The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

graemecarter

dundeedoll wrote: »

Everyone (that didn't live with him) thought my dad was the lovliest, gentlest, kindest, funny man.

Quite different to being locked in a wardrobe by your mum because dad wanted to beat the living daylights out of you or seeing him collapsed on the floor, 6" away from the Schnapps bottle he couldn't reach, trousers wet..........laying in a pile of vomit.........not the best childhood memories.

One of the sickest things about alcoholism is that it regularly runs in families. My folks are not alcoholics, but most of my alcoholic friends have at least one parent who is an alcoholic.
And while they swore they would not turn out like their alcoholic parent, they did exactly that. At least they are now in recovery, and trying not to repeat the behaviours and save their children from the actions of their alcoholism.

My children saw me drunk (they used to try and wake me up in the morning) but both were under 4 at the time so I hope they will never have memories of me drinking.
I owe it to myself not to drink today. If my children benefit, then great, but I can only stay sober for me.

My drinking has negatively affected my life and that of my children. I do what I can to make it stop for today.
Many active alcoholics put their relationship with alcohol before their own family. I didn't think I did, but when sober I could see that my relationship with alcohol came before everything. This is a most selfish disease. It brings others down too.

graemecarter

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

Remembering that alcoholism is an incurable,

progressive, fatal disease.

Living Sober Chapter #4.

Progressive for every alcoholic I know, including me.

I used to think it wouldn't get worse, and there were certain lines I wouldn't cross.
It did get worse and I crossed those lines.

40somethingmum

jo1972 wrote: »

Evening all,

Did loads of quotes that got lost..

Was going to welcome the newbie

Was going to hug Marru (((())))

Was going to say summat to Fay but now done it by text :A

Was going to say that I've had enough of this s.hite

Feeling carp but I'll get better, one day

(((Hugs)) Babe

Why don't you join us on the Countdown to Christmas challenge...it starts today..... I promise there will be trees & santas;)

Love
40SMxx

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

Well done Sim, that is quite a powerful statement and shows how not drinking has helped you find your confidence again and want to change, just like 365's coursework! Take one step at a time so not to be overwhelmed. Don't worry about 8 days till until 8 days time turns up



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Well done Caz

Morning to everyone else :wave:

I'm not doing well, not well at all

I think I need to be locked up somewhere to stop me drinking, I don't even want to drink but I do it, I actually say to myself 'I don't want this' and I do it, I do it cos I can.

Today will be an interesting one, I have to stay for a meeting after work and it won't finish until around 9pm. Last week I left that 'do' that I organised after 10pm and even though that's bedtime, did intend to pop in offy and buy a couple, but they were shutting and I didn't want to stop them shutting to buy beer, it's not exactly an emergency like gas or electric or milk :rotfl: (well, for them it's not :undecided). But today will be slightly earlier when shop is open but I will have passed my normal danger time if it'd been a normal night sat indoors. How strong will I be? Most probably, not very....

I'm getting to the point where I'm actually relieved to wake up, then I know that I haven't died in the night.

I'm ready for the tough love treatment now please...

*sits down and waits to be told off*

I drank because I am alcoholic, not because alcohol was available.
I remember drinking when I didn't want to. That was really miserable, and a real sign of my alcoholism.
It's not my fault that I am an alcoholic, however it is my responsibility to do everything I possibly can to work the solution.

My desire to drink did not leave me because I wanted it to go. It did not get better over time, it got worse.
I had to change myself to be free of the craving for alcohol. The desire to drink just didn't go of its own accord. I had to be willing to go to any lengths.

The problem of alcoholism is within me - changing my surroundings, job, routine, lifestyle etc never stopped me drinking. I had to change myself internally.
Thus the problem is within me, as is the solution.
I needed help to get the solution, and for that I needed to put in action.

Good luck Jo, your constant fight versus alcohol seems very tiring and dispiriting.

Lurkio

40somethingmum wrote: »

(((Hugs)) Babe

Why don't you join us on the Countdown to Christmas challenge...it starts today..... I promise there will be trees & santas

Love
40SMxx

not yet, there won't...... :mad:

40somethingmum

Morning all

Well today is the start of the 100 day AF challenge.:j It starts today and ends on Christmas eve:santa2:!!

Takers so far are:
Fay:xmassmile
Gien:xmassmile
MOB:xmassmile
FUAS:xmassmile
40SM:xmassmile

Its never to late to join ... the more the merrier.

I cannot believe how excited I am about this challenge. Each day completed will be like opening a virtual door on a bl00dy big advent calender. And the present inside the door each day will be me looking a lot happier , healthier , wealthier and hopefully thinner.

Each day I successfully complete the challenge I am going to put £1.50 in a jar and then use it to take us all to a panto at Christmas.
I want to make this Christmas a memorable one for the right reasons:)

So if you are all ready ladies..... let the AF festivities begin;)

Good luck everyone

Love

40SM

40somethingmum

Lurkio wrote: »

not yet, there won't...... :mad:

Oh yes, there will !!:rudolf:

cazzasmazza

Morning everyone,

This will be another AFD for me, as I am working tonight. It's a really bizarre feeling actually, absolutely knowing for sure that I won't have a drink today.

Before I had this evening job, I knew I would have "that" conversation with myself at some point every day. I looked for reasons to justify having a drink e.g. I am miserable, the house has gone on the market, I feel tense today, I don't have uni tomorrow so it won't matter if I am hungover, it's Saturday night so I deserve a drink........and so on. We all know the routine!!

Sunday evening will be the next day I can actually have a drink, as I am not doing anything that evening and I will have had an emotional day with my little nephews and in-laws who I haven't seen for about 4 months and I don't have to get up for uni the next day.......... so Sunday evening will be tough. Ideas needed for non-drinking strategies for Sunday evening please!!

Jo - there's no tough love here, just love . We all know the torture we put ourselves through, before and after drinking. I will no doubt be back in, "I shouldn't drink, but I "need" a drink" land on Sunday evening. It doesn't make any of us a bad person or less of a person, we just have to deal with our addiction to alcohol as best we can. When we succumb to it, all we can do is pick ourselves up, seek support and do our best not to drink again. Part of that is trying to reduce the self-loathing that comes with the guilt of having had a drink (I feel like that anyway). We are all here for you to support you and help you and if there is anything I can do to help, let me know. xxxxxxxxx

Hope everyone else is well and in fine fettle today. I am feeling tired, but at least I've had a lie in until 9.15am. I am trying not to feel a bit annoyed because I have had full days at uni this week and worked until midnight at the supermarket and my ex (although she does work full time during the day) has done no cleaning or washing, so some of my study day is going to have to be spent cleaning/washing, in case we get viewings. And I have uni work to do and work tonight. She was in all last night and did nothing - she even commented that we must be storing up toilet roll tubes in the bathroom, as they are in a line on the shelf, LOL - but she still hasn't moved them to the recycling bin! Lazy moo. (Yes I have done that now by the way). Gonna have to talk to her, but I don't want a row.

Anyway, got loads to do.

Love to all. Good luck for an AFD.

Caz
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Lurkio

40somethingmum wrote: »

Oh yes, there will !!:rudolf:

and you aint getting me in to panto season yet, either........

40somethingmum

Lurkio wrote: »

and you aint getting me in to panto season yet, either........

I'm behind you !!:rotfl::rotfl: