The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

jo1972

I am absolutely fed up with this drinking business

I've been reading Liver Sober since Sunday whenever I've had 10 minutes spare and it says that it's unwise to set yourself goals, it's better to not drink for that day or even that hour or for the next 10 minutes, it then even says if all these are too much then just don't drink whilst you are reading that page! This is to obviously break it down and make it all more managable.

This is where my problem lies.....I want to break it down into 10-15 minute sections today but I leave work, go to offy and buy alcohol, go home and drink it. If I left work and went home without the alcohol, then this in itself would trigger panic and cravings. If I left work and went to offy and left alcohol in car, then it'd be singing to me all night long. What am I gonna do?

I could and have said to myself in the past, that I won't buy any now but if I really want to then I'll go out to shop later. If I do decide I want to go out and get some later then this could and has previously caused a very uncomfortable evening because I couldn't think of a justifiable excuse to go to the shop. I can't afford to make this worse than it's gonna be otherwise there's more chance I'll have vino collapso, to steal a phrase

Yes, yes, I know, I'm making all too much out of this, but I don't want to drink today and I get the whole not drinking for the next 10 minute thing but I don't know how to give myself a chance of doing it.

My main problem is getting home with no alcohol, the draw to the shop is so strong it's practically impossible to ignore. I don't want alcohol and I don't want to stop but I always pull up and go in anyway. My mind is saying, 'you'll regret it later if you don't get any now'

It is very important that I have an AF day today and tomorrow as OH is out on Friday and Saturday and if I drink tomorrow then I won't have any strength to stay AF when he's out and so I know that the weekend will be wiped out.

Feel like crap

jo1972

Morning all :wave:

In other news, the curry house came back to me and said that they have a private room available for Sun 24th Oct, they just want to know a time

Caz, hope you are feeling better today hun xx

Hope everyone else is okay, haven't had much chance to read properly.

Gotta dash and do the lunches and stuff.

Chat laters innit :cool:

xx

Lurkio

jo1972 wrote: »

I am absolutely fed up with this drinking business

I've been reading Liver Sober since Sunday whenever I've had 10 minutes spare and it says that it's unwise to set yourself goals, it's better to not drink for that day or even that hour or for the next 10 minutes, it then even says if all these are too much then just don't drink whilst you are reading that page! This is to obviously break it down and make it all more managable.

This is where my problem lies.....I want to break it down into 10-15 minute sections today but I leave work, go to offy and buy alcohol, go home and drink it. If I left work and went home without the alcohol, then this in itself would trigger panic and cravings. If I left work and went to offy and left alcohol in car, then it'd be singing to me all night long. What am I gonna do?

I could and have said to myself in the past, that I won't buy any now but if I really want to then I'll go out to shop later. If I do decide I want to go out and get some later then this could and has previously caused a very uncomfortable evening because I couldn't think of a justifiable excuse to go to the shop. I can't afford to make this worse than it's gonna be otherwise there's more chance I'll have vino collapso, to steal a phrase

Yes, yes, I know, I'm making all too much out of this, but I don't want to drink today and I get the whole not drinking for the next 10 minute thing but I don't know how to give myself a chance of doing it.

My main problem is getting home with no alcohol, the draw to the shop is so strong it's practically impossible to ignore. I don't want alcohol and I don't want to stop but I always pull up and go in anyway. My mind is saying, 'you'll regret it later if you don't get any now'

It is very important that I have an AF day today and tomorrow as OH is out on Friday and Saturday and if I drink tomorrow then I won't have any strength to stay AF when he's out and so I know that the weekend will be wiped out.

Feel like crap

(((jo))))

This will be no help to you at all but....... last year, when I was trying to get back in to running, we made a pact in the office that 'Wednesday was running day'. No ifs, no buts. This took any 'decision' out of the equation and no matter how carp any of us were feeling, or how demotivated anyone was (lots in my case), we were still out there.

Could you apply the same logic, somehow? If you take the decision-making part out of it, then there'll be no offy dilemma, and probably no bells, as there's nothing to have an internal dialogue about. You AREN'T drinking today. End.

But don't worry. Someone will be along withsome practical, useful advice in a minute

shaggydoo

Morning All :hello:

I wish I had some magic words to say Jo



Shaggy

shaggydoo

September:-


= 7 days AF

:j = target achieved

Cazza 12/TF

DB 5/15

Diable 20/30

Fay 18/TF

Gien 13/TF

Happyshopper 15/20

HB 5/TF

Jo 5/TF

Maman 8/10

Marru 20/30

Miss P 12/30

Mookiepook 5/29

NRA 7/28

Randomname 11/15

SianneLaz 5/AF

SOS 14/24

Shaggy 20/17 :j

Shoppy 5/25

SSG 7/25

Trasij 16/25

Yellow Monkey 16/TF

115K 6/TF


PLEASE PUT YOUR AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT

jo1972

Thanks to you both

I think what I'll do is post on here every 10 minutes, I know how much you'll all love that

40somethingmum

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks to you both

I think what I'll do is post on here every 10 minutes, I know how much you'll all love that

:T:T:T.

(((Hugs)) Jo. Sorry I don't really have an answer for you. I have just completed 6 days of my 100 day challenge:eek:. I still want to drink every day (especially when I am leaving the office) but keep telling myself I can't .... so far so good . On the down side I am eating lots of biscuits etc ( something I very rarely do !) .

Do 10 mins and repeat. repeat . repeat.... . You can do it girl.. you have done it before so you can do it again;)

Have a good day sweetie

Love

40SMxx

honeybear_2

jo1972 wrote: »

Thanks to you both

I think what I'll do is post on here every 10 minutes, I know how much you'll all love that

Thought you already did

I don't know what to suggest, babe I think you are stronger than you think & you can get passed it, just try for the 10 minutes, or the 5 or the 1 even & see if it works. You've done it before so you know you can do it again :A

Sending you hugs & muchos positive vibes

xx

jo1972

honeybear wrote: »

Thought you already did

:p:p :rotfl:

40somethingmum wrote: »

On the down side I am eating lots of biscuits etc ( something I very rarely do !)

There is a whole section in Living Sober about eating sweet things when AF, it's actually a very good book....although some I know are not interested in AA, it does throw up some interesting points and makes you realise why you do what you do when planning a drink, drinking or abstaining

It basically goes through the HALT thing (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) and explains them and gives you tips on how to avoid feeling this way.

So far so good

penelopedee_2

Morning all.

Hugs Jo - I too think you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Don't let a book freak you out. I don't know what to suggest about buying it on the way home, apart from don't take any money or cards out with you (but I know that's probably not practical). Just try and have a nice day hun, and worry about this evening when it comes You're too nice to be down like this all the time.

(sorry if that sounds a bit preachy, Pen x)