Please help! toddler with really bad hitting problem

Loopy_Girl

mrcow wrote: »

:rotfl: if it wasn't so :eek:


Oh my goodness!

Have you seriously any clue what you are talking about?

You are saying that not only do you now want the OP to waste a GP's time, but now you also want them to be "referred" - wasting even more time of further medical professionals and associated support/administration staff?

This is a one year old child who is doing what every other one year old child does. Pushing boundaries. A bit of common sense and putting your foot down will more than likely resolve it.

You know......common sense?.......that thing that all of us are supposedly born with, but which some seem to never think to apply?

And if it 'more than likely' doesn't happen, then what?

Am assuming you are just ignoring that the Mum is completely at the end of her tether and it now transpires that she is a young Mum.

I do agree that what is needed is a some rules put down and firmness but the OP clearly isn't coping very well...which is probs why they have those parenting courses (and specific ones for young Mum's) which could help enourmously.

Please don't feel you have the right to ridiclule or ask what I am talking about...like many others on here I give my thoughts as a parent.

I know what I would do in this situation (although I wouldn't find myself in this situation...same with the many 'sleep problem' threads that are on here) although it doesn't appear as easy/obvious to the OP.

Loopy_Girl

mrcow wrote: »

This is a one year old child who is doing what every other one year old child does.

Really? My daughter never ever ever did anything like that. And I know plenty of kids that age who don't?

Bit of a huge assumption there. I would never have stood for it.

Chakani

Loopy, virtually every one year old tries it, mine did, I didn't stand for it and it didn't last long, but that didn't mean it didn't happen. He also has tantrums. I don't entertain them either, and they don't get him what he wants, but it doesn't mean he didn't try them.

The only difference between my situation and OPs is that I already had the techniques to deal with it, because I had dealt with it before. She hasn't dealt with it before, so is learning new techniques to do so now.

Loopy_Girl

Chakani wrote: »

Loopy, virtually every one year old tries it, mine did,

And as I said....mine didn't.

the_cat

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

And as I said....mine didn't.

Surely if you have never experienced the problem, your knowledge of how to deal with it is errrrrrr...
limited:rotfl::rotfl:

Chakani

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

And as I said....mine didn't.

You're very fortunate that she didn't. All I was trying to point out is that it's very common, and it doesn't make anyone a bad or incompetent parent if their child does try it on.

I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, but the 'my child didn't do it, I wouldn't have stood for it' comment came across that you were suggesting that only rubbish parents' children did. I didn't think that was a helpful suggestion to the OP, which is why I pointed it out.

mrcow

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

And if it 'more than likely' doesn't happen, then what?

Then you have a change of plan.

Are you doing this on purpose? I'm finding it really hard to believe that you're actually backing what you're writing.

mrcow

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Really? My daughter never ever ever did anything like that. And I know plenty of kids that age who don't?

Bit of a huge assumption there. I would never have stood for it.

Your child never, ever, ever once ever tried to push their boundaries? Ever? Never tried to touch something they shouldn't? Screamed when they couldn't get what they wanted? Got jealous or possessive over another child? Didn't do as they were told first time?

Now THAT'S a child I would be taking to a GP!



PS. If you're going to quote me, do it in context, you've missed the next bit that I typed off. Very misleading.

Savvy_Sue

The GP isn't going to be able to do much, I agree, but it MAY be worth talking to the HV. There may be parenting classes available, which may help: they certainly left me feeling better because everyone else had even more problems than I did (and they probably felt the same about me!)