The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

honeybear_2

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

And just like that I feel a bit better

Always pleased to help!:D

:hello:Hello HB![/QUOTE]

This prob looks really confusing now but I deleted my first post cos I made a bit of a mess of it!

Hello

honeybear_2

jo1972 wrote: »

IMookie, you have no idea how delicious this is, I think we've spoken about this pork every weekend for the last 3 months :rotfl:

And don't we all know it?!

jo1972 wrote: »

Been there, done that and understand it completely. Get it out of your system HB, big big hugs (((()))) xxxx

Thanks, babe. Will reply to you about other stuff soon, promise

Miss_Piggy_2

Ooh just thought it was me being a bit psychic.....quoting you before you said it yourself IYKWIM !:D

Marru

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Evening all

((hugs)) Marru. It must be very difficult. Hope you and ex can work things out. What did he do to cause you to be so angry? (sorry, that sounds really nosey!!)

Combination of things really. Too long story to go into detail. It is like Chinese water torture but with words. No drop isolated is big deal but when you put it together it is sheer torture. So the end result is that he can turn around innocently asking me to point out exactly what he has said or done and obviously I can't and then I go away thinking that I am blowing everything out of proportions which is exactly how he wants me to think. AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHH. I don't EVER, EVER, EVER want to see him again. NEVER!!!!!

mookiepook

Thanks Jo - it just so happens it was a shoulder of pork that I bought today. Can't wait to try that tomorrow - will report back. (Oops sorry Miss P.) Well I'm up to Page 7 of this thread now - I'll get there in the end!

Miss_Piggy_2

Marru wrote: »

Combination of things really. Too long story to go into detail. It is like Chinese water torture but with words. No drop isolated is big deal but when you put it together it is sheer torture. So the end result is that he can turn around innocently asking me to point out exactly what he has said or done and obviously I can't and then I go away thinking that I am blowing everything out of proportions which is exactly how he wants me to think. AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHH. I don't EVER, EVER, EVER want to see him again. NEVER!!!!!

Oh, I know that feeling. Only I get it from in-laws and step children!:D
Am yet to work out the answer. Have tried spending a morning crying over it . Doesn't help. Tried shouting and screaming. Doesn't help. Ultimately I think YOU have to become the bigger person. Have managed it with in-laws......still making a hash of it with step-kids.

Maybe mentally prepare yourself for interactions with him....smile and just agree. In front of your daughter YOU need to be seen to be ok? Sorry, trite words in a very difficult situation. Lots of ((hugs)). Hope you and DD are ok tonight.

Miss P
xx

Miss_Piggy_2

Piglet just sat through the whole of Wallace and Gromit - Curse of the Were-Rabbit without moving a muscle or saying a word....completely rapt!

So....have just gone onto Amazon and order DVD of three episodes for £3.97!!! Peaceful days ahead methinks....:D

honeybear_2

Wasn't going to bother eating properly this evening but after the brief exchange on here I have cooked some pasta with a nice veggie sauce & made a salad

Muchos gracias, Miss P :A

dundeedoll_2

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Originally Posted by dundeedoll
As I always say, this thread has helped me enormously, but it's a bit quiet at times, so I sneak over to the 'alcohol' thread and that also helps. Different substance but still about beating an addiction. Although I very rarely drink, I can relate to it as I grew up with an alcoholic father and to this day it affects my life - he died years ago.

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Originally Posted by jo1972
You must 'sneak' over there and post sometime, we'd love to chat with you xx

Well, here I am.........as invited by Jo on the quit smoking thread - see above

I have a friend coming for dinner on Friday and he is the sort of chap that loves his grub SO I have bought a piece of pork to do the now famous recipe.

As I said above, I don't really drink but come on this thread quite a bit and have in the last month got to 'know' some of the regular posters.
Just the mere fact that people are posting on here is a huge step in the direction they are aiming for, even if 'the bells' do ring too loudly some days!
There are sooo many people on here who really are doing brilliantly and I couldn't begin to mention them all BUT I would like to say a HUGE WELL DONE to Sim
You really really do sound as if you ARE on the up! You seemed to be in a particularly bad place when I started reading the thread and I have seen such an enourmous difference. Keep going.........even when difficulties bombard you.........just keep thinking how much better you are actually feeling. Also try and remember you are NOT giving up drinking/alcohol........you ARE giving up drinking yourself into oblivion.......being at it's total mercy.........giving up the awful way it makes you feel..........the horrendous hangovers...........alienating yourself from others...........spending money you don't have but will do ANYTHING to make sure you get it..........harming yourself mentally and physically every day............that is what you are giving up..............and just look what you are gaining! (Graeme's posts really do hit home)

Sorry for the long ramble, hope you don't mind it from someone who doesn't actually have an alcohol problem (but see above about my father) but just felt I wanted to let you know how proud I have been of you this last month.

DD x

mollypolly

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Ooh just thought it was me being a bit psychic.....quoting you before you said it yourself IYKWIM !:D

I thought I was going mad:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: