The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

newroadahead

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Hiya ladies and gents,

Hope you're all enjoying a relaxing weekend.

I had rather a quiet one at home. Full English breakfast for dinner!

Followed by a relaxing bath, and some classic Rebus and Cracker on TV

Am still a bit worried about my finances, but now I've got a plan in place as to resolving it I do feel a bit more positive.

Been sober a week here now which feels good.

Hugs to you guys who need them,

Night night,

Sim x

Glad you are better Sim

Talk once Im home

love

NRA xxxxx

SimIsOnTheUp

newroadahead wrote: »

Glad you are better Sim

Talk once Im home

love

NRA xxxxx

Hiya NRA,

Hope you're having a good weekend at your folks'!

G'night,

Sim xx

cardboard_chewer

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

it's the idea that i am missing out somehow, and yet on what?

have you read allen carr 'easy way to control alcohol'? there are some sections in there dealing with feelings of missing out and being deprived of alcohol. it's on amazon second hand for about £5 and is worth a read.
well done not drinking last night :T :T :T we can't change the past but we can change the future.
btw you haven't offended anyone as far as i can see. on the contrary i appreciate your posts and i can see other people thanking your posts.

randomname_3

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend. I,m off out soon, am going to a christening, my niece's little daughter Lily-Rose. The venue is 80 miles away. Just as well as the dark cloud is on the horizon and that only means one thing as far as I am concerned.

OH can't drive due to recent cataract op. Ergo I will not be able imbibe which is good.

SSG Please stay with the thread, I know you feel low sometimes but try to be positive. Concentrate on the good things you have including the friends you have here.

Sim You sound good, try to keep going. BTW I often have an all day breakfast at lunch time.

Graeme. CC & RA It's really encouraging to hear of your success. You give me inspiration and hopefully to others here.

budget_babe

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I have not read back, but I will in a minute.

I have a cold

Also I have had a realisation, I have always thought that I am not an alcoholic but I have realised that I do have a very unhealthy addiction.

I NEVER just have one drink and even one bottle does not seem enough, so does this mean that I am an alcoholic?

I realise that I must change myself, but I am unsure as to how I am going to do this?

I feel troubled and really quite afraid if I am honest.

Sorry for the downbeat post but for once I realise that I need to address this addiction.

Love to everyone
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Different_Corner

Morning all

SSG, you are working through it, and it's all progress. A lot of beating this for me is mindset.
I think I said to Sim if you start out fighting then I think you have a battle. I'm trying not to enter the arena IYSWIM. The minute I start doubting my decision it just becomes a battle. I know it's easier said then done, and I've lost a few rounds with a knoockout !

All sounds cheesy, but it is a bit of Allen Carr thinking.

Budgie, I would love to be that half a lager on hot sunny afternoon person, but it just isn't going to happen for me - right now. It's the drinking alone thing I hate.

Once I 've had one then it's like the gates close on anything else.
I know I'll want more, and that means I won't be able to drive anywhere. Won't see a film through to the end, will start to talk drivel, become emotional, over nostalgic, nit pick with the children, huff and puff over silly stuff, get sad, angry, and then to top it all be miserable the next day.

All for what ? Making the edges go fuzzy for half an hour. Not really a fair trade is it ?

I'm on 13 and I am taking the one day at a time approach. The past has happened, can't change that, the future is totally out of my hands. All I can do is live right now. (Have been reading Ecrkhart Tolle !)

Above post reads quite intense and miserable, I'm actually feeling zippity do dah !

randomname_3

BB I'm not really one to talk but facing up to a problem (any problem) is the first step to solving it. It takes guts to admit to being an alcholic and well done to you for doing so. Read the wise words of Graeme. Cardboard Chewer And Recovering Alcholic. They have changed their lives for the better and so can you IF you want to. I hope by bottle you mean wine and not spirits which is my poison. Since joining in this thread I have done really well. The monthly challenge has given me something to aim for.

Good luck.

RN

budget_babe

randomname wrote: »

BB I'm not really one to talk but facing up to a problem (any problem) is the first step to solving it. It takes guts to admit to being an alcholic and well done to you for doing so. Read the wise words of Graeme. Cardboard Chewer And Recovering Alcholic. They have changed their lives for the better and so can you IF you want to. I hope by bottle you mean wine and not spirits which is my poison. Since joining in this thread I have done really well. The monthly challenge has given me something to aim for.

Good luck.

RN

Hi Rn and thankyou :A

But yes by bottle I mean wine, I only ever drink red wine but I realise that I must stop as my relationship with it, is far from being normal.

Today I just feel so worn out by it all.

Dc you are so right it is not a fair trade at all.

But there is no magic wand and I need to work out a plan that I can stick to. Its that bit that I am stuck with.

Thankyou both again.

Hugs (()) Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

budget_babe wrote: »

Hi Everyone,

Sorry I have not read back, but I will in a minute.

I have a cold

Also I have had a realisation, I have always thought that I am not an alcoholic but I have realised that I do have a very unhealthy addiction.

I NEVER just have one drink and even one bottle does not seem enough, so does this mean that I am an alcoholic?

I realise that I must change myself, but I am unsure as to how I am going to do this?

I feel troubled and really quite afraid if I am honest.

Sorry for the downbeat post but for once I realise that I need to address this addiction.

Love to everyone
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Aw bless lovie

I feel an awful lot like the same way, I don't like to hear you so downbeat xxxxxx

You know, I find that having the stuff in the house doesn't help me, so I can't have anything in.

If I'm going to drink wine, and as much as I'm trying ot manage not to, but if I do want to have some wine, I've normally (thesedays) only bought those small bottles (couple of glasses).

Its my strategy - but I'm not one of the more wise ones on here.

YOu seemed to be very upbeat and well when you were doing lots of distraction techniques and exercise etc

I hope you find something that works for you.

For me, no wine in, only small bottles when I'm fancying some wine works - if I buy more I drink more - so my 'management technique' whilst probably flawed - works for me.

I don't tend to drink much in company - so its the 'alone' stuff I have to try and keep a lid on.

Recently I did some work for a distillery - they sent me a bottle of malt - NIGHTMARE - I opened the bottle - had a sniff and a tiny taste (lovely!) and then dumped it down the sink - I didn't trust myself.

Perhaps a waste of money (?) - but I remember the wise Bis saying to me - dump the booze - and I said '...but the moneysaving!!' - he said OK how much money does it save you if you drink it and wee it down the toilet (sorry to be so blunt).

I'd much rather the people I'd done the favour for had sent me £30!!!!

Goodluck my love, none of this will help, I want you know you're not alone, you know where I am if you need me - alot of what you said is so similar to me - I wish you only butterflies and good things in your brain xx

cardboard_chewer

fayjmck wrote: »

Perhaps a waste of money (?) - but I remember the wise Bis saying to me - dump the booze - and I said '...but the moneysaving!!' - he said OK how much money does it save you if you drink it and wee it down the toilet (sorry to be so blunt).

a few years ago i would have thought that a waste of money as well.
i used to drink in cheap pubs to save money... bonkers! (to borrow a phrase :-) ) i'd still end up spending all my money on drink it just took slightly longer to do in the cheap pubs.
i get alcoholic drink presents occasionally, mostly i just give them away if anyone wants them otherwise they get poured away and placed in the bin.