invited to wedding and evening do?

tamarto

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

go ahead start i dont mind ( my grammer is awful and i'm sorry for that one)

why wouldn't i mean that as i've said the whole way through the wedding TO ME is the important part of the day not the party afterwards.

x

So you think someone is rude if they choose not to see you get married then occupy themselves for a few hours in a random place in December? Why are you bothering with a meal and afters if you feel that strongly?

JimmyTheWig

Alternatively, how important is the sit-down meal at all?
You could get married at, say, 2pm then have everyone to a buffet tea...

Dizzie77

I said this on a previous thread - but I was invited to a work colleagues' wedding 2 years ago - he only invited us all to the evening do, which we
appreciated (very expensive hotel!!) but a couple of us asked if we could go along to the church too - which was welcomed by the bride and groom - after the service, we went away again (after taking some photos, obviously!) and then got ready for the evening do and went to the posh hotel, armed with a couple of prints of photos taken earlier on in the day for the happy couple..!

I ASKED if I could go to the church, as, to me, the wedding ceremony is the most important part, and I wanted my colleague to have some more friendly faces around as he said his vows. I wasn't offended that I wasn't invited to the wedding breakfast - it was extremely expensive!! But I was pleased to be invited to the evening reception.

Valli

many many years ago I was invited to a wedding ceremony (in a town centre church on a saturday so lots of onlookers;)) and then the evening do. Some other friends(admittedly closer to the bride and groom) had all-day invites.
A few comments were made about a-list and b-list guests - by the people invited to the whole thing (ie they perceived themselves as a-list guests).
AND we weren't even thanked for our gift...

Choosing to go to the church is one thing.

lolly1981

id say send out the evening invite with a note saying they are welcome to come to the church if they wanted to.

we had a similar problem last year (we were going to have the big hotel sit down meal jobby) we didnt have enough money for as many day guests. we fortunatly cancelled taht wedding ( it wasnt us) we are now having a later (2.30pm) service and then heading to the reception for an early evening BBQ.

we can have about 200 ppl in the church and the garden we're having the BBQ is hugge....we now have about 80 - 100 guests

phil12345_2

I don't really want to get drawn in to the debate, just to add that we did what you will be doing: church wedding, family reception, big evening party. A lot of the people who missed the evening stayed together and commented afterwards how good it was to catch up with friends etc, and nobody complained!

It is, after all, a privilege to be invited to a wedding at all!

hayleythedaisy

Ellay - just wanted to say thank you. I was starting to think that I had lost the plot and maybe I was a complete cow!!!

xx

ellay864

You're welcome Hayley....race yer to the swings before Tamarto gets there :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

hayleythedaisy

lol... now now, we must all be very sensible and up tight, after all... this isn't a playground you know!!!!!!!!!

Besides, I wouldn't want anyone to think I was being ruuuuuuuuuude.

;-P