Please help! toddler with really bad hitting problem

thorsoak

paddy's_mum wrote: »

.... I do believe that there is a substantial grain of truth in the opinion expressed to me many years ago by my health visitor ...

there comes a time when the only way forward is the Hand of Knowledge applied to the Seat of Learning.

Oh yes ....applied psychology :cool:

thorsoak

paddy's_mum wrote: »

.......... I do believe that there is a substantial grain of truth in the opinion expressed to me many years ago by my health visitor ...

there comes a time when the only way forward is the Hand of Knowledge applied to the Seat of Learning.

Oh yes .....applied psychology:cool::rotfl:

amiya

ellay864 wrote: »

The fact that you've said you told her many times not do it or we're coming home suggests you didn't actually take her home! Like all the other posters have said, you MUST have a real 'threat' that you'r prepared to carry out.

sorry I meant before I took her out I stood her on the sofa and explained to her many times to make sure she understood

amiya

shays_mum wrote: »

Ok i am sure i am going to be shouted down, but a short slap on their little bottoms or hands wouldn't go amiss.:o
You can't reason with a child that young, its in one ear & out the other, they need to know if they do this, they will get the same back!.
Its only a matter of time before they will be in the school system & other people will not tolerate their kids being hurt for whatever reason, best to stop it in its tracks now!

LOL ok I missed this part out on purpose I exhausted the giving a smack on the hand route. tried it a few times and she just became more defiant (i swear thats what teenagers are like and not 2 yr olds) and it felt abit weird smacking her hand and saying 'dont smack/hit'
And the weird thing is not a single kid hits her back ever even the much older ones.

But i'm definitely going to try the whole picking her up and taking her out the room or in the corner because she's the type that cant stay still for a second and sitting around will make her go nuts

meritaten

you cannot reason with some two year olds - so a sharp NO! and taking her away from the situation should be the first step. if you can - grab her hand before she strikes someone and say NO very forcefully in her face. if she has already hit or hurt someone then remove her and dont let her back! not for HER benefit but for yours! there is nothing more annoying to other parents than a parent who lets their child terrorise others. its best to remove yourselves - say - god she is being such a monster I am taking her home so your kids can play in peace! honesty like this can actually get parents on your side - where you need them! they are more inclined to help then!

sassy_one

Your GP would be a good place to start

Go speak to him/her

They will advise the best course of action

Good luck and hope all is sorted speedy

Loopy_Girl

amiya wrote: »

sorry I meant before I took her out I stood her on the sofa and explained to her many times to make sure she understood

So when she does it anyway, do you implement any kind of punishement? Like no CBeebies for the day? (which I realise is really a punishment on you!!)

Have to say that I couldn't stand these kind of kids when my daughter was little. I know what you are getting at when you say she 'sizes them up', there was a brat at my daughter's nursery when she was little like that...of course time passed and I picked her up one day and she had a huge scratch on her face. I was livid and I'm afraid to say I blamed the parents:o

Are you still in touch with your Health Visitor? She may be able to refer you to somebody and also suggest ways of dealing with it when she does it.

If it was me and I was going out then I would make it clear that the behaviour wasn't tolerated, point out it wasn't nice and say that we would come home immediately if it was done. Don't go on about it for hours (in all fairness she has probably heard it a million times from you by now!) and then go out. If she does it, I agree with others, just pick her up and then as calmly as you can say you are going home as you hit that wee girl and you said you weren't going to. And then leave it at that. Go home and get on with normal stuff. No scene, no drama - she will soon tire of this if it is an attention thing. And if you get home then you could say no CBeebies or whatever until X o clock as you were naughty at the part/sisters etc. Again, all calm (even though I know you will be fuming inside!!)

But I would say that you have to get this sorted as it can't go on and one of these days then someone will do the same back and they may be bigger and older. Also you HAVE to make sure that your new baby will be safe

And next time Dad voices his 'concerns' just politely and firmly tell him that you are their Mother;)

Loopy_Girl

meritaten wrote: »

there is nothing more annoying to other parents than a parent who lets their child terrorise

Totally agree with that...it's one of my bug bears particularly if they don't acknowledge it either and just try to laugh it off "Oh Timmy's being a little devil today" *tinkle laughter*:mad:

Loopy_Girl

OP can I ask how old you are and if you have the support of a partner?

amiya

I'm 22 (I know I'm stupid at this parenting stuff) and yeah my husband helps as much as possible but these situations arise when he's at work. other than this one problem she's really good, eats and sleeps well, very affectionate, even started potty training recently. she's the type of kid who's very high spirited and can't sit still, and I feel so ashamed when she hits others trust me I really don't try laughing it off or ignoring it