic letter from Sainsbury's bank accepting my £1 offer and offering support. It was a massive relief.

Up late this morning. Coffee and sausage sandwiches. Found DS3's birthday list and now off into town to see what I can get for him. He's at that funny old age where he's too big for small toys and not quite big enough for big toys. It will be fun shopping for him. He does love cows more than anything else in th world so I will see if I can slip some cow based presents in there

RubySewSew

I seem to be going through alternating phases of positivity and action or outright denial and post/email/voicemail avoidance. It might just be to do with coming home form work tired and ill equipped to deal with stuff but haven't yet manage to reach the point of sortedness and calm I was hoping for. Boys with their Dad tomorrow so maybe I can get a spurt on then. Hmmmm. Not convinced.

RubySewSew

I'm sooo tired. House is a state. Kitchen is a state. Paperwork is a state. Work is a state. Business is a state. Diet is a state. Hair is a state. I know that getting some of that sorted tonight would make a difference but I just want to crawl in to bed. And stay there.

And my beautiful little sister has been working so hard to get skinny. I am so pleased for her but i don't half feel like a frump!

Eager_Elephant

((((Ruby))))

When life is tough it is always easy to think that life would be better if you were thin when in actual fact if life was hard and you were skinny and pigged out on all the bad stuff you would feel even worse.

Life can be so overwhelming sometimes but if you are tired and need your bed you should go to bed.

Maybe you can focus on one thing each evening so it does not feel so overwhelming, give yourself permission to only deal with one thing a day - I can't remember who it is but one diary I subscribe to focuses on different things depending on the day of the week and it seems to work well so although you can deal with the urgent stuff on the wrong day the less meaningful things can be dealt with on the correct day of the week - obviously notes can be made ready for the correct day.

Hopefully you will feel better when your creditors have reponded to your letters about your offers, at the moment you have no control over your debts because the ball is in the creditors court on whether to accept the offers made. Just remember to keep paying the payments offered regardless of whether the offer has been accepted.

Jut looked back quickly and the easiest thing to sort would be your hair, can you make sure it is washed regularly so looks clean. If it needs a cut have you got some clips you don't usually wear and wear your hair in a different style??

If you need any help give me a shout, just wish I was closer.

If you post again I probably won't reply as now going to bed to revise as have a Food Safety exam tomorrow :eek:

EE

RubySewSew

Ah, thanks Eager I do feel a bit better today, I think I just get so overwhelmed by the tiredness. I really do enjoy my job but it creates as many problems as it solves and doesn't solve as many as I'd like! Working full time means I can pay my bills but doesn't afford me any disposable income. It does mean that I am time poor and energy poor but it is very much a case of needs must at the moment. It is very frustrating because I could probably earn as much being self employed as I do now and have a lot more time but I wouldn't have the consistency and cash flow that I do now. It also means that this unresolved question is constantly circulating around my head - employed or self employed?

The house needs a good clear couple of days to get on top of. If I'm not at school I'm with the kids which makes that almost impossible. None of this stuff is terrible it's just such a constant ongoing battle being a single working parent. And as if to hammer the point home this is being punctuated by DS1 vomiting in the background! He is with his Dad tonight, poor little thing, although he doesn't want to go. And his Dad will HAVE to be off with him tomorrow because I simply can't have any more time off. I don't remember the last time I worked a full week.

I think the website you mean is flylady which is great and makes me feel so much more centred and in control. However, the irony is that last night I was too tired to even look at the website! Nothing very much has changed since yesterday although the bf did drop my shopping off which I have put away and I did load the dishwasher. And it was so sunny and lovely when I got home from work that I cleaned out the chickens and raked over the garden which was very satisfying. Their coop was rank! I love it when it's all clean fresh straw. And today we got the biggest double yolker I've ever seen - that always puts a smile on my face! I'm fairly certain now that all 5 are laying which is really odd because I was convinced that the eggs were fertilised! I'm selling 2 or 3 boxes a week at school for £1 a box. It's enough to make them pay for themselves. Need to get a wriggle on as well getting planted up ready for sowing outside. Things usually seem better in spring when the sun is shining and the door is open and the evenings are longer.

I do wash and style my hair every day and use an assortment of clips and 40's/50's styling. The problem is it is very coloured and needs a lot of attention to keep it from looking tired and grungy. I haven't had it cut for quite a while so it looks very obviously grown out! Ho hum. I am usually fairly presentable so it's probably one thing I could stop moaning about. Think i'll have a long hot soak tonight and lay that particular demon to rest! Might even get around to painting my toes!
Maybe I should set myself a small target for tonight. Sofa and kitchen table. Both manageable.

Right, am going to see to DS1 before he goes to his Dad's. Poor little thing

Eager_Elephant

I'm glad you are feeling more positive today but blurgh to poor DS1 and his sickness!!!

I know how you feel about self-employed and employed, DH and I want to run our own smallholding etc but at the moment we don't have the funds to buy anywhere so we rent 2 fields and have chickens, ducks, geese, turkeys and lambs so I suppose we are part way there. Also DH has depression and working outside always seems to help him.

Just found the thread I was mentioning with getting on top of things and concentrating on one area each day https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2962632= although she has not posted since January.

I also like seeing my chooks happy but that 5 mins clearing a rank coop is awful, I am over run with eggs of all sort. Can sell the chicken eggs at work but have more than enough to sell. The turkey eggs are going for quite a bit of money on ebay so this should cover the feed needed this weekend. The Goose eggs are a nightmare, geese only lay about 50 per year and half the girls are in lay so I am getting 4 eggs a day so am having to make a lot of cakes to use them up.

I used to have my hair coloured but got so fed up with the cost and the growing out that I decided to go back to my natural colour so started off by having highlights put in of light brown and then gradually increased it until I had a full head coloured. Now as it grows out it is my natural color there so rhis year I will only need cuts and not colouring. Would you consider going back?

EE

chevalier

wow what a night mare about the wages!

Sorry you are having such a tough time of it. It does get better over time honest
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