Polesalot's Climb to Debt Freedom

vasseur

pixiechick99 wrote: »

Oooh I remember trying to get girls stuff wrapped while they didn't know what was going on - and the palaver of bringing it all downstairs on Xmas Eve to leave out for them...stressful! They were never early sleepers, especially eldest...I used to be exhausted, wanting to go to bed but she was still awake so I couldn't bring it down!! At least now they know it's me so I just say stay upstairs, pressies are out;);) But I do miss the magic of Santa coming, leaving the reindeer drink and carrot etc...aaah:)

It's weird...I'm not sure if she still believes or not :think: I think she almost doesn't believe but then thinks that if she says she doesn't then he won't come and she can't risk that! She's been really excited today saying, 'it's 6 days till Santa comes' :j It's lovely though. We do put the carrot and drink out still.

vasseur

All DD's presents are wrapped now and are safely back hidden in my bedroom . It probably wasn't the best idea to hoover earlier as there is now lots of 'bits' all over the carpet, sellotape, wrapping paper and carp from packing boxes

I'm just waiting for one more present to be delivered - a DVD for my dad - I've got it down to be delivered here rather than work as I figure that gives it an extra day's chance to arrive.

I'm sitting here drinking ginger wine. It's lovely. Medicinal purposes only - helping my throat which is feeling a bit sore from all the last week's coughing..... :whistle:

vasseur

I got some maintenance today :j. Fantastic and it looks like the shortfall from last month has been made up too :T. Or maybe it's a xmas bonus ?? :rotfl:

My bank account is looking very healthy at the moment. All food, petrol, holiday, debt and emergency money has been taken care of so whatever is in my account will be mine to play around with

£4.80 on OnePoll

£1.21 PAD to Barclaycard

It is a lovely day here today so maybe my run won't be quite harrowing.

Lula-Hula

Hiya poles,

all looking good at yours right now, mmmmm to Ginger Wine, not had that for years.

My Dd is aware that I do the gift buying, but insists that she still believes ( too scared as to what might happen if she admits knowing the truth ). I therefore insist that we should leave a glass of Bailey out for the Big Man .

Happy running
x

vasseur

I've been thinking a lot about New Year's Resolutions :shhh: recently and one that I had in mind was starting a Present Stash Box. Well, thanks to the Grabbit Board I have now got 9 presents to put in it already :T. I got just under £60 worth of stuff for £23 delivered from Lloyds Pharmacy in their Buy 1 get 2 free promo

And, thanks to benbenandme (via the grabbit board) I've just ordered 6 gift bags (4 are extra large) from matalan for £2.74 with free delivery too :T.

Get me

I will be back later with my NYR list because there's a lot of things swimming around in my head at the moment and it will be a good idea to get them written down (not to mention a bit of a laugh to read back in a year's time :rotfl:).

vasseur

Despite all my witterings on here last night I was actually brooding a lot about WLM. I'd seen a photo of him earlier on fb (he was in a picture with a mutual friend who was actually visiting my sister last night - we're all friends). Anyway despite the fact that he looked really old and grey (he's actually a couple of years younger than me) I just felt really miffed that he was out enjoying himself. I didn't expect him to be all upset over me (after all I'm not and he was the one who ended it) but I just felt annoyed that he was out having a good time. Silly really.

Anyway this evening DD and I had to pop to the supermarket and while we were in there we bumped into mutual friend's husband. It's the first time I've seen him since the split. I was still in work clothes so looked very smart and together. Anyway he mentioned that mutual friend is really cross with WLM because of how he's treated me (think my sis and her were discussing it all last night) and she's fed up with him using her every time things are going bad for him. I don't know why but this made me feel quite happy. I think I had an idea before that they were all in cahoots about my split and I kind of felt that they were against me even though they weren't - they are really lovely people. I made sure to mention how OK I was and that work was going really well and I'd just got a payrise and a bonus with any luck some of this will filter back to WLM

Don't know why I've just said all that. I think I always feel better after typing it all out

vasseur

Dare I write down my New Year's Resolutions ???????

• Keep good track of finances (goes without saying)
• Open a bank account for DD
• Save for holiday (started already)
• Start present stash (started today)
• Get back into pole classes (booked already)
• Keep PADding the blasted barclaycard
• Sort out low self-esteem

That will do for now. It doesn't really look like I'm starting anything new, just continuing with stuff I'm doing already Apart from the low self-esteem which ironically is actually high self-esteem when I'm single :huh:

I will have a sleep on it and see if I can come up with stuff that's a bit more demanding. I need some challenges

A ginger wine and a box of matchmakers should help the thought process..

Mags30

polesalot wrote: »

My bank account is looking very healthy at the moment. All food, petrol, holiday, debt and emergency money has been taken care of so whatever is in my account will be mine to play around with

That's great, nothing worse than money worries at Christmas time.

polesalot wrote: »

Apart from the low self-esteem which ironically is actually high self-esteem when I'm single :huh:


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You know how some people say they couldn't have done it (various achievements) without the support of their partner.....I wish I was one of those people but like you I seem to manage better on my own.

ZTD

polesalot wrote: »

Despite all my witterings on here last night I was actually brooding a lot about WLM. I'd seen a photo of him earlier on fb (he was in a picture with a mutual friend who was actually visiting my sister last night - we're all friends). Anyway despite the fact that he looked really old and grey (he's actually a couple of years younger than me) I just felt really miffed that he was out enjoying himself.

polesalot wrote: »

with any luck some of this will filter back to WLM

Don't know why I've just said all that. I think I always feel better after typing it all out

Let him go. You don't need him to know how well or otherwise you are doing, and likewise you don't need to know his doings.

He is the past - the past is dead - the future is where it is at.

Mags30 wrote: »

You know how some people say they couldn't have done it (various achievements) without the support of their partner.....I wish I was one of those people but like you I seem to manage better on my own.

It depends on the partners. Some view their relationship as a zero-sum game. If the other does well, it automatically means they're suffering. Other's view it as a multiplyer. If the other is doing well, it means the partnership is enhanced, which means they are doing well which enhances the partnership, which means the other does well, which enhances...

You get the idea.

vasseur

ZTD wrote: »

Let him go. You don't need him to know how well or otherwise you are doing, and likewise you don't need to know his doings. I know this deep down. I think I was cross with myself for having a down moment

He is the past - the past is dead - the future is where it is at.
This is so true and one of the reasons I like being single is because I have no idea what the future holds


It depends on the partners. Some view their relationship as a zero-sum game. If the other does well, it automatically means they're suffering. Other's view it as a multiplyer. If the other is doing well, it means the partnership is enhanced, which means they are doing well which enhances the partnership, which means the other does well, which enhances...Complicated stuff :eek:

You get the idea.

Some very good points. Thanks for reading and thanks also for the vitual kick up the backside