The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

skintscottishgirl

randomname wrote: »

Graeme, That is so true.

Sim, You're still sounding very positive, Things are not half as bad as you might sometimes think. please stay strong.

SSG, Stay with the thread sweetie. We will have to agree to differ on your thoughts of drinking jn moderation. I am with Graeme and Sim, it is all or nothing. I'm trying for the latter but it is hard work but really worth the effort. If I falter this time I will bite the bullet and go to AA.

We are all rooting for you.

Thanks for the kind words RN

TBH I have been worrying all day in that hangover makes everything seem worse kind of way about maybe i shouldn't even be posting as I don't think I am acheiving anything, and maybe harming others or annoying them with my shenanigans, and posting about them on here.

I am off to read the rest with fear as I don't know what people will say about me. I feel really bad and I am sorry to anyone I offended

SSG

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skintscottishgirl

graemecarter wrote: »

I know that feeling.

It reads like you were more happy when abstinent than when drinking.

Abstinence only works well for me as I have changed myself, so no longer WANT to drink. Thus I am not denying myself alcohol

Yes you are right, so why can I just not resist when the notion hits?

Why did I get a half bottle and not a quarter and limit it?

And to have a blowout when i am up early the next morning instead of waiting till my day off?

As Sim would say

Bonkers

On the plus side I am now skint and working backshift 4 nights this week so I won't be drinking.

I just don't know what to do.....

skintscottishgirl

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

hi ssg, do u find it a mammouth effort to stop drinking after 1 or 2?
i never saw the point of having 1 beer, it was all or nothing. even now i don't see the point in having 1 drink only.
i tried drinking in moderation and at first i managed it although after a while i was back to drinking until i fell asleep.
i could have 1 drink now but for the rest of the day and probably tomorrow i would have an urge to drink and the thought would be unshakeable from my head. i just do not have the energy to deal with all that.

If i go out for a meal with a start, middle and end I can have a couple and it doesn't bother me. But to drink in the flat or out in a bar, it's getting smashed.

It's so pointless, the hangovers, the spending money I don't have, the forgetting the evening, the risk aspect that I hate.

I just don't know.

But I am back on the wagon as of tonight so that's a start

SSG

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Pippilongstocking

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

If i go out for a meal with a start, middle and end I can have a couple and it doesn't bother me. But to drink in the flat or out in a bar, it's getting smashed.

It's so pointless, the hangovers, the spending money I don't have, the forgetting the evening, the risk aspect that I hate.

I just don't know.

But I am back on the wagon as of tonight so that's a start

SSG

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Well done on the saturday night wagon SSG - hope work wasnt' too horrible today

I'm just collapsed on the sofa with some juice - just did some housework (long overdue) the nights are so much more productive (and longer) when I'm not opening a bottle of wine.

Pippilongstocking

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

Thanks for the kind words RN

TBH I have been worrying all day in that hangover makes everything seem worse kind of way about maybe i shouldn't even be posting as I don't think I am acheiving anything, and maybe harming others or annoying them with my shenanigans, and posting about them on here.

I am off to read the rest with fear as I don't know what people will say about me. I feel really bad and I am sorry to anyone I offended

SSG

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Speaking only for me, I don't get offended on here (well very hardly ever and only in very exceptional circumstances, you get the idea!)

Don't worry about posting, its a rich, diverse and interesting thread with many opinions - all interesting. I think you should post when/if you feel like it - there's no rules

(well aside us all being nice and having manners )

And I always find if I'm drinking I'm incredibly paranoid the next day, its exhausting all the worrying, I've been thinking lately - although I do miss the drinking and the nights are often seeming endless, I don't miss the paranoia/self loathing/self doubt the next day.

Its so tiring!!

So don't worry so - I think is the concise version of this waffle!!!

xxxx

skintscottishgirl

fayjmck wrote: »

Well done on the saturday night wagon SSG - hope work wasnt' too horrible today

I'm just collapsed on the sofa with some juice - just did some housework (long overdue) the nights are so much more productive (and longer) when I'm not opening a bottle of wine.

Thank you fay, jumpimg back on the wagon is just about all i can do!!

As it happens work was pretty good but would have been better had i not been hungover....

Will be a better day tomorrow I sincerely hope as i need to catch up with things I did not stop today hardly, but went to my sisters after and watched Borak (very good)

Good on you getting your housework done, I hate housework and avoid making any mess, mind you it's quite therapeutic at times:)

Onwards and upwards hey ho, will probably find it difficult to sleep tonight but will still feel shedloads better tomorrow,

hope everyone is fine and dandy sober or not tonight

SSG

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Pippilongstocking

Its a bumpy ride generally - I don't understand my own relationship with the stuff, I do well, then I absoltuely just sabbotage myself, as many say on here baffling stuff this alcohol.

When sober and unable to sleep, I stick on a movie or read - I find it hard to sleep - one of my reasons for so much wine, just to switch off my head IYSWIM

Housework, also not a fan, but kids home tomorrow so no choice but to try and claw back some semblence of order

Night!!
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skintscottishgirl

fayjmck wrote: »

Speaking only for me, I don't get offended on here (well very hardly ever and only in very exceptional circumstances, you get the idea!)

Don't worry about posting, its a rich, diverse and interesting thread with many opinions - all interesting. I think you should post when/if you feel like it - there's no rules

(well aside us all being nice and having manners )

And I always find if I'm drinking I'm incredibly paranoid the next day, its exhausting all the worrying, I've been thinking lately - although I do miss the drinking and the nights are often seeming endless, I don't miss the paranoia/self loathing/self doubt the next day.

Its so tiring!!

So don't worry so - I think is the concise version of this waffle!!!

xxxx

I am so in agreement with that, I have spent days thinking everyone is looking at me funny after certain drinking sessions and it's a nightmare, though 9 times out of ten they aren't it's the paranoia as you say...

Although if they're talking about me they are leaving someone else alone, there's them that matter and them that don't

Thanks for your words

SSG

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skintscottishgirl

fayjmck wrote: »

Its a bumpy ride generally - I don't understand my own relationship with the stuff, I do well, then I absoltuely just sabbotage myself, as many say on here baffling stuff this alcohol.

When sober and unable to sleep, I stick on a movie or read - I find it hard to sleep - one of my reasons for so much wine, just to switch off my head IYSWIM

Housework, also not a fan, but kids home tomorrow so no choice but to try and claw back some semblence of order

Night!!
xx

As before, totally relate to that!

I will be reading in my bed....

Night Night!

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DecemberBaby_2

Hiya Fay and SSG,

I'm just off to bed but just wanted to say I know what you both mean. You haven't offended anyone SSG and you really have been doing so well recently apart from the recent blip. Happens to most of us. All the best.


Night

DB x