The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

budget_babe

Thankyou Fay :A

The butterflies are beautiful

I am struggling, but I shall get there. I do have some good news though. Mr Ds has now been promoted again :T he has also had an 18K payrise, so in one year his pay has increased by 30k I am so proud.

I feel like the poor relation :rotfl:

He is by far the youngest member of staff to be at this level, by a huge amount and to think he should have only been off the grad programme a month ago too. It really is a dreamlike reality.

But then again I always knew he was special :A

So there are some good things going on too and Mr BB and I are getting along famously

Butterfly hugs sweetheart
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

Different_Corner wrote: »

Morning all

SSG, you are working through it, and it's all progress. A lot of beating this for me is mindset.
I think I said to Sim if you start out fighting then I think you have a battle. I'm trying not to enter the arena IYSWIM. The minute I start doubting my decision it just becomes a battle. I know it's easier said then done, and I've lost a few rounds with a knoockout !

All sounds cheesy, but it is a bit of Allen Carr thinking.

Budgie, I would love to be that half a lager on hot sunny afternoon person, but it just isn't going to happen for me - right now. It's the drinking alone thing I hate.

Once I 've had one then it's like the gates close on anything else.
I know I'll want more, and that means I won't be able to drive anywhere. Won't see a film through to the end, will start to talk drivel, become emotional, over nostalgic, nit pick with the children, huff and puff over silly stuff, get sad, angry, and then to top it all be miserable the next day.

All for what ? Making the edges go fuzzy for half an hour. Not really a fair trade is it ?

I'm on 13 and I am taking the one day at a time approach. The past has happened, can't change that, the future is totally out of my hands. All I can do is live right now. (Have been reading Ecrkhart Tolle !)

Above post reads quite intense and miserable, I'm actually feeling zippity do dah !

DC I think that's one of the best posts I've read in ages

You're right - its not a fair trade is it - and its the fluffy half hour is the thing I'm always after - just the 'head switch off' bit for just a small while.

Thanks for the post DC - and glad you're feeling zippydedodah

budget_babe

Ok time to get moving.

Going to go for a run out and some lunch, but I know that I will not drink today and I shall think about tomorrow when it arrives.

I shall hopefully see a butterfly on my travels

Budgie is feeling a little brighter now, thankyou :A

Hugs to everyone and I am so sorry to see so many people leaving, but I wish everyone only good things and of course Jo will be back, I mean it just WOULD NOT BE THE SAME WITHOUT HER, nor will it be without Sparkles or Miss P and Piglet. On that note isn't Dear Lurky due back?

I've given up on Bhb

Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

DecemberBaby_2

Afternoon lovelies,

August Targets and scores received so far are:-

:staradmin = 1 day AF
= 5 days AF

Budgie 3/TF :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin
CWM 27
DB 5/20
DC 13/31 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin
Dotstar 15
Fay 11/20 :D :staradmin
Gien 20
HB 1/TF :staradmin
Jo 6/31 :staradmin
Maman 5/10
Noynoy 2/16 :staradmin:staradmin
Peedie 5/31
NRA 9/15 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin:staradmin
RN 8/10 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin
SOS 3/20 :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin
Shaggy 17
SSG 10/20 :D
115K 3/TF :staradmin:staradmin:staradmin

DB x

DecemberBaby_2

Huge hugs to you Budgie ((())). I'm glad you are feeling a bit brighter. I felt similar to your original post yesterday. Been away to Scotland and then back and out socialising so have had 8 non AF days in a row. Prior to that, I'd had 5 AF days in a row and felt much better. There have been such lovely and thoughtful posts in the last few days. DC,RN,NRA,FAY,365DAYS,CC,NRA to mention a few. It is so good to be around people who understand this problem.

Some of the things said have been a huge help to me and I'm sure to others too.

So to get back into the AF swing again I'd like to propose a Monday to Thursday challenge starting midnight tonight. Anyone like to join me?

DBx

fletch3163

Hello everyone

I'm happy to see this thread is still going strong, well done all:T

I lurked for a while on the original thread and posting once or twice, but always keeping up. I found the strength from this original thread to kick my nightly habit of a bottle of red.

I knew I had to quit because I believe my propensity to overdrink is genetic. I have a few members of my (large) immediate family who struggle. In fact my darling big sister succeeded in killing herself last month with booze. The soul was only 50. So sad.

Anyway, after a few weeks of being what I termed a "dry drunk", I got over the constant desire to drink each evening.

I'm now two years down the line and whilst I believe I will never drink till I get drunk again, I can happily have the odd pear cider and not want to get ripped in. I'm unfortunately left with Peripheral Neuropathy (I believe brought on by over drinking) but am thankful I got away unscathed.

I wish you all the power to overcome and good luck.

DecemberBaby_2

Hi Fletch,

Thanks for your post. I'm glad to hear this thread helped you. You have done brilliantly and also are now able to have the odd drink without overdoing it. A lot of us would like to be able to do that.

Very sorry to hear about your sister though.

DB x

fletch3163

My sister's fight is part of what kept me going with being alcohol free (in the main). She drank daily for years and years but only the the last 2 do I believe she drank night and day. She quit work, she quit food, the lot. The slowest suicide I ever saw. She always "legitimised" it and it was always good stuff, no rot gut. It would be wine with dinner every evening, wine to chill out in front of the telly, wine to drink on a lovely day, wine to offer the guests at a get together, wine in the bath with a book.

I used get loads of "you used to be such fun" arrows thrown at me(mainly from my fellow daily drinkers) but they get it now.

I fought the sore fight for weeks and weeks. Couldn't get off to sleep, the couldn't stay asleep. I knew if I had a couple of glasses I'd be out for the count but I believed I'd start the craving all over again.

So, I've quite two out of three vices - smoking and drinking. What's next? If you could see the size I've become you'd know:o

jo1972

Fletch, hugs sweetheart xxxx

Back to lurkdom... :wave:

maman

Sorry to hear about your sister fletch but from what you say it sounded almost an inevitable result. Very sad though.