The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

cardboard_chewer

graemecarter wrote: »

The problem of alcoholism is within me - changing my surroundings, job, routine, lifestyle etc never stopped me drinking. I had to change myself internally.
Thus the problem is within me, as is the solution.

I can relate to that. I moved house to try and stop drinking. My old flat was in a city centre with bars and shops everywhere, my current house is a 30 minute walk from the nearest pub/off licence. Much to my surprise (at the time!) it didn't work. I'd still walk to the pub even through wind, rain and snow :-( The change had to come from within for me.

maman

This is for you jo. I'm with fay and would recommend a scenic route home then to bed ASAP. That should get you through today and then that's one more day clocked up.

Sim, you're doing great on all fronts. Do try not to worry about what hasn't happened! Perhaps you could ask your advocacy guy what he thinks of your submission to help you tweak it a bit if you're worried.

Hope you feel a bit better after a sleep marru.

I slept dreadfully last night, took over 1.5 hours to drop off and then fitful through the night. I do envy those that sleep well when AF, I'm better knocked out by alcohol (not that I would use that as an excuse:o).

Have a good day all!

mumofboys_2

Hi All,

Well after my successful book club evening, last night was a real toughie. I spent most of yesterday feeling like all was well, and being slightly self congratulatory - kids happy and back at school, work going relatively ok, feeling much healthier, relatively organised at home, and biggest and bestest no drinking. Then of course them pesky kids get you. Silly situation but one which just laughed in the face of my carefully constructed tower of cards. Anyway - all is well now, but I had a serious wobble and took myself to bed very early to avoid temptation. As the wise GC says - one day at a time.

Jo What you said about waking up in the morning feeling grateful you are not dead really hit home with me, as I have been feeling exactly the same. In fact the turning point was when I had a dream the other night of watching a tree with no leaves on it, but covered with birds eating bright red berries from it. In my dream I thought how strange it was that the tree was covered with berries but had no leaves. Then I realised that it was because the tree was dying and the birds were getting the last they could from it. Then I realised that the tree was me, and in my dream I was crying out for someone to help me but no-one could hear me. Thankfully I then woke up, but it was very distressing, and was the catalyst for me drawing a big fat line in the sand for myself, and, well, here I am, trying.

Anyway, what I am trying to say is I understand, and I send you hugs.

40SM and all the Crimboers, good luck.

MOB

penelopedee_2

I have only just managed to get myself up and dressed today lovely DS has shared his cold with me and I feel about 50 yrs older!

The plus side is I went to bed early AF and there is no way I could stomach any today. I hate phoning in sick at work but there was no way I could drive for an hour this morning. The boys are being brill though, going up the shop for me, sorting out the washing and now chillin upstairs so I can have some girly TV on in peace

Caz - I save a week's worth of ironing to do on a Sunday night. It works most weeks. Then a nice long hot bath and an early night helps.

Jo - hugs hun, please stop beating yourself up. The world throws enough cr*p at us, be kind to yourself x

Sim - you sound so much more positive now-a-days, I think you are doing really well :T

40SM - good luck for your challenge and thanks for setting it up. I am not going to join because I now know I need to do it one day at a time. I the worlds worst for using a challenge as an excuse to set myself up to fail.

Hugs to everyone feeling ill or low or not sleeping x Pen

jo1972

40somethingmum wrote: »

Each day completed will be like opening a virtual door on a bl00dy big advent calender

Is is a choklit one? :EasterBun

I don't know if I should join the challenge, it's really a long time to worry about, plus I'll beat myself up if I don't manage it.....

Also, what is going to happen on xmas eve or xmas day when it finishes :eek:

ETA: thanks for all the tuff and non-tuff love xxxx

brokepaolo

Afternoon Ladies and Gentlemen,

Hurrah! Finally got my money refunded! It took a couple of hours for my account to be swiped to the tune of £540 and a month of me constantly calling and kicking up a fuss before santander finally coughed up and refunded me.

Needless to say I have now emptied the Santander account and put it all into my new Barclays account.

what a nightmare month..

jo1972

cardboard_chewer wrote: »

I can relate to that. I moved house to try and stop drinking. My old flat was in a city centre with bars and shops everywhere, my current house is a 30 minute walk from the nearest pub/off licence. Much to my surprise (at the time!) it didn't work. I'd still walk to the pub even through wind, rain and snow :-( The change had to come from within for me.

I (honestly) would drive 100 miles to the nearest off licence but I doubt I'd drive even 10 to avoid one....

365days

jo1972 wrote: »

Is is a choklit one? :EasterBun

I don't know if I should join the challenge, it's really a long time to worry about, plus I'll beat myself up if I don't manage it.....

Also, what is going to happen on xmas eve or xmas day when it finishes :eek:

ETA: thanks for all the tuff and non-tuff love xxxx

#

Santa will bring your pressies!

One day at a time.

gien

Jo, why don't you join the challenge and then take it one day at a time like normal. Maybe being part of a bigger long term thing will help your subconsious 'I cannot not drink' bit of your brain loosen its grip on your thoughts. From how you've been posting recently it really does sound as if you're totally fed up, and carrying on as your are just isn't an option. IS there anything to take for the physical craving

You'll be in good company and we can all do our best to hang in there together.
I'm very excited by the challenge - offout tonight to a comedy club to see Jo CAulfield so I'm hoping to be laughing too much to want to drink.

See you all later

Marru

Very quiet here. Feeling better but little bit spaced out due to the tablets I took, should have slept longer but didn't have time.

Just to declare 16 please Shaggy

Hope everyone is ok