The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

graemecarter

skintscottishgirl wrote: »

Morning All

Well, a bit rough to say the least and once again broke my own rule....

But I have survived and onwards and upwards....

I am going to work this weekend and will certainly not be overdoing it tonight, as quite apart from anything else i have not enough money to buy more vodka till thursday at least

Thank God

Will tan what is left tonight - about 3 left

Then be done with it

Till the next time

I am just pure fed up with all of this

SSG

XX

I went there many times too.....

Have a great day and take care.

honeybear_2

graemecarter wrote: »

Abstinence only works well for me as I have changed myself, so no longer WANT to drink. Thus I am not denying myself alcohol

And that, i think, is the crux of the matter for many of us

Hello & bye peeps, taking myself away for a few days break

Be good while I'm gone

bearhugs

xx

RecoveringAlcoholic

What was your turning point Graeme?

I hope you don't mind me asking?

In my case it was being admitted to hospital as an emergency patient and being given a 50% chance of survival.

cardboard_chewer

hi ssg, do u find it a mammouth effort to stop drinking after 1 or 2?
i never saw the point of having 1 beer, it was all or nothing. even now i don't see the point in having 1 drink only.
i tried drinking in moderation and at first i managed it although after a while i was back to drinking until i fell asleep.
i could have 1 drink now but for the rest of the day and probably tomorrow i would have an urge to drink and the thought would be unshakeable from my head. i just do not have the energy to deal with all that.

365days

The turning point for me was another personal 'catastrophe'. Falling out with a long term, dear friend. At that point I had been on this thread on and off for about a year and while still drinking was much more aware of how unhealthy my drinking habits were. Also in that time 2 family memebers died from alcohol related issues.I thought to myself on that day something along the lines of 'right tonight I'm going to get slaughtered and forget about it all' then realised that would not change anything. I would still wake up tomorrow and everything would still be the same. I realised that for years alcohol had been my drug of choice....my blocker outer and frnakly I had lost too many evenings and years getting drunk.

That was last october. I drank again on Christmas day 2009 which just proved to me that I can't stop at one! I haven't drunk since.

My 'social life' is totally different now. I meet friends for a dog walk and a coffee and a chat. I have re discovered who I am (A bit of a loner and a nature girl) Last Saturday night I stayed in and made jam from fruit that I had picked on a long country walk.

There is an idea that if someone isn't 'out' every weekend they are somehow inferior, have no 'life'. I spent my late teens and 20's and 30's being a party animal, with all the reckless behaviour that entails. I remember me and 2 friends (both heavy drinkers) drinking wine on a night out. We drank 7 bottles between us. Then at midnight when the bar we were drinking in shut we got a cab to my local where I knew we could get a lock in. I remember walking in swigging from a wine bottle and carrying on drinking till the small hours. How classy I must of looked!!! I don't regret those years, but I sure as hell don't want to go back there. I have a new goal in life, which I know drinking again certainly won't help and will probably hinder. It's almost as my drinking 'phase' is over. I would love to be a moderate drinker, enjoy a glass of wine or 2 at a dinner party, or a cold pint of cider on a hot summers day but I can't. I am paying the price of being an alcoholic and that is that I can no longer drink. The price however is small. As I don't want to be the person I was, however the person I was makes me who I am today.

Drinkers are defined by their drinking. Drinkers believe that if you don't drink you are boring, not having fun etc etc.

I now realise that getting so drunk you can't remember what you have done isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Good luck everyone.

maman

Very deep discussion on here this morning. Don't want to read and run but as a 'cutter-down' you wouldn't expect me to agree with it all. Or at least what I mean is that what some posters are saying may be true for them but not for everyone. I do recognise though that some posters (past and present) want/need to give up completely and can't which is a worry. However, despite many false dawns I believe that support is what they need as it's never too late to try again. I must go now, things to do, but back later. Good to see some old virtual friends coming out of lurkdom. Have a good afternoon all.

Pippilongstocking

Hello chaps

Just back from a trip away - waves up to Maman - kids are back from bonnie francaiz tomorrow. Thanks for asking!

Can comment on what's gone on so far - off for a read

I'm upto - 11 AFD's - I have to say I'm on tablets from the doctor, (nowt serious) and I can't drink on them, so whilst I'm AF - I've had an 'excuse' imposed on me! (which I'm glad of to be honest - its given me the complete break/no question of drinking on these tablets I just can't do it.

Waves to all

Pippilongstocking

PS I took some wine for my pals last night, some fizzy drinks for me and OH - no one questioned the lack of drinking, which was nice for a change! I've found alot of my socialising has 'changed' since being on here - x

graemecarter

maman wrote: »

Very deep discussion on here this morning. Don't want to read and run but as a 'cutter-down' you wouldn't expect me to agree with it all. Or at least what I mean is that what some posters are saying may be true for them but not for everyone. I do recognise though that some posters (past and present) want/need to give up completely and can't which is a worry. However, despite many false dawns I believe that support is what they need as it's never too late to try again. I must go now, things to do, but back later. Good to see some old virtual friends coming out of lurkdom. Have a good afternoon all.

Quite true - some people on this thread are just here to cut down, and if they manage that with the help of this thread, then great.
For others (like me), cutting down is not an option so not drinking is the way forward.
Every individual must decide for themselves what their goal is.

115K

Sorry to see so many people leaving.:( I wish you all luck anyway.:)

It's my 3rd AF day today.

Hope everyone is okay and having a relaxing Saturday.:A