The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread Part 8!

maman

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

:(My step-son has just removed my brother as his friend on facebook:(.(its where I spotted him.....). I feel awful. I have so had it up to HERE with bloody families. I just want to cry.

Poor you, but do as you said, concentrate on OH, Piglet and YOURSELF!!!!:A

You did make me smile, I read it that you were going to go and make the chocolate cake at your mum's house!!

SimIsOnTheUp

Good Morning Ladies and Gents!

Have a cracking day all.

I need to get a move on and finish my housework.

My alcohol support worker is coming over at 11.30am and I don't want to look like a slob!

SSG - Huge hugs to you. Hope you're alright. Chuck the vodka down the sink, and try and be kind to yourself xx

Sim xx

gien

I'm with Maman, concentrate on those with whom you share a marriage vow or genes. They are the important ones, the others can play their games.

365days

Miss P. I think facebook can be a hurtful place at times if you let it.. I remember getting upset when someone deleted me as their friend. People can be stupid. Remember the saying...
[FONT=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. [/FONT]

Interesting reading of peoples thoughts about bells, temptations and cravings.

For about a year I was on here as a cutter downer. I felt like I was depriving myself of something. I also knew I had a drink problem. The day I decided that I didnt WANT to drink anymore was a good day. The 'shall I shan't I?' disappears because the decision has been made. It took a while to get to that point, maybe some on here don't want to stop completely. That is fair enough. But beating yourself up about having a drink when you were supposed to have an AF day must be torture. Maybe consider whether totally giving up may be the way forward. I'm no expert by the way. Just what worked for me.

I'm 10 months sober. Something I read in a book rings so true now. 'You don't know how sick you were until you are well'

Now if I could just translate that philosophy onto the fags I'd be laughing!!


Off for physio on my shoulder in a minute or two. Shame my shoulder is sunburnt....gonna be painful!

365days

Just had to add- Sim you sound very chipper at the moment. Excellent to see.

Miss_Piggy_2

maman wrote: »

Poor you, but do as you said, concentrate on OH, Piglet and YOURSELF!!!!:A

You did make me smile, I read it that you were going to go and make the chocolate cake at your mum's house!!

Maman, thank you. I know I take things too personally. From today I'm going to concentrate on the three of us.

Ooh the choc cake at Mums house is SUCH a good idea! Am here now, using her electric, computer, tele and heating I DID remember to feed the birds in the garden though!:rotfl:

Thank-you for listening to my ramblings and not telling me to belt up!:)

Miss P
xx

Miss_Piggy_2

gien wrote: »

I'm with Maman, concentrate on those with whom you share a marriage vow or genes. They are the important ones, the others can play their games.

Thats brilliant. I'm going to go by that I think. OH and Piglet are my family. THEY are the ones suffering by this (Piglet keeps asking me if I'm ok today) so its got to stop.

Thank you

Miss P
xx

365days

I love my chiropractor. After a few nauseating clicks of various joints I'm feeling like a new woman!

brokepaolo

Afternoon folks,

I've been away from here for a while so I thought I'd pop in.

the last month or so has been quite tumultuous to say the least. After failing miserably to keep in line with the DMP I'd originally set up with the CCCS, reason being the £450 per month they wanted was far beyond my budgeting abilities, I sought advice elsewhere and eventually landed at Payplan's door who have set up a far more manageable plan which costs me £140 per month. sure, it'll take much longer to clear my debts but I was never ever going to manage to keep up the other DMP.

I decided I needed to move out of my current house, I don't like sharing with people anymore, I barely speak to them anyway because I'm always so stressed about either money or work so i just shut myself in my room and wait for them to leave the kitchen before going there to cook my own dinner. That's a ridiculous state of affairs so I'm just going to find a place of my own where the only person to talk to will be me! I've always wanted a place of my own and seeing as I'm now working part time as well as my full time job, for once I can actually afford it. It shouldn't be too difficult to find somewhere, it's just a case of finding somewhere that feels right and isn't way beyond my means.

I've seen a couple of places already, one of which I actually said I'd take and offered to pay a holding deposit on, or at least I thought that's what I was going to do until when I checked my bank balance before withdrawing the cash, I found out my account had had £700 taken from it and I was left with nothing.

After spending hours on the phone to my bank, I found out that it was two of my creditors that had taken the money from my account, even though I'd long since cancelled the cards upon which these creditors' loans were originally agreed. I racked my brains as to how this could have happened until I remembered that a month ago, I'd rung one of the creditors' debt collection agencies to whom they'd passed on my debt, to make a token payment of £10. I made that payment over the phone with my new debit card, D'OH!

they must have immediately passed the details back to my original creditor who in turn passed it on to another creditor of mine and what do you know? the following payday, £700 in individual transactions of £20 all went from my account between 2am and 6am!

I'm currently trying to reclaim the money from my bank because the day before my august payday, as a matter of precaution, I asked my bank to cancel my card so as to avoid any payments leaving my account overnight. I just had a hunch that something might happen after having read that it had happened to other people. I thought that would be it, but the money still left my account. my bank's explanation is that the transactions had been pre-authorised 3 days prior to me cancelling my card and the money had already been earmarked to go to these accounts on the day I got paid.

I can't believe that, it's ridiculous. what if I'd wanted to 'pre-authorise' some money for myself 3 days before payday so i could go on holiday or something? they wouldn't have allowed that, oh no, not to me. how dare I expect money from my own salary before I receive it, that sort of thing is only rserved for other people!

needless to say, this has all been very stressful and it's still not over, I have to call my bank again today because in order to claim the money back they need me to sign a form that they say they posted to me on the26th of august. I still haven't received that form.

I'm £700 down, my rent is due next tuesday, I have no money to use as a holding deposit for whichever place I move into and on the 20th of September, I will be homeless if I don;t find somewhere soon.

eek!

having said that, I'm surprised that I had the presence of mind to stay AF since monday and the weeks preceding this I've been AF on tuesdays and thursdays for at least a month because I've been working.

sorry for the uberlong post, hope everyone's well!

Pippilongstocking

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

Thats brilliant. I'm going to go by that I think. OH and Piglet are my family. THEY are the ones suffering by this (Piglet keeps asking me if I'm ok today) so its got to stop.

Thank you

Miss P
xx

I've been thinking about this one alot - its hard, but I think that hit it on the head.

I find it hard, which sounds a bit ironic, but my kids still have their dad's name, and for them - I'm happy - but it makes for a muddled household and I do feel sad that we don't share the same name so for school things etc I'm often known by my former married name.

However, with OH and I getting married - he's going to grab a bit of my name - we've nearly all (me kids and OH) gone for a melting pot of all three names chopped together - but I know their dad would be upset - so whilst my kids don't have my name, when we get married OH will have half my name half his - and the kids will just stay the same - we've talked about it and they say as long as I don't mind, they'd rather stay as they are.

How can I mind, like Lurks said, they're kids - as much as they push the boundaries etc - they are only kids.

(()) miss P - you try the hardest of any step parent I know!